Puggly Posted August 12, 2006 Share Posted August 12, 2006 I have a wonderful friendship with this guy and it could become a friendship with benefits if only he didn't have bad breath. This is a neat clean cut guy with beautiful straight healthy looking teeth........but my God the breath. How do I diplomatically tell him that something has to be done? I know he brushes his teeth, because he has called and been brushing while we were talking, and I am thinking please brush your tongue and the roof of your mouth. I have brought up things like flossing, mouthwash and types of tooth brushes. After finding out which type he liked I bought them for him and showed him where they were in my bathroom. This was about as direct as I could think of..........what now, how do I say something? Link to post Share on other sites
Brittjean06 Posted August 12, 2006 Share Posted August 12, 2006 Well it would be kind of harsh to tell them they have bad breath. But you should always have gum on you and ask them if they would care for some. Have some listerin strips and ask if they want one too. They'll never know:) Link to post Share on other sites
superconductor Posted August 12, 2006 Share Posted August 12, 2006 You: Are you feeling ok? Him: What? You: I asked if you're feeling ok. Do you have any pain in your belly or something? Him: Uh, no. Why? You: Well, I know that when people sometimes feel unwell, one of the symptoms is hallitocis. Him: Hally-what? You: Hallitocis. It means bad breath. Him: Do I have bad breath? You: Yes, and it concerns me that it may be a symptom of something. Him: Well, I feel ok. Really. Is it really that bad? You: It's not a field of daisies, that's for sure. Him: Oh. Uh, sorry... You: You don't have to apologize. I just want to make sure that you're not sick or something. Him: I brush my teeth and stuff. You: I know you do. That's why I am a little concerned. etc... Or, you could try a more direct approach... You: Your breath could gag a maggot. I mean, it could really knock a buzzard off a sh*t wagon... Link to post Share on other sites
Brittjean06 Posted August 12, 2006 Share Posted August 12, 2006 hahaha My idea is better!! just kidding man is it like morning breath? or just I just ate some food bad breath. Morning breath has to be the worst. When I wake up thats all I taste and ehh ahha Link to post Share on other sites
TheSilentType Posted August 12, 2006 Share Posted August 12, 2006 Tell you that you don't mean to offend him, but as a friend you wanted to let him know that he has bad breath in order to spare him embarrassement when interacting with other people who might notice. Try to state it in such a way that you don't make him feel like you think less of him but that you only want to do something to help improve a minor problem he has. That way he won't feel like you are trying to take a jab at him, and that it was only constructive advice. And don't belabor the point that he has really bad breath because then he may become really self-conscious about it. By the way, you want a FWB with this guy? Ugh! What's the matter with you people. Can't you just go for a real relationship instead of being some escort. Link to post Share on other sites
Brittjean06 Posted August 12, 2006 Share Posted August 12, 2006 If you do decide to approach him that way add some humour to it maybe adding that you have the same problem? just so he doesn't feel to embarrassed! Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted August 13, 2006 Share Posted August 13, 2006 Just tell him. If you make it seem like it's not a big deal to you, then he won't take it hard. Just tell him there is no way you'll ever sleep with him as long as his mouth turns you off. It's a fact of life. Nothing to get upset about. Tell him to brush with hydrogen peroxide on his toothbrush. Tell him to brush thoroughly vertically up along the teeth starting at the gums. You aren't grooming your teeth, you're cleaning them. Tell him to make a trip to the dentist. Tell him you're waiting... Link to post Share on other sites
TJettman Posted August 13, 2006 Share Posted August 13, 2006 Ask him if a cat **** in his mouth. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Puggly Posted August 13, 2006 Author Share Posted August 13, 2006 Or, you could try a more direct approach... You: Your breath could gag a maggot. I mean, it could really knock a buzzard off a sh*t wagon... Yall are so funny. I tryed saying when I have sinus infection I know my breath must be really bad and I ask if he ever had sinus problems. He said he never did........ I never noticed his breath untill he kissed me on the cheek........and I was like Holy Cow. Link to post Share on other sites
witabix Posted August 13, 2006 Share Posted August 13, 2006 Thats it! Holy cow breath. Omg! I hope it never happens to me. (But I know it has) We all have that little problem from time to time. Just tell him, I would prefer that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Puggly Posted August 13, 2006 Author Share Posted August 13, 2006 OK, since we are on the subject of stink, I have this neighbor that has some really funky bo. Do I just tell her? I don't live among a bunch of stinky people, I am just very sensitive to smells. I think my neighbor my have undiagnosed [FONT=Arial]trimethylaminuria, because she stinks in the winter. We are outside a lot gardening or tending to our horses, so my friends and I know to stay upwind of her. I know she has no idea she smells this bad, but I can't ride in a vehicle with her without letting the window down. Do I live in Funk-ville or what? How should I tell this chick she has some serious bo?[/FONT] Link to post Share on other sites
Pink Amulet Posted August 13, 2006 Share Posted August 13, 2006 Type in 'Therabreath' or 'Badbreath-o-gram' in to google. They send a kind, anon, helpful email to the offending person. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted August 13, 2006 Share Posted August 13, 2006 My husband has horrible breath. He brushes/flosses etc. including his tongue, but the bad breath doesn't come from his mouth - its a symptom of some of his other health problems. He will be OK for a short time, but then it gets really bad - I men backed-up toilet/rotten garbage full of old chicken and rotten eggs bad. When he turns on his side facing me at night it will wake me up and I have to turn over and cover my face so I can get back to sleep. When its bad when we are out I hand an Altoid. He's used to me saying to him "Your breath could fell a moose - do something will 'ya!" and he will. Sometimes you just have to be blunt. If they are hurt over it tell him its not bad enough to end your friendship - but because you are a good friend you want him to hear it from you and not from someone who would hold it against him. Link to post Share on other sites
stoopid_guy Posted August 13, 2006 Share Posted August 13, 2006 Does he go to the dentist regularly? Even though he brushes well, it could be a bad cavity. Does he eat a lot of garlic or curry? Some strong spices will practically saturate your system, so even though your teeth and mouth are clean, it still smells. Could be other medical issues too. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted August 13, 2006 Share Posted August 13, 2006 Is he sure he doesn't have gum disease? People pay no attention to 'a little bleeding' when they brush but that's a sign that there's problems. And gum disease breath is foul, foul, foul. Link to post Share on other sites
Craig Posted August 13, 2006 Share Posted August 13, 2006 Just tell him. Guys like the direct approach in these matters. With your neighbor just tell her too and maybe do it with several other people to back you up. If she's sick and undiagnosed she'll thank you (eventually) and you'll know you've done some good in this world. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Puggly Posted August 13, 2006 Author Share Posted August 13, 2006 "Your breath could fell a moose - do something will 'ya!" I have ask a lot of question to rule out gum disease and other health problems, so I don't think it is that. I will suggest a visit to the dentist though. As far as the neighbor, she has some hygiene issues. She doesn't shave above the knee, so you know the muff is a forest of funk. She wont cut her hair and it is scraggly, uneven down past her waist. How do you tell someone like this to clean up and get into this decade? Link to post Share on other sites
Craig Posted August 13, 2006 Share Posted August 13, 2006 As far as the neighbor, she has some hygiene issues. She doesn't shave above the knee, so you know the muff is a forest of funk. She wont cut her hair and it is scraggly, uneven down past her waist. How do you tell someone like this to clean up and get into this decade? Her odor is a potential health concern. I'd leave her 'grooming' practices out of the conversation and just get to the odor issue. She may be peeved for a time but in the end will likely thank you for bringing the issue to her attention. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted August 13, 2006 Share Posted August 13, 2006 Is he sure he doesn't have gum disease? People pay no attention to 'a little bleeding' when they brush but that's a sign that there's problems. And gum disease breath is foul, foul, foul.That's what I was going to say. I'd suspect gum disease. I have a tendency toward plaque, so I get a cleaning every three months and my gums are healthy and pink. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 Be honest but nice about it. "I'm sorry and I really don't mean to hurt your feelings as I do adore you, but maybe you need to go to the dentist (or doctor) and make sure nothing serious is going on inside your mouth because I've noticed that your breath really doesn't smell nice..." Link to post Share on other sites
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