--- Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 i posted this in the friends and lovers section and left it there for a while... after 50 or so views and no posts, it got shafted to the second page. So i thought i'd try my luck in this place...i know its a bit to read, but i just want other people's opinions of my situation.... alright, heres the story... i started liking this girl a while back, we were pretty good friends and we hung out a bit, we also have a class together. I started sorta flirting with her and trying to get closer to her a little more... I thought that she started to feel the same way about me because all the signs seemed to be there. So i decided to tell her how i felt about her... i was wrong... she said that she couldn't trust herself completely yet, (from her previous relationship which ended a while ago) and that she didn't want our friendship to be affected by this. fair enough... i left and tried not to think about it, and left it at that, i told myself not to try to 'convince' her to like me because i don't want to have to do that... That night we were talking online and she asked if i wanted to talk about what happened earlier in the day. She said she was sorry if she lead me on at anytime and that she didn't want our friendship to be ruined. After that she said she was worried about me because she knew that she hurt me. I told her that she did a little but it was expected and im over it... after that we started talking about other things... A few days later i get a message from her asking me if i was going to this party that was on that week and that she wanted to catch up because she had lots to tell me. so at the party we see each other, say hi, and make small talk for a bit. Then i go out the front to talk to a few people and when i come back she comes up to me and asks me if i got her call. I look at my phone and see that she called me. I asked her about it, and she just said she was wondering where i was. After that we go jump on the trampoline for a bit and then i decide to lie down on it. She lies down as well and we start talking for a while skip forward a few days and i have a few people at my house during the day to just hang out and play games, while i sit in another room doing my homework... She comes as well but she comes later than everyone else because she had a few things to do beforehand. She comes in, says hi to me, and goes says hi to everyone else, after a while she comes to me with some lollies and offers me some and sits down with me and we talk for a bit and catch up. After we go down to the beach to take some photos for a class, and then she comes back to my place and stays for a few hours. Then a few days later we go back to school. (this is where i start to think she's changed her mind...) we've started talking a lot more and hanging out a lot more too, during lunch, she always comes up to me and we hang out... (i know that seems like nothing much, but i can't really explain it, its one of those things you have to see to understand properly...) she's been sending me messages asking me how im going and stuff like that... a few nights ago, we "sang" 'sweet dreams' by eurythmics through messages. she came up to me today and i saw that she had her hair, coloured and straghtened.. so i go and point out the obvious and say, "you got your haiir done." and she says, "yeah, you like it?" i say "yeah, it looks good on you" then she asks me where im going to study, i tell her in the library, and she asks if i'd rather go into her class to study instead because it'll be less crowded. So i go and study with her for a while and we're both in there alone and she's trying to teach my how to do something, and all im thinking is why she asked me to come in here instead of just going in the library... A few of my friends noticed that we've been getting 'closer' lately and asked me if anything was happening between the two of us, i say no, because nothing is... but im starting to think that something might happen soon, but i don't want to say anything in case im reading this wrong again. But then again, she could be waiting for me to make another move so she can tell me how she feels about me... Link to post Share on other sites
Poboy Posted August 2, 2006 Share Posted August 2, 2006 realistically speaking , you can never be sure what she is feeling about you . Women can send confusing signals unknowingly and men many times interpret them wrongly . If she has rejected you once , it can be that she is just too friendly types ... wants to hang with you , spend a good time but thats it ... nothing more than that. Bottomline, if you have strong feelings for her , let her know again cause you are neither here not there. Even you have to move on if she doesnt have a thing for you. you can remain friends if both of you want to and would be able to ... simply ask her again but be prepared cause she might distance herself thistime... if its worth the risk , go ahead otherwise , remain good friends good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Rikka Posted August 3, 2006 Share Posted August 3, 2006 Sounds like she liked the attention from you. You deserve a straight up answer from her. She isn't acting like you two are "just friends" yet she doesn't want a relationship. That is not fair to you. I suggest talking to her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author --- Posted August 3, 2006 Author Share Posted August 3, 2006 yeah, but i wouldn't know how to bring it up. Things haven't really changed lately, its still pretty much the same as it was, and i still don't know if she likes me or not... but i think im leaning more towards her liking me....but then again, i can't be completely sure unless i get it from her. we've got this school formal on soon. (kinda like the senior prom for those in the US) i'll go for it again then... Link to post Share on other sites
superconductor Posted August 3, 2006 Share Posted August 3, 2006 Dude, you're dancing dangerously close to the precarious edge of the friend zone. And once there, you're sunk. There's no way out. Be direct. Be clear. Be confident. Kiss her. Not one of those open-mouthed, soak-her-entire-face kisses, just something gentle, on the lips. If she responds - and I think she will - then great. But if she pushes you away, and says something like, "Let's just be friends," then you're done. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author --- Posted August 5, 2006 Author Share Posted August 5, 2006 Things are still as they were between us...but not as much, mainly becuase she's been working lots to hand in a few assignments. Yesterday she said that she would come and hang out with me during lunch after she did a little work...she didn't come out...but at the end of lunch she was waiting for me at my locker and she said sorry for not making it out, and we talked for a while, then we went to class. The formal is tonight... I've been thinking long and hard about this and i've finally come up with an answer. I'm going to risk it again. I'll do what SC said with the gentle kiss on the lips. Hopefully i don't get pushed back and make an ass of myself. hopefully i don't chicken out at the last minute... Link to post Share on other sites
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