Guest Posted August 6, 2006 Share Posted August 6, 2006 Need some advice here, Im engaged to a man who is an Alcoholic, well I have just found out my Fiance has been drinking at his job with another woman! I think it's wrong 100%, especially where its his job and the other woman? Any advice please? He knows im upset and won't stop! Link to post Share on other sites
Annacabana Posted August 7, 2006 Share Posted August 7, 2006 Personally I would not marry a man that was an alcoholic. Marriage is hard enough without going into it already having a minus against you. Also if you want children in the future, it would be best for them to have a father who isn't addicted to alcohol. Just read about co-dependency and adult children of alcoholics. The stories will let you know what your future will have in store. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted August 7, 2006 Share Posted August 7, 2006 Need some advice here, Im engaged to a man who is an Alcoholic, well I have just found out my Fiance has been drinking at his job with another woman! I think it's wrong 100%, especially where its his job and the other woman? Any advice please? He knows im upset and won't stop! Tell him to get his butt into AA and quit drinking. Then, postpone your wedding if you've set a date already. Find out wtf is really going on with the other woman. Is she his drinking buddy or is there something going on between them? (You need to pay attention to the little red flags now...) If he is lying to you, hiding things - That's not a good way to start a life off with someone. He isn't responsible, and honestly, he's definately not ready to start a family anytime soon. He needs help, no matter what. Talk to your family about this as well, don't isolate and try to handle it on your own. Link to post Share on other sites
CastingPearls Posted August 7, 2006 Share Posted August 7, 2006 I think you already know the answer here, this guy is not good husband material. Don't delude yourself, marrying an alcoholic is like jumping aboard a sinking ship. If he was like this when you first met, chances are you don't even know what he is really like underneath the addiction. Take it from someone who wasted over 20 years waiting for her husband to get himself right while watching him in a slow downward spiral. I won't say your fiance will follow the same path, but please, open your eyes before you make any commitment, he is already showing very poor judgement in his behavior. Link to post Share on other sites
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