Cupcake Posted August 15, 2006 Share Posted August 15, 2006 Been dating this guy for a month. We had sex for the first time last week. This past weekend, he called me every day to see what I was doing. Friday night, I wanted to go out. He wanted to stay in and have sex. He came to my house. We talked for a while. Had sex. Then he left. He called me Saturday afternoon to see what my plans were. I didn't have any. He said he wanted to hang out later but he would call me to let me know for sure. He called back at 6:30pm. We couldn't agree on what to do. So he finally said he was tired and didn't want to do anything. By that time, it was too late for me to make any other plans. He called me Suday afternoon to see if I had plans for the evening. We made plans for him to come over to my place and hang out. But an hour before he was to come, he called and canceled again. Said he was tired. First thing this moring, he calls me to see if I had plans for the day. I told him yes, eventhough I don't. The reason is that I feel like he's calling me every day to make sure that I'm not dating anyone else. Canceling the plans is annoying and controlling. I really like this guy. But I don't know how to deal with this. I don't want to just kick him out of my life. Any advice on why he's doing this? Link to post Share on other sites
vi_pn Posted August 15, 2006 Share Posted August 15, 2006 booty call...trust me you're best interest...don't answer your phone when he calls Link to post Share on other sites
Rossco Posted August 15, 2006 Share Posted August 15, 2006 Agree.....don't answer the phone. Link to post Share on other sites
Brittanyjean06 Posted August 15, 2006 Share Posted August 15, 2006 What a jerk! if it isn't a bottay call, than he obviously is wearing the pants in the " relationship " Start ignoring him and don't tell him how you feel about it otherwise he will just try to straighten his act together. Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted August 15, 2006 Share Posted August 15, 2006 No idea why he is acting this way, unless it's a kind of test to see how much stupid behaviour you will put up with. Has he ever been like this before last week? Instead of not picking up the phone, make plans yourself *also* for the next week that do *not* include him. Next time he calls and asks you if you are busy the day/evening, do like you already did and tell him that you are going somewhere with a friend of yours. (but this time go *actually* somewhere with a friend and have fun!) He can't expect you to wait for his last minute calls, can he? If he complains, he has no right to. He can't expect you to cancel your plans to hang out with him after he has cancelled two dates with you in a row, can he? Link to post Share on other sites
typical Posted August 15, 2006 Share Posted August 15, 2006 Also, he could be tired and is resting. Saturday and Sunday are usually down time days to catch up on sleep, laundry, shopping and whatnot. Although, now that I think of it, he could have invited you over his house to laze around and watch a movie.....Perhaps your suggestions were active ones, and he didnt feel like going out and doing much of anything, but didnt want to seem like an old man.. Or he could have been suffering through a serious bout of diarrhea Or he could have a GF Or he is just a selfish, manipulating, controlling freak that wants you all to himself. All of these reasons are good reasons to wait and not accept him so easily. Link to post Share on other sites
TJettman Posted August 15, 2006 Share Posted August 15, 2006 What kind of relationship is this? A ****ty one. Get out now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cupcake Posted August 15, 2006 Author Share Posted August 15, 2006 The first time he said he was tired, I offered to visit his place for a movie, beer, and whatever. He had all these excuses why I couldn't go to his house: 1) The house is too dirty because my roomate had a bachelor party. 2) The only thing I do here is pay my half of the rent, eat and sleep. So I don't have company over because I'm rarely ever home. 3) Right now I'm saving up to get my on place then I will invite you over. 4) My roomate is very particular about visitors and he owns the house so I have to respect his rules. In the month that I've known him, I've never been over to his house. He's 36 years old. Has a great job. We've talked about financial planning and he seems to be intelligent about money. I don't know what's going on. Link to post Share on other sites
vi_pn Posted August 16, 2006 Share Posted August 16, 2006 The first time he said he was tired, I offered to visit his place for a movie, beer, and whatever. He had all these excuses why I couldn't go to his house: 1) The house is too dirty because my roomate had a bachelor party. 2) The only thing I do here is pay my half of the rent, eat and sleep. So I don't have company over because I'm rarely ever home. 3) Right now I'm saving up to get my on place then I will invite you over. 4) My roomate is very particular about visitors and he owns the house so I have to respect his rules. In the month that I've known him, I've never been over to his house. He's 36 years old. Has a great job. We've talked about financial planning and he seems to be intelligent about money. I don't know what's going on. And I thought my guy (booty call) was immature at age 31! Girl...he's lonely...he wants what his hand can't give him. Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted August 16, 2006 Share Posted August 16, 2006 The first time he said he was tired, I offered to visit his place for a movie, beer, and whatever. He had all these excuses why I couldn't go to his house: 1) The house is too dirty because my roomate had a bachelor party. 2) The only thing I do here is pay my half of the rent, eat and sleep. So I don't have company over because I'm rarely ever home. 3) Right now I'm saving up to get my on place then I will invite you over. 4) My roomate is very particular about visitors and he owns the house so I have to respect his rules. In the month that I've known him, I've never been over to his house. He's 36 years old. Has a great job. We've talked about financial planning and he seems to be intelligent about money. I don't know what's going on. Sweetie, Is it possible he's married? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cupcake Posted August 16, 2006 Author Share Posted August 16, 2006 Sweetie, Is it possible he's married? He told me he has never been married. Has been engaged twice. He doesn't have any children. But anything is possible since I've never been to his house. I'm still getting to know him. Link to post Share on other sites
Rossco Posted August 16, 2006 Share Posted August 16, 2006 Trust me....if he REALLY wanted some lovin' he wouldn't care what his place looked like. He would mention the mess (or whatever) and hoped it wouldn't bother you too much. If it's a roomate problem, give it a little more time so he can mention you to him and let him (the roomate) know he might want to have you over soon. Some guys are afraid of girls doing the "unexpected visits" once they know where they live....so that could be it too. Link to post Share on other sites
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