is there anything there

[Guest]

I have been seeing this guy for about 2 months. we have been getting together every weekend and spending time together. Last weekend when we were together everything was great and we both have told eachother we would like to take things slow but that we have a lot of feelings for each other that we would like to follow. we live about 45 min away from one another so during the week with work there would be no change of seeing eachother, but we make time for eachother on the weekend.

 

I called him lastnight but when his roommate brought him the phone he said he did not want to talk on the phone. I called him today and left a message for him to call me but it has been 8 hours and I still have not received a phone call back. One minute it seems like he is all into me and the next it is like we are on differnt planets. I really want to talk to him and know what is going on but I also don't want to flood him with calls. He was normally the one to do the calling and now it seems like he is avoiding my calls.

Please help I don't know what to do but I have deep feelings for this guy in such a short period of time.

 

am I trying to hold on to something that is not there? Ant time I have ever called him before he always returned my calls in a short time but this time he has not.

 

We spoke on the phone everyday for the last month up until 3 days ago. We have not gotten in to any fights or arguments. What has suddenly gone wrong that he does not want to talk to me?

 

Am I wasting my time? does he not want anything to do with me now? Please help. I am so confused and need some guidance.

[Ukwizard]

Am I wasting my time? does he not want anything to do with me now? Please help. I am so confused and need some guidance.

 

Hard to say - Guest. Your post has no indication of how old you are, or what you do for you living, or how do you travel to see each other.

 

To me, your man sounds like what happened to me! I was seeing a woman who lived 47 miles, and it took about an hour of travelling before I could see her. Depending on the terrain, and the traffic it took about up to an hour to get there, or if it was a good day it would take about 40 minutes.

 

In that time I found it very hard to commute to see her. It was especially hard for me as I finished work at 5.30pm, and that the time when the rush hour started. The traffic would be horrendous.

 

I dated my then girlfriend for 7 months, and I have to say during the 6th month, I began to feel tired. I began to feel that going over to see her became a chore. Even the emails, and the telephone calls seemed to be hard work. In the time I seeing her, things changed from being romantic, to down right repetitive.

 

Long distance relationships change people.

 

I assume that you are students, as you mentioned your boyfriend had a room mate. It could be possible that he is busy, and that he is studying.

 

It also depends how many times you phone him. Some men don`t like to be chased after too many times, especially in one day. Some guys, if they had been single for a long time. Like I was. They need time to adjust.

 

I would perhaps speak to him when you are together, and not on the telephone. Try to find out how he is feeling about the distance. What his feelings are to you?

 

I know what went wrong in our relationship, and I can see almost the same exact problems with your realtionship.

 

Although distance could be a factor, its also about good, and effective communciation. Try to identify what he wants, and communicate to him how you feel when he doesn`t respond to your calls in a sufficient amount of time.

 

Good luck