Is there anyone I can hide the nail marks from family

[whatwentwrong19]

Hi people

My aunt's b-day is 3 days from now; there will be a family reunion. However the problem is that I don't know if there is a way to hide the scratches, it's practically all over my face and it's so obvious (lucky it won't really leave scars). I have tried putting ice on it and it's working but they're gonna still notice it and ask about it.

 

Another thing we don't know and I'm planning to is I'll be breaking up too. It was about an article someone had on a site and it talks about how to notice you're stuck with a loser. Only, I'm thinking of breaking up by letter or e-mailing her. I know most people would disagree and tell me to do it in person, but I don't know .

 

Then offcourse they're going to ask why did I break up, which I'm too embarrass to share so I only write here. I don't know what exactly to tell them. I'm thinking of telling them because of low compatability or because there was no love anymore.

 

Then the sad reality is that there's still love. I keep thinking what if I do break up and yet want her back.

[norajane]

I'm not sure I understand fully, but it sounds like you want to break up with the woman who scratched your face - do it any way you like. Email is fine if she's abusing you and you don't want to talk to her or get anywhere near her.

 

As to the scratches, there's no reason to hide them from your family. In fact, that will explain to them exactly why you broke up with her. "I was dating an abusive phsycho and decided I'd had enough after this incident..."

[whatwentwrong19]

She was/is abusive and that's not the first time I got bashed. I had no idea it was abuse if a woman hits you sometimes on a regular basis, I thought it was force applied by men only. Yet I don't know why do I still have feelings for her and love her while at the same time also fear her along with her reaction if I were to tell her about breaking up for good in her face.

[burning 4 revenge]

that girl is insane.....do it by e-mail

[Outcast]

Yet I don't know why do I still have feelings for her and love her

 

Because abusers aren't all evil. They do have good points. However those good points, and even loving someone who has them, are not good enough reasons to stay in a relationship where you are done harm. Better you should show your family and ask for support. And go do a search on domestic violence and men so that you'll have some facts and figures in case your family thinks the way you do about violence being only perpetrated by men.

[burning 4 revenge]

yeah, but outcast, sometimes people like the abuser because of the abuse and not in spite of the abuse

[HokeyReligions]

Just tell them you would rather not talk about the scratches or the break-up because its personal and you don't want to put a damper on the party or on yourself - you came there for some fun.

 

It's OK not to have a face-to-face breakup - especially if the relationship was abusive and you know that it will hurt you more. The point is to have some form of communication to tell the other that you are breaking up. That is important for both of you.

[Outcast]

yeah, but outcast, sometimes people like the abuser because of the abuse and not in spite of the abuse

 

That's not that common and not terribly healthy.

[Craig]

Take your power back and tell them what happened. You'll feel better, they'll respect you for making a good decision and they'll respect you more too.