Guest Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 Hello,Im new here and I just thought I would share this with you all.I'll try to keep it as short as possible.Well last night my husband(married 7 yrs.together14) took me out for my 29th B day.We went to the city and started out sitting in a bar drinking beers.We were both kind of bored and not even sure what to talk about.So we decide to walk over to another and check it out.So were having drinks and trying to make the best of the night.My husband runs into this woman he went to high school with and we were all hangin out talking etc.As the night goes on things started getting wild ,we were quite drunk.somehow this girl and I end up kissing and acting all crazy. when the bar was ready to close we left in our car with them and went to her boyfriends condo.Her and I decided to get naked.so here we are ,drunk as who knows what,naked, and we were telling the guys to get naked.next thing we are all on the floor,she's giving me oral im kissing and touching my husband and her guy is giving her oral.so it kinda fizzles out and we were having smokes and talking and she tells me she always had a crush on him in school.So I'm like you can have sex with him if you want and I ll watch and Im telling my husband to do it .He's like are you sure I dont think your gonna like this and Im like do it do it. So he gives her oral and then she gives him oralnext thing she's on him and they are doin it and then he gets on top and they keep goin until he is done and its over we get dressed and leave.The thing is ,even though I encouraged it,it hurt me especially today being sober.but now I realize maybe more then ever that i dont want to share him ever again and sex is something special and meaningful and is for people who are in love.why did it take this to make me realize this. now I feel so dirty and just want to not act like that ever again.I just want to put everything ive got into my marriage.How do we move on?to any one thinking of this kind of thing,DONT DO IT. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 You two may need to go to marriage counselling...And, stop drinking for a while, take this as a sign to stop and know that BOTH of you are capable of doing things that you normally wouldn't do sober. I'm sorry that you're feeling bad about this, and hurt - I'm sure your husband is abit confused and upset as well. Talk to him about how you feel, how it was all a bad mistake, you regret it and never want it to happen again. Link to post Share on other sites
Brittjean06 Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 What does your husband think of what happend? Link to post Share on other sites
Annacabana Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 I agree that you need to stop drinking and go to marriage counseling. You have played with fire and you may get burned. Either by a STD or by having your husband fall for another woman. Sex isn't just a physical act,it's spiritual, two become one, so your hubby became one with another woman. Also, if you all had been drinking you shouldn't be driving. Why put your life and innocent lives in danger. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 Well,thank you all for reading my post and for your advice/input.My husband and I had a talk and he said it didnt feel right to him either.Alot of things that needed to come out came out and we both promised to be faithful to eachother forever.We have alot of work to do on our relationship and cant afford counseling, can someone recomend a self help book that might help?Any other advice on moving on would be great too.thanks Link to post Share on other sites
littlekitty Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 Try marriagebuilders.com. I hear it's a very useful resource. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 Well,thank you all for reading my post and for your advice/input.My husband and I had a talk and he said it didnt feel right to him either.Alot of things that needed to come out came out and we both promised to be faithful to eachother forever.We have alot of work to do on our relationship and cant afford counseling, can someone recomend a self help book that might help?Any other advice on moving on would be great too.thanks That's good to hear, that he is having regrets as well. As long as both of you are willing not to let that happen again, and keep communicating - Then things should be okay. That and stop drinking. Link to post Share on other sites
jonesgirly Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 What kind of beer were you drinking ? (J/K) Link to post Share on other sites
LittleLady Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 HAHA. This STORY is very funny. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted August 15, 2006 Share Posted August 15, 2006 HAHA. This STORY is very funny. Funny???How so???Im failing to see the humor. Link to post Share on other sites
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