sao2 Posted August 12, 2006 Share Posted August 12, 2006 OK my girlfriend and I, who have been dating a little over a year, have begun a long distance relationship, she is volunteering halfway across the world for about a year and I have started a new job in an exotic location. End result, we are 6,000 miles away from each other. Not exactly a distance that can be travelled on a weekend. We have been long distance for about 5 weeks now and I have to admit it is going better than I expected. I had an ldr(not even close, 350 miles, seems like childs play) about 5 years ago that blew up in my face, pretty much because of my own insecurities and we were not ready for that type of commitment. Like I said things are going well, and I'm very happy about that, I think alot of it can be attributed to how great my gf is. I am sure she is the one for me, so much so that I would be more than happy giving up my current job to be with her, this time has made it even more obvious to me that my life is not complete without her. I thought I would say hello and join. Being in an ldr is tough and I thought I could offer support at times(and sometimes ask for it) my last ldr has made me a little wary and I want to make sure I don't that insecure monster out because that would just ruin everything. I just started using SKYPE today and am psyched, we talked for 1.5 hours for about 2 dollars, that can't be beat, can it. Link to post Share on other sites
Rikka Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 Hello, I joined this place for the same reason you did. I have just finished week 5 of my LDR and I am looking forward to the next visit (Sept 8 & 9) it is amazing how quickly the time flies when you are looking forward to the next visit. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sao2 Posted August 15, 2006 Author Share Posted August 15, 2006 Sept 8 would be awesome, unfortunately we won't have a visit until Christmas(if then, still have to see if things work out on her end). I never thought I'ld have another ldr, but just goes to show you. But yeah looking forward to visits helps alot. I can't wait to buy the ticket. Link to post Share on other sites
Rikka Posted August 16, 2006 Share Posted August 16, 2006 Christmas isn't too far away.... You'll make it. This girl must be something special to make you enter an LDR again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sao2 Posted August 16, 2006 Author Share Posted August 16, 2006 Special doesn't even convey how amazing she is . . . Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted August 24, 2006 Share Posted August 24, 2006 Hi, I'm French and live in France (for study reasons) and she lives in Seattle (US west coast). We've been dating for more than 2 years and a half, and it turned into a LDR about 5 months after. I've got to say that I was pretty scared of the thing since I didn't knew when I'll see her again. But there it is. I haven't seen here since last XMas, but I'll finally see here soon (next week, yeahhhh). I wanted to offer you my support since I know how hard it can be. But if you think she's the one, then go for it (like I'm doing). And also to let you know, I can call her for hours (and have done so), and it doesn't cost me a thing. I love my internet provider Link to post Share on other sites
Author sao2 Posted August 24, 2006 Author Share Posted August 24, 2006 Thanks for the support, oh yeah definitely think she is the one. 2.5 years, impressive, it's only been a couple of months here. Right now we don't have the phone because she doesn't have easy access to a phone. But I just got a letter from her today. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted August 24, 2006 Share Posted August 24, 2006 Hey all! hehe, jus thought i would post up my experiences too! Been LDRing for about... 6 weeks now? its going alright we're lucky because we don't live overseas, so using skype its free . n wts more awesome is that she can call my landlines n mobile so i dun have to be at the pc to answer, altho she does when she calls me... But its all good, jus that we needa have scheduled times to chat. Hoping to see her in xmas! LDR seems pretty scary dun it? well it is, i was really scared at first, but the commitment is something that i'm willing to take, jus like u guys, cos shes godamn well worth it . Hope its both fingers up for everyone LDRing! ur not alone! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted September 4, 2006 Share Posted September 4, 2006 Sao2, I'm in the same situation, where my boyfriend is 9 hour's time difference. We both say we're committed to each other, however, I have feelings of insecurity that he might meet someone...especially after he told me how impressive the women looked over there. Oh, one more thing, what is hard is that we just started dating prior to him moving over there. We liked each other enough to stay in contact with each other and have made plans to see each other. He's coming here in a few days and i'm going there in Nov. And he's coming here in Dec...and then I may be over there for a couple months. we also keep in touch through chat and skype. But why do I still feel insecure? Thanks J Link to post Share on other sites
Author sao2 Posted September 5, 2006 Author Share Posted September 5, 2006 You still feel insecure because you do not understand the extent of your boyfriends integrity. Is he reliable? Does he do what he says he is going to do. Chances are he will be tempted, we are only human after all . . . but what seperates humans from animals is the ability to make will driven decisions rather than behaving on instinct. We have no other choice but to trust blindly, whether it be short or long distance. The only difference is when the relationship is long distance you have to look torwards the future more . . . Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted September 5, 2006 Share Posted September 5, 2006 I don't envy you, guyz! Been in a LDR for a year and a half then married him. We met online so we never really dated on a day-to-day basis. Turned out I knew my husband better than I knew my ex-husband whom I married after 6.5 years of friendship and a few months of dating. But not all stories have a happy ending. Link to post Share on other sites
Galis Posted September 12, 2006 Share Posted September 12, 2006 Well im about to take the jouney into ldr and im kidda scared or should I say inscure i just dont belive that she love me as much as how she say she does. But im gonna get a final verdict before i start this if i do go in the ldr its gonna be hard on my end because i know im not gonna be able to call and talk as much as you guys.I really hope she ready to take this walk of faith because I sure am Link to post Share on other sites
AnnaAnnaAnna Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 Hi. Seems i am in a bit of a category of my own. I live in britain and whilst on holiday this summer i met this guy. He lives in Hong Kong. About as far away as there is. I was with him on our holiday for about 3 days and we had an amazing time. We then went back to our respective houses and he promised to come visit me a few weeks later (he flies a lot in his work). He did come and again, we had an amazing time. I enjoy so much being with him, we have lots of things in common and i really really like him and i get the feeling he feels the same way. However, i'm finding it hard to classify this as a long distance RELATIONSHIP. I wouldn't call him my boyfriend yet, but i don't feel single either. I don't feel secure enough to discuss it with him, but i also feel like i have to or how will we have any kind of chance. Is it worth it? I miss him so much when he's not here and i want him to come again. But even when he does, if he does, it's for no more than a couple of days. To properly see him i'd have to wait until at least christmas. Basically i'm confused and don't know what to do. I know that ultimately it comes down to what i'm willing to do/put up with but i need to hear other people's view on the subject. thank you, Anna Link to post Share on other sites
Galis Posted September 14, 2006 Share Posted September 14, 2006 Anna if you really love him then there should be no prob just talk to him and find out how he feels about you then work from that. im gonna wait faithful for a girl that is gonna come in about 22 months yes 1yr and 8 months call me stupid if you want Link to post Share on other sites
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