heavyhearted Posted August 7, 2006 Share Posted August 7, 2006 His ex-wife & baby's mother from day one has been nothing but rude and disrespectful to me. From calling and hanging up on my phone for hours when she is bored to randomly coming over the house in the middle of the night knocking on our window, because he wouldn't pick up the phone to talk to her. So now i'm expecting and things have gotten so much worse, he told me he doesn't want this kid and is doing everything he can to be mean to me and keep me depressed and unhappy so i would have an abortion. If that wasn't enough she told him last week that she doesn't want their 1 1/2 year old son around me (we have lived together for about a year) if he wants to see his son or go anywhere with his son she has to go to, she won't even allow him to just hang out with his son. She also told him that one of his parents has to be there if i'm there and if they leave he needs to call her and let her know so she can decided if she wants to come and pick him up or stay and hang out until one of them gets back. My boyfriend has agreed to these terms and has been spending most day with them and the little time we do have together we fight because i'm so upset about his disrespect for me and allowing her to have such control. They have court ordered times and days he should have his son, but even then she will not give him his son if she thinks i'll be around. My boyfriend has even gone as far to say that i don't need to be in his sons life that's his kid. I'm so shocked by what he's saying i can't do anything but be upset, then he tells me i'm not being supportive or understanding to the situation. I have no clue how to take this i want to leave but i have a baby to think of myself, this is my first kid and i'm scared and now alone. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted August 9, 2006 Share Posted August 9, 2006 he told me he doesn't want this kid and is doing everything he can to be mean to me and keep me depressed and unhappy so i would have an abortion. ... he tells me i'm not being supportive or understanding to the situation. ... i want to leave but i have a baby to think of myself, this is my first kid and i'm scared and now alone. It sounds like your boyfriend is your biggest problem - whatever his ex is saying/doing, he is not only allowing it, but feels the same way. His first priority is obviously not to you, but to her. I think you know that you have to leave this situation, because he clearly is an ass to you. If you really can't raise this child on your own, depending on what your beliefs are, it might be wise to consider an abortion or giving the child up for adoption. It doesn't sound like your bf is going to be there for you and the child, and it doesn't sound like he's going to change his behavior toward you. Good luck - i wish you the best. Link to post Share on other sites
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