all screwed up messed up inside

[Guest]

hi i feel totally washed up at 22. I live in a really depressed area jobwise... I

live with my folks only because I can only find seasonal positions and ....

I have a really crazy relationship with my parents......

My mom is one of those loud woman with the pussywhipped husband who hides from her alot.... if he doesn't do exactly what she wants she screams at him and tell him she'll leave him and take my brother with her... she calls him weak and stupid and he goes off to himself and cries.

she does the same thing to me.

I haven't left because every time try to she goes into a scary tirade and i am afraid to leave..

i feel like a stupid spineless bitch

I have people I could tell, there is one lady i talk to alot.... she is a really strong lady and we talk about all sorts of stuff.... My mom thinks i'm replacing her with this lady which isn't true and quizzes me on everything she says to me... i can't even say hi to the neighbors....

i am afraid if i told her my mom would ywell at her and say a bunch of untrue stuff to her and then i wouldn't have her in my life anymore either.

if have to hide my friennds from her or she goes crazy... I asked her why she does this and she says that she's afraid i am gonna move out and never talk to her again... i guess her mom was like my dad and she never talked to my gramma .(by the way, i like my dad, but i wish he woul;d stand up for himself...)

I WOULD LEAVE,But i need stable income, I wanna move out of state and go to college... i almost went july 4rth but my car broke and had to use most of my money to go out of state.....

i am thinking of going to achurch or counseling of some sort.... i need help

[ConfusedGal]

Get a therapist. Save some money and LEAVE... She wont change. She also sounds like she has Borderlin PErsonality disorder. I wish I had left way back. Now I am 27, married, and stuck living near my crazy mom who sux the energy right out of me. GOOOO as far as you can!!!

[a4a]

Get a therapist. Save some money and LEAVE... She wont change. She also sounds like she has Borderlin PErsonality disorder. I wish I had left way back. Now I am 27, married, and stuck living near my crazy mom who sux the energy right out of me. GOOOO as far as you can!!!

 

What she said and do it without one bit of guilt.... you may want to plan ahead to help your brother the hell out of there in the near future as well.

 

Good chance your father may bail on her soon after...

 

What is your fathers response to you wanting to leave perhaps he could help out with first and last months rent on a place to expedite your move to sanity

[prfrogkisser]

Good Morning:

 

Sounds like you are caught up in a very bad situation. Sometimes we love our parents so much we are caught in a situation like this without knowing what to do. Your family's behavior is toxic and its destroying your well being. There are a lot of people like you out there that often need to get away from family members who are emotionally draining.This is not healthy.I recommend you try to go to church to get counseling or just try to get involved in other activities away from home. Try to see if you can volunteer at church or a hospital. You need to keep positive and try to do your best no matter how tough your situation is. Dont let this get you down. It can be solved.

[Guest]

[What is your fathers response to you wanting to leave perhaps he could help out with first and last months rent on a place to expedite your move to sanity

 

he doesn't say too much on the subject.... ... HE'S 60 and his job is being outsourced to mexico,

he's getting a nice sized severence check , so cross your fingers and pray...

 

my brother doesn't take any crap from my mother or anybody else.... he is thinking of moving in with his girlfriend and best friend ray... he spends most of his time over there now or he is at work....