AnotherLovesickTeen Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 hi all... i've been in love with this girl for quite a while, i haven't told her anything but i think she's perfect. The problem is i'm really shy around girls i like so i thought of the idea of writing a love song to express my feelings. I asked a friends opinion and he said it would just make me look totally wierd! Now i don't know what to do. Should I write it or not? Any advice would be appreciated Link to post Share on other sites
britchick Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 Don't do it, your friend is right! If she likes you this may put her off completely. Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 Don't. Unless you are a very popular pop/rock singer whose records are bestsellers, it is unlikely that a love song will be appreciated under these circumstances. Much better to ask her out. Link to post Share on other sites
katriel Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 During the height of the American Civil War, President Lincoln was known to have written some very scathing letters to his generals. The act of writing these letters allowed him to get his anger off his chest, so that he could stop stewing and get on with the work at hand. The thing was, Lincoln was smart enough to realize that such letters might have a detrimental affect upon his relationship with the recipients, so he never mailed them. While you are speaking out of love and not anger, the potential for harm still applies. I think that you have to seperate the act of writing the song from the act of sharing it with this young lady. As a poet, I can relate to your situation. I myself have written poems to young women that I've been smitten with. The act can help to channel what might otherwise be wasted energy into a creative outlet, and can serve as a cathartic release for the emotions. That having been said, I learnt the hard way not to share these pieces with the women in question. When I was a freshman in college I wrote a love poem which I shared with a young lady in hopes of wooing her, with disastrous affects. Outside the context of a love relationship, love songs and poems can come across a bit too strong, and the revelation of deep emotion to someone who does not already share those feelings can be a bit frightening, and has the potential to destroy any potential that might exist. The song will only go over well if she already feels strongly about you, in which case you shouldn't have any trouble winning her affection through less ostentatious methods. My advice would be to write the song but don't give it to her. You may find that it helps you to get your feelings under control. As for the song itself, save it; once you have gotten to know her and your relationship is in full swing, you can dust it off and sing it to her in the proper context. Katriel Link to post Share on other sites
Pink Amulet Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 Do it Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 katriel - great post. Link to post Share on other sites
AnotherLovesickTeen Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 Thanks Katriel for some great advice, and everyone else too. I think i agree now a song would just be coming on too strong and would totally freak a lot of girls out. But i'm gonna go ahead an write it for my sake, and who knows? Maybe one day she'll get to listen to it. In mean time I guess i'll just have pluck up enough courage to ask her out. Anyway i've already got 3 sets of melodies which i could use but i'm having trouble deciding whether any are good enough, if i could find a place on the net to host audio files would anyone be interested in giving me their opinions? I could really do with an objective ear and asking family and friends what they think is kinda embarrassing. Cheers to everyone Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 Outside the context of a love relationship, love songs and poems can come across a bit too strong, and the revelation of deep emotion to someone who does not already share those feelings can be a bit frightening, and has the potential to destroy any potential that might exist. I hear what you're saying about potential-destroying potential. Just kidding. Great post. I could really do with an objective ear and I understand your relentless drive for perfection, but as long as it comes from your heart, she will love it. I think your ear is the only one that matters (I'd go for stereo, though). But file it away for when the time is right. A rainy day, perhaps? The acoustics of humidity are really something else. Link to post Share on other sites
notsure99 Posted August 16, 2006 Share Posted August 16, 2006 dont do it cuz........thats not da rite thing to do just ask her out. What the fu*k u got to lose???? Link to post Share on other sites
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