sunnyone Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 I wonder what others think of this. Friday night I was out with my friends one guy and one gal. They just started to see each other. My boyfriend was also out, but shooting pool on another table. This guy just happens to look a lot like my ex. Any way, my friends and I were talking about why it seems to be more acceptable for two women to be together sexually but less acceptable for two men to be together sexually. My boyfriend over heard parts of this conversation and became very angry. He believes I should not talk this way with other men. He feels I was approching infidelity. His thought is if you talk about something intimate (I didn't and still don't think of it as intimate) it opens the door for intimate relations. What do you think? Link to post Share on other sites
DarkMessenger Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 That's a tough one... It's a whole guy thing... I personally, am quite an insecure guy and I'm good at spotting things that aren't quite right (there or not).. In my experience it seems that if a guy hears his girlfriend talking about anything sexual to another man then their brain goes onto the defensive straight away... I'm guilty of it and I have, in the past, blamed my girlfriend for people making a sexual joke to her... I don't think you were wrong... Just see it from his (limited) point of view.. his view is just this: "She's talking about sexual things with a guy that isn't me"... Guys are jealous animals, often easy to please, but quick to take things the wrong way... Just try and talk things through with him, try and make him see that it was just a bit of a laugh... (You could always point out that nothing could have happened since he was there.. but try and make it not sound like something may have happened if he wasn't there) Link to post Share on other sites
Cecelius Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 Depends on where your sensibilities are, and how much you'll put up with. My g/f tends to be the "one of the guys" type -- meaning, she gets offended if people try to treat her with kid gloves. On the other hand, occasionally, I am unthrilled to be with the girl who is ALWAYS wherever there are inappropriate jokes, etc., that the other girls never seem to be the lightning rod for. If this was a one time event, I dunno -- it doesn't seem that you did anything wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
john2776 Posted August 15, 2006 Share Posted August 15, 2006 occasionally, I am unthrilled to be with the girl who is ALWAYS wherever there are inappropriate jokes, etc., that the other girls never seem to be the lightning rod for. Hey Cecelius, this almost sounds like my GF. How do you account for the lightning rod phenomenum? What I never understand is how the guys seem to 'get' that they can run with inappropriate jokes with my GF (and yours). To the OP, I can understand your BF's point of view, but it sounds like he is overreacting a bit. Given that he is sensative to it, you could always avoid sexual conversations with other guys. For example I cannot recall the last time I would have had a sexual conversation with a girl other than my GF. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sunnyone Posted August 15, 2006 Author Share Posted August 15, 2006 As badly as this has turned out, there will be no more conversations like this. I was a group conversation...it wasn't just the two of us talking. If I thought it was going to offend him, I wouldn't have been involved. I surely wouldn't have spoke openly (I didn't whisper). Link to post Share on other sites
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