caring guy Posted August 3, 2006 Share Posted August 3, 2006 Hi I met a girl online in January, we talked via msn for a couple of months, it even got flirty & cybersex. She is in Barcelona & i'm in England. We then started talking on the phone & then after 4 months, i visited her for a week. It was as though we had known each other ages & were intimate & i always try & make things cool, & avoid all that tension when 2 people first meet & lighten up the atmosphere. We had a magical time, holding hands, massages, walking in the city, visiting restaurants, romantic times etc. After i returned, we kept in contact & she then visited me for a week at the beginning of July. We both had time off work & our studies on our visits & spent lots of time together. So, we've spent 14 days together, is that a lot? We feel we know each others ways, we are sexualy compatable, her friends like me, she says "Your"... when signing off emails. She says she misses me a lot. I play it cool by not contacting all the time. In the past i sacrificed all for relationships & when they ended, i ended up with nothing, so we agree to continue our studies in our countries. She refuses to say that we are an item as this takes time, but we have done all the things people do when in a relationship. I guess she thinks i am rushing into it too much! She says i'm the sweetist & that i'm hers! But then on the other hand, when we talk. I am getting to know her sarcastic personality & sometimes she tries to test me. I do get confused, we've done a lot in the 14 days of physically seeing each other, but we've spoken a lot. I get the feeling sometimes she's backing off a little, saying it would be good to miss each other more & then if i'm not on msn a certain night, she comicaly has a go at me. I'm due there in late September, she'll have time off for us to spend time together, although she does need to do some classes. She then says 2 months is too long to wait, & can i come earlier, like the 14'th, before is impossible as she has exams. I know how i feel, but then she backs off & then says she misses me a lot & wnts me there earlier. How long has any of you guys comuted back & forth to make a relationship work, afterall it's only 2 hours away between us! Any advice cg Link to post Share on other sites
Author caring guy Posted August 4, 2006 Author Share Posted August 4, 2006 please help someone, my whole world is falling apart, i don't want to go on, help Link to post Share on other sites
Author caring guy Posted August 4, 2006 Author Share Posted August 4, 2006 i see a psychiatrist, am codependent, need to be with someone, like a heroin addict needs his fix, i hate this & i am in total desperation. I am drinking myself to death, taking valium, just to try & take awat ythe need for reassurance. My Psychiatrist is shi*t & can't help, i feel i don't want to be this waay but can't help it. I'm so scared & emotional. I just want reassurance or death cg Link to post Share on other sites
Volverte_a_ver Posted August 7, 2006 Share Posted August 7, 2006 Well, you can never know for sure from reading this little amount of information, but I would say her asking you to come sooner means she's interested. In the end, you should tell her exactly what you just told us, and see what she says. Link to post Share on other sites
Author caring guy Posted August 7, 2006 Author Share Posted August 7, 2006 i saw that she had added another picture to her profile on the dating site we met on. I questioned her over it as the only reason in my eyes that you would put at another picture on a dating site is to attract others. She said it was innocent & she just liked the picture. She has a lot of issues in her life like hating her flatmates, lots of studying to do, mother may be losing her place& she's lost her weekend job. She says she missed me a lot last week & that i have a fan club amongst her friends in her city. Now she says she feels like a psychiatrist, she has seen my insecurity & paranoia & that she doesn't need to be a helper to me! At the moment she feels she needs to be free so we are cutting down the communication, although she still wants me to go. She wants the cool me, not the paranoid needy one, i know that!, a stronger guy. She has seen that, just i sometimes show this side & hate it. So from one week when she misses me & now this. She thinks i won't change & if i do i must do it for me, which is right. I told her i won't be like it again, i guess i can only show her. cg Link to post Share on other sites
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