SadBabyGirl Posted August 8, 2006 Share Posted August 8, 2006 me and my bf were in a long dis relationship for the past 7 months. We were like always on the phone chatting camming etc he was crazy abt me. We decided to cohabit and live together so i moved cross country in with him. The first month was amazing. As time progressed things started to get weird with him and he wasnt as affectionate with me. I didnt mean to, but i snapped at him in the car yesterday about something stupid which left us both in bad moods. After awhile we had a talk. I said i want u to tell me everything about this relationship and where u see it going etc. Hes like i can say for sure this relation will not lead into marriage. I said why, u dont think im going to be a good wife and he said many reasons. He said im not as attracted to u as i use to be, we arent as we were before in the beginning and im not happy in this relationship. I said why what is it? Is it the sex, my looks? He said no, those are fine. I said im doing everything i can to make u happy and he said well i am feeling lately like u are just my roomate, and i feel after some time we are probably going to separate if i dont feel happy in the future. I asked him what can i do to make u happy and he said i dont know... i asked him if it was another girl and he said for sure no id never break or hurt u for another girl. He agreed to work on the relationship last night as long AS i dont have high hopes for marriage or a very long term. That really hurts me. I dont know what to do, we are living together now and he hugs and kisses me i feel l ike r u doing it to make me happy OR are you doing it because u want to. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted August 9, 2006 Share Posted August 9, 2006 Sometimes attractions fade, especially when you haven't known each other that long and live together. Living together is very different from dating, especially when you've been long distance. You see each other in a much more intimate way, meaning, at each other's worst, probably before any actual love has developed that would make the worst irrelevant. It sounds like you guys rushed into living together and that's what made the magic fade. If I were you, I'd be looking for a new apartment and start planning my life on my own. He may get his feelings back, but he's already told you that's not what he believes will happen. Link to post Share on other sites
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