Guest Posted August 6, 2006 Share Posted August 6, 2006 I hope someone can help me with this,have not seen any posts like this but i'm sure i'm not alone. Happily married for 6 years except for this one issue. since the birth of my second daughter 3 years ago I lost all sexual desire witch I know is common. the only problem is that when it came back it didn't include my husband. I still think he is a good looking guy I mean he looks the same as the day we met. maybe better. I love him dearly and feel terrible at the way i make him feel about this.He realy is a great husband and father to our children he helps around the house and all that He even relocated to another country with me to make your lives better. I coudn't ask for a better guy to be with. The only fights we ever have is about this issue I want to fix it for the sake of our marrage and our children and so does he. WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted August 6, 2006 Share Posted August 6, 2006 This is an unusual problem but given the love and respect you have for your husband there is little doubt a professional counsellor can help you. Do some research and find the best in your community. Perhaps you should go by yourself for the first visit...and then decide when you might want to include your husband. If you haven't told your husband that you've lost it for him sexually, don't say a word to him (of course, he's probably figured it out by now) until you have talked to a professional therapist. It's a bit scary to me that these things happen...but they do! Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted August 6, 2006 Share Posted August 6, 2006 Go see a physician. This happens to a lot of women and can have physical causes. There are plenty of good therapies these days for female sexual dysfunction. So do a quick search on it - bypassing sites promising their drugs will 'cure' it - and then go to a doctor pronto. I'm guessing that unless you've had affairs, you maybe didn't get it back at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted August 6, 2006 Share Posted August 6, 2006 This is an unusual problem but given the love and respect you have for your husband there is little doubt a professional counsellor can help you. Do some research and find the best in your community. Perhaps you should go by yourself for the first visit...and then decide when you might want to include your husband. If you haven't told your husband that you've lost it for him sexually, don't say a word to him (of course, he's probably figured it out by now) until you have talked to a professional therapist. It's a bit scary to me that these things happen...but they do! Good luck. He allready knowes the way i feel and is verry understanding about it but he did say he wishes he knew earler and is very very hurt by this that what makes me feel so bad Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted August 6, 2006 Share Posted August 6, 2006 Go see a physician. This happens to a lot of women and can have physical causes. There are plenty of good therapies these days for female sexual dysfunction. So do a quick search on it - bypassing sites promising their drugs will 'cure' it - and then go to a doctor pronto. I'm guessing that unless you've had affairs, you maybe didn't get it back at all. its not that i don't want sex I just don't see my husband in that way anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
jonesgirly Posted August 6, 2006 Share Posted August 6, 2006 I may be way off-base here, but it sounds kinda like the reverse situation when people becomes parents. Its common for a husband to 'see' his wife as a "mother" and nothing else (at least at first). It sounds like maybe you 'see' your husband as a "father" now, and nothing else? Link to post Share on other sites
gig Posted August 6, 2006 Share Posted August 6, 2006 Try looking back to when you were happily married to him and this will make you want to be in love one with another like before! A marriage is a very sacred blessing from god. God bless you! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted August 6, 2006 Share Posted August 6, 2006 Can you try to get that feeling back? Maybe going to either marriage counselling or a sex therapist would help... Even introducing porn into your sex life could help light the flames. Can I ask? How is the intimacy between you two. Do you hug, cuddle and kiss? I do hope you start feeling some passion for your husband again. Link to post Share on other sites
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