a4a Posted August 15, 2006 Share Posted August 15, 2006 Well, a4a, that is quite possible. Some people do have some "different" turn-ons. Well it worked! He got home and I chucked a empty beer can at his head. Told him he is worthless because he cannot afford to even buy me a camel and a swimming pool. I then forced him to bake me a cake. Told him it tasted like crap and I hoped his sexual performance was better than his baking skills. After sex I told him " Is that the best you can do... loser!" He cried. So I told him to shut the hell up or I will give him something to cry about. Then I handed him several catalogs where I had dog earred the pages with the items I expect him to purchase for me. I then instructed him to rub my feet. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted August 15, 2006 Share Posted August 15, 2006 Well, I'm another statistic that can vouch for 10 years of marriage leading to a non existant sex life. I think a lot of people are missing the point - there are a lot of different reasons as to why this happens, but the fact is in the vast majority of marriages - the sex life vanishes. When I read a thread like this I wonder why I am going to get married again, especially when I currently have sex at least once a day with my GF.... Some people never learn My sexual desire has changed since marriage. As a matter a fact it has increased. Do you think some women use sex as a "marriage trap?" Link to post Share on other sites
Author superconductor Posted August 15, 2006 Author Share Posted August 15, 2006 Do you think some women use sex as a "marriage trap?" Happens all the time. It may even be more the rule rather than the exception, speaking from both personal experience and that of my married buddies. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted August 15, 2006 Share Posted August 15, 2006 Happens all the time. It may even be more the rule rather than the exception, speaking from both personal experience and that of my married buddies. I am starting to wonder if my H used sex as a marriage trap to capture me. that bastard! Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted August 15, 2006 Share Posted August 15, 2006 I am starting to wonder if my H used sex as a marriage trap to capture me. that bastard! Hell, me too A! Because my husband would definitely not agree with the statement about "all women" and "wedding cake". Not with me. I told him the other night that he had "P control" on me! Isn't there a song called that?? He's been married three times- yeah, I'm number three. The first time he was very young and it didn't last long. The second time she left him for someone else. In both cases he said the same thing-lots of sex before marriage- and that it cooled immediately after. Since I want it everyday and he only wants it about every two I think I'm the exception to the rule! Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted August 15, 2006 Share Posted August 15, 2006 Since I want it everyday and he only wants it about every two I think I'm the exception to the rule! Your not alone........ Although I am thinking of quitting sex cold turkey. See how that frigid bastard feels about that. I have to lure him in with a pre sex BJ..... along with the stand alone bjs that happen at least once a week. All that stupid cuddly crap he wants, the back massages he gives me than rolls over and sleeps, leaving me in a state of frenzied sexual neediness! I need a support buddy.... will you be my just say no to sex support buddy? I really need to turn this around and give him about 2 weeks of severe blue balls........ I need help!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Asafan Posted August 15, 2006 Share Posted August 15, 2006 I would be glad to service you ladies any time you need it. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted August 15, 2006 Share Posted August 15, 2006 I would be glad to service you ladies any time you need it. I bet if I posted my real pic you would already be at my front door So can you bake? ...................... Link to post Share on other sites
Asafan Posted August 15, 2006 Share Posted August 15, 2006 I bet if I posted my real pic you would already be at my front door So can you bake? ...................... You mean the pic in your avatar ain't you? False advertising if I ever saw it. And yes I bake, and I am an awesome cook. Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted August 15, 2006 Share Posted August 15, 2006 I need a support buddy.... will you be my just say no to sex support buddy? I'm not there yet A- but give me a few more months I might be!!! He's really been making an effort lately to step it up in the bedroom!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted August 15, 2006 Share Posted August 15, 2006 I would be glad to service you ladies any time you need it. Ummm, that kind of stuff already cost me one husband. I better pass. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted August 15, 2006 Share Posted August 15, 2006 I'm not there yet A- but give me a few more months I might be!!! He's really been making an effort lately to step it up in the bedroom!!! Did you beat him with a stick or what? Link to post Share on other sites
AManWithTroubles Posted August 16, 2006 Share Posted August 16, 2006 ...All that stupid cuddly crap he wants, the back massages he gives me than rolls over and sleeps, leaving me in a state of frenzied sexual neediness! Wow. Men can't win, can they? You know how many times we are told, as men, to give our wives massages without expecting sex in return? And you have the one man who can accomplish this, yet you complain? I think you need children, that will slow your sex drive down to nothing. Then he'll be on here, begging for answers of how to get sex. Link to post Share on other sites
americat Posted August 16, 2006 Share Posted August 16, 2006 Originally Posted by a4a ...All that stupid cuddly crap he wants, the back massages he gives me than rolls over and sleeps, leaving me in a state of frenzied sexual neediness! Wow. Men can't win, can they? You know how many times we are told, as men, to give our wives massages without expecting sex in return? And you have the one man who can accomplish this, yet you complain? I think you need children, that will slow your sex drive down to nothing. Then he'll be on here, begging for answers of how to get sex. LOL. I'm sorry but all of this is so comical. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted August 16, 2006 Share Posted August 16, 2006 Wow. Men can't win, can they? You know how many times we are told, as men, to give our wives massages without expecting sex in return? And you have the one man who can accomplish this, yet you complain? I think you need children, that will slow your sex drive down to nothing. Then he'll be on here, begging for answers of how to get sex. Well maybe when men figure out that not every woman has the same wants and desires out of life and quit thinking in the terms of ALL WOMEN then maybe they will start to get a small hint on how to keep THEIR woman happy. See women are individuals.......some really horny some are frigid As for kids...... not a chance in hell.... don't like em, don't want em.....oh but I guess that is out of the norm so not understandable to men with the need to use generalizations is it? I want a boat.... how is that for a womanly desire?..... and a camel.... :lmao: I on the rare occassion may light up a cigar with the boys too........ women are not supposed to like sex and be shy about it. men always want it and will screw anything that moves within 2 feet of them yeah yeah yeah...right.... ummm huh. Link to post Share on other sites
AManWithTroubles Posted August 16, 2006 Share Posted August 16, 2006 I'm not generalizing one bit; maybe I am only pointing something out. You have your life one way, yet you complain about it. Let's say your husband, instead of massaging you, just starts feeling your butt and then plays with your nipples. Then he proceeds to the gold, before you are even ready to respond. Now, at this moment, you are probably thinking that this is a good thing. But if you were in that same boat every night, you would more than likely become a little upset. You would question why he never touches you without wanting sex. Of course, I may be wrong, and your drive may really be that high, but I somehow doubt that. I just think the human mind is kinda funny, and we always seem to have a "grass is greener on the other side" attitude towards life. Oh, and by the way, kids are wonderful. You should really try them out. I like them better than adults, sometimes. They like to play, and don't get mad about you being you. But I think my personality is very immature sometimes, and that's why I get along with children. My wife, however, thinks I am a big kid. Post #100 Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted August 16, 2006 Share Posted August 16, 2006 I'm not generalizing one bit; maybe I am only pointing something out. You have your life one way, yet you complain about it. Let's say your husband, instead of massaging you, just starts feeling your butt and then plays with your nipples. Then he proceeds to the gold, before you are even ready to respond. Now, at this moment, you are probably thinking that this is a good thing. But if you were in that same boat every night, you would more than likely become a little upset. You would question why he never touches you without wanting sex. Of course, I may be wrong, and your drive may really be that high, but I somehow doubt that. I just think the human mind is kinda funny, and we always seem to have a "grass is greener on the other side" attitude towards life. Oh, and by the way, kids are wonderful. You should really try them out. I like them better than adults, sometimes. They like to play, and don't get mad about you being you. But I think my personality is very immature sometimes, and that's why I get along with children. My wife, however, thinks I am a big kid. I have had many men in my life that constantly go for the gold. There is middle ground ya know? I mean I doubt my H would appreciate it if I was trying to blow him 24/7 as well :lmao: I tried kids..... friends kids..relatives kids, good kids, bad kids.... no thanks. No desire to have them in my life for more than maybe an hour a week max if forced.....low kid tolerance level. Babies gross me out Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted August 16, 2006 Share Posted August 16, 2006 Did you beat him with a stick or what? Nah, he's kinda Dr. Phillish on relationships in a way-so I sat him down and told him what I needed that he wasn't providing. He is the kind of guy you can talk to like that- but my ex was not! Link to post Share on other sites
americat Posted August 16, 2006 Share Posted August 16, 2006 I have had many men in my life that constantly go for the gold. There is middle ground ya know? I mean I doubt my H would appreciate it if I was trying to blow him 24/7 as well :lmao: I tried kids..... friends kids..relatives kids, good kids, bad kids.... no thanks. No desire to have them in my life for more than maybe an hour a week max if forced.....low kid tolerance level. Babies gross me out Motherhood isn't for everyone. And your husband has the same thoughts on the matter? That's fine. Maybe adding some stress to your life or reducing stress in his life will balance it out. I don't know if you take birth control pills but that also lowers the sex drive. Or maybe get him on some viagra. But there are always health risks involved. How often do you guys get intimate? Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted August 17, 2006 Share Posted August 17, 2006 Motherhood isn't for everyone. And your husband has the same thoughts on the matter? That's fine. Maybe adding some stress to your life or reducing stress in his life will balance it out. I don't know if you take birth control pills but that also lowers the sex drive. Or maybe get him on some viagra. But there are always health risks involved. How often do you guys get intimate? :lmao: yeah he needs some viagra. add some stress? Sex is major stress relief? I know there is a study out there somewhere. Otter knows where it is 5 times a week is our avg...... but it is not the lack of sex it is who starts it. I don't think my H wants to be a mother. Link to post Share on other sites
Asafan Posted August 17, 2006 Share Posted August 17, 2006 5 times a week is our avg...... You're getting it 5x a week and are complaining!!! I've only been married 4 years and already I am only getting the once a week obligatory sex. Damn woman is always ill Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted August 17, 2006 Share Posted August 17, 2006 You're getting it 5x a week and are complaining!!! I've only been married 4 years and already I am only getting the once a week obligatory sex. Damn woman is always ill my complaint is not about the sex or amount..... it is great! my complaint is that I am the one to have to always initiate it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author superconductor Posted August 17, 2006 Author Share Posted August 17, 2006 my complaint is that I am the one to have to always initiate it. Welcome to the world of men. (I know you're 100% female, but being the initiator and the one who gets rebuffed is generally a male's cross to bear.) Link to post Share on other sites
stoopid_guy Posted August 17, 2006 Share Posted August 17, 2006 Welcome to the world of men. (I know you're 100% female, but being the initiator and the one who gets rebuffed is generally a male's cross to bear.) :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
melodymatters Posted August 27, 2006 Share Posted August 27, 2006 Biological fact : Men reach their sexual peak at around 18, woman around 40. If you are with a guy your own age ( and your in your 30's,40's,50's) it is more likely that YOU want it more than he does, and can do it more often. This is a compromise I accept because I don't want to date immature 20 somethings, but I WISH God or whoever set it up, put a little more thought into it !!! Link to post Share on other sites
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