waitingforlove Posted August 7, 2006 Share Posted August 7, 2006 Just wondering if there's anyone out there who had a dumper ex -- who even initiated NC and basically cut you off his/her life after the breakup, who came back after some time? Would you mind sharing your stories with us? Thanks in advance! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted August 7, 2006 Share Posted August 7, 2006 Yes. He came back five months later. Professed his love and longing for me. Said he missed me every day we were apart. And two months later he broke my heart again. Dumped me again. I'm devastated all over again, and this time it's even worse. Link to post Share on other sites
ilmw Posted August 7, 2006 Share Posted August 7, 2006 I was engagd to this woman.. together for 6 years... cheated on me and moved in with the other guy... Went n/c for months.. Then she started calling me once in a while and shooting the breeze... I thought maybe she was thinking of getting back together with me.... it might have happened, but she got pregnant by the other guy.... I did the strick n/c.... 2 years later I run into her again.. I was getting mix for my rum and heading out to the bar with some friends as it was my B-Day... I saw her with her kid.. and new dog. We had a conversation and she wished me happy b-day. She then kissed me on the cheek... (I felt nothing at all for her... I was so over her). Strangley enough ... that is the same night my wife and I hooked up;) I was free to be with someone else I could commit too... 8 years later the ex shows up at my mothers house for a little visit.. she sees my wedding photos and says to mom...."you don't know what you have till you lose it" Is that what you were looking for? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author waitingforlove Posted August 7, 2006 Author Share Posted August 7, 2006 Hi ilmw, Thanks so much!! Ya I was wondering about cases like that. It's kind of sad that they come back SO LATE though .... But it sounds like today you're happy. That's what's most important. Link to post Share on other sites
ilmw Posted August 7, 2006 Share Posted August 7, 2006 Hi wfl, Well no...getting seperated from w (my own thread is long). The only reason i am telling you this is... My w is so unlike any woman I have ever been with... I actually liked her as a friend before we ever hooked up romanticaly. I have never felt true anger towrds here (pissed off only) minor stuff only:p I have had prior 2 serious LTR before my w... already mentioned one.. the other one was when I was 18-20. There was a common thread between those to LTR.. I got treated like crap, was walked all over and was cheated on. Never learned a lesson from any of it. At times I hated them... What I did learn though is... hell if you don't like them.. why the hell are you with them:laugh: ilmw Link to post Share on other sites
Diver012 Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 Hi wfl, Well no...getting seperated from w (my own thread is long). The only reason i am telling you this is... My w is so unlike any woman I have ever been with... I actually liked her as a friend before we ever hooked up romanticaly. I have never felt true anger towrds here (pissed off only) minor stuff only:p I have had prior 2 serious LTR before my w... already mentioned one.. the other one was when I was 18-20. There was a common thread between those to LTR.. I got treated like crap, was walked all over and was cheated on. Never learned a lesson from any of it. At times I hated them... What I did learn though is... hell if you don't like them.. why the hell are you with them:laugh: ilmw Kinda like damned if ya do , damned of ya dont Such is life I guess Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 I have to admit that I was the instigator of a very bad breakup. I broke up with my boyfriend because I felt we were very young, we were having problems and so I went into NC of sorts. You see, we just didnt speak to each other. Because we were still at school. So we just didnt associate with each other because we had said some bad things at the time of the break up and there was alot of hurt. Fast forward to two years, I was in a relationship with my incredibly controlling guy at College. I started to get feelings for my ex, whom I had begun a tentative friendship with and I eventually ended it with afore mentioned boyfriend so I could be with my ex. I have now been with him for almost 2 years and it is fantastic. I would like to mention however that it is very rare for this to happen. There are alot of hurt feelings and it took my current boyfriend and I awhile to get past that. Link to post Share on other sites
the_alchemyst Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 Yes. In October of last year, me and my exbf broke up, and it was horrible. We got into a stupid fight earlier that month, broke up, and didn't talk for about two weeks. One day, I ventured out to his place to see him; we got back together. The next day was nice, but the day after that, he seemed angry. The following day, he was still angry (I had no idea why) and he told me we "needed to talk." We spoke the following day. We broke up the following day. So, he pretty much battered me two times in a row. The break up wasn't a "bad" one in the traditional sense: We spoke for hours, and he was no longer angry--in fact, he was weeping a lot. We both seemed sad that it was over, but he believed that it had to be that way. He kept telling me we would always be friends, and that we would hang out even, on occasion. This was the worst break up of my life. Nothing went like he had said: we had no contact for nearly three months, which he pretty much started. In this time I was entirely torn; I knew nothing of how he was because I dared not ask. Three months. The day before xmas eve, I sent him and his family some xmas cards--I didn't hear from him at all. The next day, for some reason, I called him; it was xmas day, after all. I made no mention of us, because I truly wasn't calling for "us"--I just wanted to wish him a merry xmas and to hear his voice. I wasn't really looking for anything, as I had kind of made it my belief that it was over for good. On the phone, he began to sob, and when I asked him why, he said it was because my phone call was so unexpected, and that I had made him really happy, because he had been wanting to talk to me, yet was too scared to call. I told him to not cry because I had not called to make him feel bad. I then told him I had to go back to work, and he asked me where I worked, but I didn't tell him. He then said he had to go, too, but that he would call me soon. I found out later that day that he had asked a nephew of mine where I worked because he wanted to go visit me, but my nephew told him he didn't know, which was true. He called the next night, asked to see me the following day because he had something he needed to give me, and because he just really wanted to see me. Oh, and then he topped it off by telling me he had to go because he was leaving for a club. I wished him well and told him I would call him the next day to see if I had time. I ended up seeing him. He asked me to forgive him and to give him another chance. I wanted to jump and say, "Of course!!" but I was so hurt from before. I didn't want to say yes only to have him call it off two days later, like last time. Plus, the worst months had passed, and I really did not want to reopen old wounds. He asked me several times, and I finally said yes. It may not sound so horrible, but it was. And even more than its horridness is the amazingness that he came back because this is a man with such a freaking HUGE ego. This lasted until March of this year. Go me. So, it does happen, but sometimes, you're better off with it not happening. I know I wish we wouldn't have had this chance. Link to post Share on other sites
sami Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 Yes, we came back after almost two years. It's so wonderful and exciting. We are both enjoying the reunion. Link to post Share on other sites
Ukwizard Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 Sami, I think you kind of missed the point of the question. How bad was your break up? Who split up with who? Did he/you date other people? Did you follow NC? Link to post Share on other sites
sami Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 Thank you much but I chose to talk about the coming back thank you anyway:) Link to post Share on other sites
Ukwizard Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 Thanks very much for your input. It really inspired us all. Link to post Share on other sites
Brittjean06 Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 I smell sarcasim Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 You're right. Link to post Share on other sites
sami Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 You're not alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Brittjean06 Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 Tsk tsk tsk. People people people ... so your ex came back after two years ? or what Link to post Share on other sites
sami Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 The answer is"What". Link to post Share on other sites
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