samsungxoxo Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 Yea, like the thread says, I was wondering why the heck you need a ring to get marry. If you want, couldn't you do it without any rings at all. Nothing is eternal by the way. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 Wedding rings are a powerful symbol in our society. Engagement rings are as well. Of course you can marry without them, but most people believe the symbol is important. Link to post Share on other sites
SoCalCatman72 Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 Technically, I don't believe you need a ring. It's a symbolic act of enduring love for one another....i.e. "This couple has chosen to exchange rings as a symbol of their love for one another. The ring, like your love has no end, The precious metal and stones contained within these rings is a symbol of the preciousness of the love you have for one another." Some couples light a unity candle, some exchange handwritten vows, to each their own. Man, I should got ordained as a minister online.....Homer Simpson style. Link to post Share on other sites
Author samsungxoxo Posted August 14, 2006 Author Share Posted August 14, 2006 Then you hear about some couples already getting divorce and what about the ring?? It would be history then. Also I don't see being necessarily marry in church important (lol, I'm atheist). Link to post Share on other sites
bab Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 To each his own. I know people without rings, and they seem perfectly happy with their decision. It doesn't have to be a big deal. I do think of my hubby when I look at my rings and it makes me smile. But our marriage would be just as valid without them. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 rings are a personal choice. DH doesn't wear one, because when we married he worked on aircraft and was very leery about his hand getting caught in machinery because of jewelry. He's retired now, but still doesn't wear one. I've got a nice one he brought back from Saudi, but I wear it maybe 50 percent of the time because my hands swell and they feel a bit too snug, especially when I have to do a lot of typing at work. But, it was that symbolic little something I wanted, otherwise, I don't really care for jewelry. as for the marriage dissolving and being stuck with the jewelry? Hock them or, if you've got rugrats, save them to give to them. That's what my sister did, and I recently noticed my 23yoa nephew wearing his dad's ring on a chain around his neck. I imagine his little brother has hocked the jewelry his mom has given him, he's a greedy-guts at times. Nothing is eternal by the way. :laugh: reminds me of that joke: What's the difference between love and herpes? Herpes is forever. Link to post Share on other sites
kulyok Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 Wedding rings are important to know this person is married. A while ago, I met a guy who flirted with me quite a lot, and I was rather shocked to know some weeks later he was married and had a baby daughter. He didn't wear a ring. Flirting with me while married was bad enough, but because he did not wear a ring, he hurt my feelings, as well - it was a plain lie. If I saw the ring from the beginning, I'd just get away from this guy after the first indication of him crossing the barrier. A plain gold wedding ring bears a clear social message: "This person is given for life. Do not go for her, boys, whatever she does. Stay away from him, girls, he is married." Can't say I favour engagement rings, though. Ones with diamonds. They cost a fortune, if something happens, they have to be returned, they can easily be lost or stolen, and I don't usually wear more than one ring at once, so wedding ring would replace it anyway. I'll have a teddy bear any time instead. (But well. Honestly, for me the ring would bear the one and only message: He loves me. And I imagine some day I'll like to receive it.) Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 Wedding rings are important to know this person is married. A while ago, I met a guy who flirted with me quite a lot, and I was rather shocked to know some weeks later he was married and had a baby daughter. He didn't wear a ring. That is a rather specious argument for the case of a wedding ring. The thing in & of itself has no bearing on the moral character of its owner. He, or she, could just take it off. It's not welded to the finger. I believe that in the Church of England a ring is required to get married, but it doesn't matter what it is made of. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 A ring shows ownership of sorts IMHO. I have one and have not worn it since our wedding day..... My H went nutso when he misplaced his after taking a shower, he likes wearing it. Why not just get a nuptial tattoo? Now that would show real commitment! Link to post Share on other sites
Brittanyjean06 Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 It is a symbol, but marriage lately seems to be the new trend for society. Why marry in the first place? why do people need that label when you both know of your commitment to eachother. I guess my views on that will change when I find that someone who I will want to marry. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 It is a symbol, but marriage lately seems to be the new trend for society. Why marry in the first place? why do people need that label when you both know of your commitment to eachother. I guess my views on that will change when I find that someone who I will want to marry. There is quite a bit of legal crap involved, health benefits, property rights, medical..... blah blah blah. It is a legal contract of sorts. I think the trend is more like : get married so you can get divorced :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
Brittanyjean06 Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 I guess things are cheaper as whole rather than half right? Its kind of sad that I have the mind set of " I wonder when I will get married...and I wonder when I'll get divorced " pinned in my head. Its like I am 100% certain I will get divorced. And If I don't happen to get divorced than I am most likely just staying in my comfort zone. What a bad way to think about things. I guess marriage to me meens. Married " forever "..........Momentarily. There are some married cuples that stay happily married and in love forever, I some how feel I won't be that lucky:). lol Link to post Share on other sites
Brittanyjean06 Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 I guess things are cheaper as whole rather than half right? Its kind of sad that I have the mind set of " I wonder when I will get married...and I wonder when I'll get divorced " pinned in my head. Its like I am 100% certain I will get divorced. And If I don't happen to get divorced than I am most likely just staying in my comfort zone. What a bad way to think about things. I guess marriage to me meens. Married " forever "..........Momentarily. There are some married cuples that stay happily married and in love forever, I some how feel I won't be that lucky:). lol Link to post Share on other sites
kulyok Posted August 14, 2006 Share Posted August 14, 2006 That is a rather specious argument for the case of a wedding ring. The thing in & of itself has no bearing on the moral character of its owner. He, or she, could just take it off. It's not welded to the finger. I would question whether the marriage in question would be healthy for me personally, then. To me wearing a ring means the same as being faithful for life, or staying together for life - these vows come together. So not wearing a ring... yes, for me it is a huge red flag. Doesn't quite equal to a two-timing husband, but close. But I guess it is different for everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
john1776 Posted August 15, 2006 Share Posted August 15, 2006 I have no desire to buy a ring or receive one when I do get married. To me not buying one would be a silly reason for my girlfriend to break up with me. That means she would be more in love with the ring than me the person. By the way those religious observances at church weddings are so stupid! I have not attended a wedding in 15 years and I never will attend one again. Whenever I'm invitied to a friend's wedding I just turn it down. I don't like church or being inside church buildings. I hate religion. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted August 15, 2006 Share Posted August 15, 2006 By the way those religious observances at church weddings are so stupid! I have not attended a wedding in 15 years and I never will attend one again. Whenever I'm invitied to a friend's wedding I just turn it down. I don't like church or being inside church buildings. I hate religion. I don't enter a church either....... I fear I will spontaneously combust. Kinda feels hypocritical for me to go along with rituals I don't believe in and I am sitting there in silence mocking what I find to be nonsense. Link to post Share on other sites
cld24 Posted September 1, 2006 Share Posted September 1, 2006 Me & my husband don't wear rings yet. When we got engaged he asked if I wanted a ring and I told him no because I don't need a ring to remember we are engaged. I also told him we can save the money he would have spent on a ring to go towards our "real" wedding or other bills we have. We are going to wear rings after we have our "real" wedding which is the ceremony where both of our families and friends attend. We only had a cute little marriage ceremony with no one in attendance since we were out of town when we married. I think some people focus on the rings more than the fact they are with the one the love. It will make me smile every time I look at my ring cause I will think of my sweetie! Link to post Share on other sites
onmyownagain Posted September 1, 2006 Share Posted September 1, 2006 I have been married for 10 years but didn't wear a ring for the first nine years. We parted for three months, but now I am back home I wear one with pride:-) My wife has always worn her rings it shows people you are married and taken and when out with friends without your partner it should let others know to stay away. Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted September 2, 2006 Share Posted September 2, 2006 I don't like church or being inside church buildings. I hate religion. Hah, I feel the same way. As for rings, they are a nice symbolic thing but shouldn't too big of a focus. As for engagement rings, I don't remember who wrote about it on here but someone mentioned having a synthetic diamond in theirs, I decided that that's what I would want in mine. Link to post Share on other sites
TattooedPrincess Posted September 2, 2006 Share Posted September 2, 2006 I like the rings for symbolic reasons and quite frankly I am into symbolic things to begin with. Hah, I feel the same way. As for rings, they are a nice symbolic thing but shouldn't too big of a focus. As for engagement rings, I don't remember who wrote about it on here but someone mentioned having a synthetic diamond in theirs, I decided that that's what I would want in mine. Nothing wrong with synthetic diamond which I think they are called Cubic Zirconia. As a matter fact IMHO CZ are better looking then diamonds. People put to much emphasis on a piece of rock. Diamonds are over valued to begin with. Link to post Share on other sites
bab Posted September 2, 2006 Share Posted September 2, 2006 Nothing wrong with synthetic diamond which I think they are called Cubic Zirconia. As a matter fact IMHO CZ are better looking then diamonds. People put to much emphasis on a piece of rock. Diamonds are over valued to begin with. Nope they are different. CZ are an entirely different stone. A synthetic diamond is still a diamond, it is just created in a lab instead of inside the earth. Since they can be created, they aer not as rare, and hence are cheaper. But it's nearly impossible to tell the difference between a naturally formed diamond and a synthetic one. Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted September 3, 2006 Share Posted September 3, 2006 Nope they are different. CZ are an entirely different stone. A synthetic diamond is still a diamond, it is just created in a lab instead of inside the earth. Since they can be created, they aer not as rare, and hence are cheaper. But it's nearly impossible to tell the difference between a naturally formed diamond and a synthetic one. Yeah, thats what I want. I'm annoyed at the 'who has a bigger rock' craze, and I don't think that getting in to debt over a ring is a good way to start a life together. Though, it's not like I'm geting engaged any time soon, if ever Link to post Share on other sites
rainfall Posted September 3, 2006 Share Posted September 3, 2006 I personally do not see the need to have a ring. I never plan on getting married, I am perfectly happy keeping thing the way they are between me and my boyfriend. We are basically married as it is we just don;t have the contract with the state to prove it. However if for some reason he ever decides we need to be married I am going to tell him unless it means alot to him I'd rather not have a ring. However I can see why some people would want one. It symbolizes their love, or maybe "ownership":confused: ..either way though whatever works for them. Link to post Share on other sites
Joelle Posted September 3, 2006 Share Posted September 3, 2006 I'm in the minority here. Speaking only for myself, having a nice engagement ring & wedding band was really important to me. Ever since I was a child, I loved jewelry. I fantasized about my dream engagement ring & wedding ring while other girls fantasized about their wedding. To me, as a jewelry lover, the engagement ring & wedding band are the most meaningful pieces of jewelry. When I was engaged, my then-fiance and I decided not to have a wedding or honeymoon (for personal reasons), so the engagement ring & wedding band became increasingly important because they were the only symbols of our marriage I would have. Thankfully, my then-fiance was able to afford my dream engagment ring & wedding band. I almost fell off my chair when he presented me with my dream ring. We've been married for several years, and I enjoy my rings everyday. Also, I receive compliments on them on a regular basis. My most recent compliment was two weeks ago. My engagement ring & wedding rings are very meaningful and important to me, but I respect that not everybody feels that way about those rings, and that's okay with me. Link to post Share on other sites
CrushedOrgans Posted September 3, 2006 Share Posted September 3, 2006 the ring used to be almost like an insurance policy for the wife in case something happened to the husband and she had to support her own family. with the ring, she would have something to hawk for money for food, clothes, etc, until she figured out permanent arrangements. now it's what's called tradition. you don't have to like it, but don't knock people who do. Link to post Share on other sites
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