mejohn1 Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 Ahhh..the whole "Why am I here" [sIZE=2]conundrum. Man's eternal question. The cause of so much anguish and inner torment. Each and everyone of us has thought it, what's our purpose, am I meant for something great? This is the very thought that roots itself in our minds and drives some crazy and others thrive on it. After all, aren't we all entitled to be happy, not just a few here and a some over there? But we as humans always tend to over think things and tell ourselves that happiness is some aloof thing that can only be achieved when we become successful. Until that time we make ourselves misserable with the things we don't have, how we want to be seen by others, who knows us, blah, blah, blah. Somehow wev'e allowed oursleves to buy into the theory that we must HAVE to be happy. Those who don't...won't. [/sIZE] [sIZE=2]Well what is it that we must have? The media and advertising crackpots have been working hard as hell for the last century telling us that if we don't have M&M's, Coke or a Lexus we will be just like everybody else who doesn't: miserable and loser. If you have these things life will be wonderful; you'll be happy! So, all of you Lexus owners, are you happy now? Or is the big lie showing true. [/sIZE] Happiness is not possetions, it's not the color of your hair or eyes. It's not how many people you slept with last week or what dressing you had on your salad. Happiness has got to be more than that. It's inner peace with yourself. It's Faith. All of you heathen's can laugh but it's true. Any person who has a deep down faith in God, and it's honest, has a different outlook on life because when life is over..it's just begun. That's thrilling to know. Now, I'm not the practicing person I was raised to be. I, like so many others, rebeled and when with what society was telling me. Be my own person, tell the grown up to bite me, do what I want to do. Yet I sit here with a wife in the largest state of depression anyone of you could imagine, and all I hear from her is how she wants to change her apperance, how she wishes we had cellphones again, what will life be like when we get that extra $600 p/month in disability for her depression (good luckwith that sister). Not one utterance from her about healing her guts, it's allabout the possetions we don't have but will make us happy. Sheesh. We could learn everything about happiness from watching young children play. As ong as there's a place for them to run, jump and climb, they're happy. As long as mom and dad are around and involved, they're happy. They don't come running and say "hey, I need this item or my life will suck". They ask for little and give much in return. They are nice to every kid who is at the playground regardless of color or shape. They just like to be kids. Why don't we like to be adults? We have lost what we believe in. Kids look toknow one else but their parents for guidance and direction. We have to respond to these requests or they go looking for their own answers. And they find them on TV, the radio, the internet. Their opinions are formed not from mom and dad, but by which ever ad is the loudest and the shiniest. This is why depression has run rampant in our society, kids who were left to find their way whiel mommy and daddy were still trying to find theirs. They grow up not knowing anything about life, and they freak. God gives that inner peace, all of our grandparents believed, so did the generations before that. But being good and propper doesn't fit with the "go your own way" approach and we are dying because we won't let ourselves believe. I pray it turns around. Love your kids and teach them true.[sIZE=2][/sIZE] [sIZE=2][/sIZE] Link to post Share on other sites
mejohn1 Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 Sorry about the double posting, fat fingers I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedGal Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 Am I happy?? Id have to say NO, not really. I am 27. I have a nice husband. Good job, we are buying a home, nice cars etc. We have a lot of material posessions and are financially stable. Makes my husband happy. Doesnt make me happy. I get suffocated by my routine of going to work, coming home, hanging out with friends in the weekend, and working more to acquire more wealth. Having kids eventually and then worrying about acquiring more wealth for them. I just want to leave it all, take my husband and move to Australia or something. Just get the hell away from it all. Maybe take 6 months and do nothing but travel and ACTUALLY do something I want to do with the money we have instead of just collecting it and investing it. Link to post Share on other sites
lonelybird Posted August 15, 2006 Share Posted August 15, 2006 I am generally a happy person: steady job, good place to live in, a nice bf, no drama, have hobbies and a cute dog...but I feel numb right now, so this morning I begin to think "what is the meaning of life?":p every day is pretty same, I feel like soon I would become those old ladies just sit there have nothing to do and think. thinking back I do miss the hardtimes, sure hardtime brought many pain and struggle, but I remebered the most happy moment was that I thought I overcomed something. It's not saying I am on the perfect place right now. I want have a family with my curent bf, but could not for some reasons, the small business i am dealing with does not earn money yet....but seems most of the time I don't really care about these, so now I am thinking maybe full acceptance status quo is not a good thing? Change is a great idea for me right now. and maybe I need somebody just kick me wake up Link to post Share on other sites
loveinlife Posted August 17, 2006 Share Posted August 17, 2006 I am not happy with myself. Is this what happens when we get thrown away on the curbs by our former lovers. I mean, I tried, tried really hard to get her back. Still nothing has changed, except for her finding herself a new guy. I am still here figuring myself out and having problems that i want to change, such as exercising, quit smoking,...etc just live a normal life and not stress over my past bc I get nothing out of it. I know that each time when i try to contact my ex, its like poking a needle on my fingure, it hurts, so why am I doing it. i feel that I am really lost. i know this is the best time to figure out what I want to do in life, as I am taking a break. I quit my job bc i couldn't handle the amount of stress that was on me after the break up. So I settled to help the family's restaurant that we have. I finished college, graduated from a top UC. Have a new Mercedes. Have friends and family. Thinking about opening a business with my sister. I am young, 25. What else do I want more... The only missing piece in my life is my ex, I felt so comfortable with her. Now that she has moved on, I feel so stagnant. She is finishing up her masters, has a new bf. What do I get?? I miss her so much... :lmao: I feel like a mess. Link to post Share on other sites
MyShrink Posted August 17, 2006 Share Posted August 17, 2006 It then occurred to me that we're never happy. Human beings are never happy really. When we have exactly all that we wish for... something else comes along which is the focus of what drives us Wanting something doesn't mean you're not happy. I can want something and be very happy, that is if i belive in my ability to actually get it.You are unhappy if you never get what you want, if nothing is ever working out for you. And as has been mentioned in this thread, happiness is not a permanent state you reach where you can just sit back and do nothing without becoming unhappy again. I think a useful explanation of happiness is that it is an emotional state where the good feelings are massively outweighing the bad. Link to post Share on other sites
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