Can watching porn together disrupt a couple's sex life?

[Guest9000]

I was wondering if you've heard of this site called Blog TV where you can watch couples having sex live or sometimes individuals showing their bodies live on the internet. Usually they don't show their faces..

Anyway my boyfriend logs onto it a few nights a week. I've watched it a few times with him... Usually it is quite "boring" as it is quite rare to see 2 people actually doing the act, and many times it is just a female showing cleavage and "teasing" the viewers, or she my be in underpants "dancing' around.. they do take the stuff off, but it is quite slow...

 

I'm wondering if this could have an effect on our own sex life because sometimes I get pissed off when we're watching it. For example I touch him, but his eyes are glued to the screen, while I look at him... I got upset a few nights ago and said, "Why don't you also look at me?" I got up and said I couldn't take it anymore. I felt he was paying more attention to the woman jiggling her melons and bum than me, as I was sitting next to him naked.

 

I don't mind looking at this stuff at all with him but I get very jealous if I feel he is more interested in the pictures on the screen than me. If he was paying more attention to me while I looked at pictures I would like it, as it would be a "balance" but I feel it is always the other way around.

 

Any advice out there? Should I just suggest we stop looking at this site together for a while? Am I over-reacting?

[norajane]

If he's more interested in watching strangers jiggle than in having naked fun with you, no, I don't think you're over-reacting.

 

What I'd suggest is talking to him about how this makes you feel - talk to him when his eyes are not glued to the screen, but maybe when you're in the car together or some other non-sexual time. Something like, "I don't mind you looking at that site, but when you ignore me when I'm there with you, I feel hurt, unsexy, and unloved, and then I don't have any sexual desire for you at all."

 

If it makes you uncomfortable, certainly stop watching it with him!

[Guest]

im not saying you do, but resist the urge to sit next to your dude naked (unless you just finished doing something) cause your taking away all the mystery.

 

I just recently broke up with this really hot girl because i lost interest in her partly, i think, because she was naked so often and so easily that she lost all mystery.