falcon Posted August 11, 2006 Share Posted August 11, 2006 I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half, we were friends for over a year prior to dating. He treats me very well and I believe he is a good man. I love him very much and trust him. I found out that he looked at porn, not only from dvds that were in boxes from helping him move, but from my computer also. We’ve talked about it as well. Porn is no problem to me if it's for "visual stimulation" and "release" purposes only, never a substitute for us. The consenting adult porn, I really don't have issues with, I'm even open to watching some with him and he’s knows I will. However, it's the teen porn, fresh teen, etc. sites that are bothering me. And, yes, all the sites are "of age and legal girls"…barely, if you ask me~ What bothers me is that these girls aren't to a point in life where, I believe, they can comprehend the future ramifications of their present "star" moment. A lot of these girls don't look like they are old enough to vote (not 18), let alone make a choice on the porn path. I'm sure many of the girls, still aren't of age yet, even through changes in the law (surely many lie about their ages). There's always somebody ready to exploit young girls and, in my opinion, watching those teen porn sites only contributes to these types of problems. God I hope I don’t sound like a fanatic but…I can't bring myself to accept that kind of porn on any level. As I mentioned before, we have talked about porn in general, but have avoided talking about teen porn…for the time being. The bottom line is that I love him and will work through most anything with him. I want to talk to him some more about it and really just want to get this out in the open (perhaps just to ease my mind), but don’t know how to approach the topic again. With respect to porn...I'm asking all the people who view porn as a normal guy thing to do, is teen porn/content acceptable? And, obviously, I’m talking legal sites. Anything that would be considered illegal is not acceptable period. Maybe getting some replies will help me to figure out how to address the topic. Maybe I’m off-base with the whole thing and shouldn’t make it into an issue and bring it up…not sure~ Looking forward to some replies. Thanks~ Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted August 11, 2006 Share Posted August 11, 2006 Alot of time if you scroll down to the bottom of those sites it will say all models are 18 or over. Now that may or may not be the case. However I have seen some of them before and yes they look young, but with school girl outfits on, hair in piggy tails etc, they can make most anyone look younger than what they really are. You said you saw where he is viewing this on YOUR computer, so does he live with you? If this is YOUR computer then he needs to respect the fact he is viewing this from someone elses property. Have you talked with him about this, and why he likes to look at the younger girl porn? Jade Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted August 11, 2006 Share Posted August 11, 2006 The older I get, the more this culture's fascination with pornography is making me sick. It could be that my sex drive is diminshing, or it could be that over time I've seen what all this constant emphasis on sexual objectification does to a society, I don't know. Maybe if your boyfriend wants a screaming teen-queen he can order one from Russia via an internet catalogue Link to post Share on other sites
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