Guest Posted August 4, 2006 Share Posted August 4, 2006 THM3GC ALL MESSED UP INSIDE AND CONFUSED PART2 the past couple of days my mom's been being super sickenly sweet nice to me, but as nasty as ever to my dad and brother.. then, I catch her on my screename checking my mail, seeing what websites I have been on... her excuse " oh, i thought your brother may have came on your name to look at porno... Then , I was seriously angry and asked her what was going on ans she gives this sob story about some guy TRIED TO ABDUCT HER at phar - mor FIVE YEARS AGO and that's why she feels like she has to micromanage my life.....*( SHE'S BEEN LIKE THIS MY ENTIRE LIFE) (and my brother and dad are the reason that she so angry all the time...SHE TOLD ME THAT TOO ) I'd hate to sound Witchy, but she's manipulated so much, that when she says crap like this to me, I pretty much turn her off and don't feel anything... i HOPE I'M NOT VENTING ON YOU GUYS Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted August 16, 2006 Share Posted August 16, 2006 THM3GC ALL MESSED UP INSIDE AND CONFUSED PART2 the past couple of days my mom's been being super sickenly sweet nice to me, but as nasty as ever to my dad and brother.. then, I catch her on my screename checking my mail, seeing what websites I have been on... her excuse " oh, i thought your brother may have came on your name to look at porno... Then , I was seriously angry and asked her what was going on ans she gives this sob story about some guy TRIED TO ABDUCT HER at phar - mor FIVE YEARS AGO and that's why she feels like she has to micromanage my life.....*( SHE'S BEEN LIKE THIS MY ENTIRE LIFE) (and my brother and dad are the reason that she so angry all the time...SHE TOLD ME THAT TOO ) I'd hate to sound Witchy, but she's manipulated so much, that when she says crap like this to me, I pretty much turn her off and don't feel anything... i HOPE I'M NOT VENTING ON YOU GUYS Sorry, your parents have every right to check your internet activity and act upon it accordingly. You'll have plenty of time to do whatever you want without being checked on when you turn 18 and move out or go to college. Until then, you are a child under their care. It's a parents job to micromanage your life since they will be held accountable for your actions and mistakes. Her only problem here is trying to come up with an excuse for doing it. She doesn't need one. Link to post Share on other sites
SoCalCatman72 Posted August 16, 2006 Share Posted August 16, 2006 Ok, I may be in my 30's, but I still remember what it was like to be a teenager, and I can appreciate your frustration, anger and feeling of invasion. Firstly, I don't know how old you are, but the poster above is correct. Your parents have the absolute authority to snoop, pry, watch and listen in on your conversations. In fact they have an obligation and responsibility to do so. And they do not need a reason to do so as their reason, your safety and welfare, grants them carte blanc in your affairs. Given the increase in media coverage and attention to online predators, I think it's perfectly reasonable to follow your child's footsteps through cyberspace, though IMO there are more discreet ways to do so. However, according to your statement, it sounds like your mom is struggling with some fear issues, and the best way to deal with that is to live such a life that she doesn't need to worry. The term is "beyond reproach" and it's a lot harder than it sounds, which is scary because it sounds hard. Best of luck Link to post Share on other sites
ZICKAR Posted August 17, 2006 Share Posted August 17, 2006 I would like to differentiate here between Censorship and Advisory....I think its OK for parents to use the previlege of advisory but certainly not censorship because afterall no one has the right to limit down your knowledge resources but instead they might act themselves as a source of knowledge in informing you about certain things you should be aware of without actually forcing you to act in a desired way....Advisory is good and survillance isn't bad because it usually is to protect certain interests which in this case according to the parents is their children but I think you should know that you are being monitored...you have the right to and I disagree about your parents using more discreet ways...you have all the right to know that you are being watched and have the right to make a stand to that Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted August 17, 2006 Share Posted August 17, 2006 Absolutely! You should never hide the fact that you keep an eye on your kids. For one thing, it's a lie and shows you as a coward. It's completely counter-productive. Check on your kids for their own good and be blatant, confident, and understanding about it. The knowledge of your presence in their affairs will help guide them to more responsible decisions. Link to post Share on other sites
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