How to make the husband horny?

[a4a]

Ok for all you sex starved nympho women out there with men with avg. sex drives........ this one is for you too!

 

Now I do get the hot monkey loving at least every other day..........

 

But I always seem to be the one to initiate it (YAWN).

 

So tips and tricks to switch this around?

 

Should I attempt to just quit trying to initiate it?

 

My H and I have talked about this in depth, apparently he has this huge respect issue with me and thinks that if he puts the moves on me that it is making me just a sex toy of sorts....... sweet but boring...

 

I want some throw me up against the wall hot sex with a little naked chasing around the house..... tired of being treated like the virgin mary.

[bluechocolate]

Not a sex starved nympho woman here, but you reminded me of a song....

 

 

damn is that all I get from you?

bound to give me an attitude.

you need to make love to me like you don't love me.

 

just do me baby

act like I'm not your lady

come on & drive me crazy

do me like you wanna do them other girls

[a4a]

Not a sex starved nympho woman here, but you reminded me of a song....

 

 

damn is that all I get from you?

bound to give me an attitude.

you need to make love to me like you don't love me.

 

just do me baby

act like I'm not your lady

come on & drive me crazy

do me like you wanna do them other girls

 

ehh but he don't wanna do the other girls...... he be all picky and crap.

 

no porn........ no strippers..... nada....... I think his ideal pin up girl would be Mother Teresa.

 

Don't get me wrong I know I have an excellent H..... a rare find. Hot, kind, well built , dotes on me, respect, smart, and hot...... did I mention hot?

 

I think maybe he needs to be made a tad jealous???? But I could not outright flirt on purpose....... he hides his jealousy very well.

 

That Bastard!

[Adunaphel]

Would hanging around in some jump-my-bones clothes (without initiating contact) for a while help him overcome the respect issue?

[littlekitty]

How about running around the house naked and tagging him...! 'Your it....'

 

Tell him you want to be treated all slutty....!!

[a4a]

Would hanging around in some jump-my-bones clothes (without initiating contact) for a while help him overcome the respect issue?

 

Done did that........ he looks but will not approach... I see him look..... he makes comments...... but out of his own mouth he stops himself because of his respect issues.

 

he needs a shrink

[a4a]

How about running around the house naked and tagging him...! 'Your it....'

 

Tell him you want to be treated all slutty....!!

 

Do that all the time........ like before hitting the shower.... run out.....flash him or grab his butt and run off.... he just laughs.......

 

He will not even talk dirty to me unless it is jokingly.... never would dare say

"sucky my weiner" or such things..... not that I find that a turn on but this respect issue is stopping his initiation.

 

He does get funky tho...... but only if I initiate it....then he goes for it all the way.

 

Should I just cut him off and force him to make the moves if he wants it?

 

(god how can I do that for too long........ I will suffer)

[tinktronik]

Tell him thats what you fantasize about . Him chasing you around all horny and out of controll .Oh wait no , that would be my fantasy . Okay tell him something to that effect and that if he does not do it soon you will die.

[norajane]

My H and I have talked about this in depth, apparently he has this huge respect issue with me and thinks that if he puts the moves on me that it is making me just a sex toy of sorts....... sweet but boring...

 

No, no, he's got it backwards. He's YOUR sex toy, and therefore him putting the moves on you just means he's letting you play with YOUR toys.

 

*nods*

 

Works for me. My SO actually apologizes for taking my toys away when he has to go home.

[Becoming]

My H's the same way, a4a. Respect is nice. Sexy lingerie works, me making trysts works. Me working works.

 

I'd just like more initiation from him without having to go through all the work at enticing it. Is this what you're talking about?

 

My H has recently said that he thinks this "respect" is part of his upbringing with the message that sex is sacred but also dirty, leading to an ambivalence that basically paralyzed his own desire.

 

We're working on it, and it's taken awhile, but it's better.

 

Of course, my issue is that I need to be wanted, not because of anything I do, but just because I am.

 

And sex is so great with this guy that it just makes me want it more. But I want him to want it more, too!

[a4a]

Tell him thats what you fantasize about . Him chasing you around all horny and out of controll .Oh wait no , that would be my fantasy . Okay tell him something to that effect and that if he does not do it soon you will die.

 

 

I did kinda say that........ but said " what do you think would happen if some guy came along and offered it to me?" :eek:

 

evil I know.....but I tell you it does really feel like rejection of sorts.

 

Maybe I should send some secret admirer flowers to myself and make him really wonder what I do all day at work..... the bastard trusts me too..... I so hate him

[tinktronik]

These men are just lazy azzes !!! they sit around letting us chase them around , how much better can it get for them???

[a4a]

My H's the same way, a4a. Respect is nice. Sexy lingerie works, me making trysts works. Me working works.

 

I'd just like more initiation from him without having to go through all the work at enticing it. Is this what you're talking about?

 

My H has recently said that he thinks this "respect" is part of his upbringing with the message that sex is sacred but also dirty, leading to an ambivalence that basically paralyzed his own desire.

 

We're working on it, and it's taken awhile, but it's better.

 

Of course, my issue is that I need to be wanted, not because of anything I do, but just because I am.

 

And sex is so great with this guy that it just makes me want it more. But I want him to want it more, too!

 

It is not a matter of doing the work..... I am not bad looking and can throw on a little pair of shorts and a tank- catch the majority of men gawking. H will gawk too......but won't attempt to do the hot monkey love.

 

Last night for example..... popped out of the shower.... blew my hair put on a nice black little silk slip nightie........ and nada. He baked me a cake while I ended up sitting on the family room sofa chatting while he baked.

 

he is so messed up in the head

 

He will have a full blown woody and not make a move........

[a4a]

These men are just lazy azzes !!! they sit around letting us chase them around , how much better can it get for them???

 

 

I think this could be part of it and fear of me rejecting him.

 

He is full of pride.

 

So should I cut him off and just tease the hell outta him?

[tinktronik]

Its a too much friendship , not enough objectivity thing A4 .Men drool over me in public , but I can sit around naked all day and I don't get advances unless I make them first .

[Hard2Think]

I say initiate it and don't follow through .. Do that for a few days in a row. I guarantee he'll pounce on you before the third day is up.

[a4a]

okay a little self examination here.......

 

I do get a lot of things just because of the way I look. (don't piss all over me for this, it is just part of reality.... I get sent in to get the job done at times because of my looks, I am aware of this and I do use it for the greater good..... I would happily use my physical assets to help others and I do)

 

Do you think that it is possible since he is very aware of it that he feels used?

 

Or is attempting to be different than other men that I have to deal with?

 

He tells me I am beautiful when my hair is on end and my teeth aren't brushed or if I am covered in mud...... he is a good guy. I mean a real true find..... just lacks in the sex and romance dept. (and yes I have told him this nicely, bluntly, and in many evil manners too)

[Asafan]

If only I had known there were so many hot horny women around when I was single! :mad:

[a4a]

I say initiate it and don't follow through .. Do that for a few days in a row. I guarantee he'll pounce on you before the third day is up.

 

 

I have done this..... I tell you what. I can just lay with him with my face on his stomach and he pops a big wood while watching TV.

 

I won't touch him..... he just lets the wood go to pulp.

 

Then again he has no reason to have to "fight" for me because he knows I will never cheat on him. So no reason to have to be romantic or put the moves on me..... he has his cake. Where the hell is mine?

 

That Bastard

[tinktronik]

Find your tater .

[a4a]

Find your tater .

 

Do yo think a Tater will make him want me more?

 

Honestly this is a huge ordeal for me.......

 

It boils down to him rejecting me and zero effort on his part = he does not give a crap.

 

Now I have an urge to stab him in the head with a fork again.

 

Tater neglecting Bastard Boy!

[tinktronik]

A4 , in all seriousness , is your H a cerebral person , not joking . Does he tend to spend a lot of time with things jingling around in there .I know that a big part of not initiating on my s/o's part is due to something else always being on his mind or rolling around in there , he is easily distracted . Sometimes men are just clueless.

[norajane]

Honestly this is a huge ordeal for me.......

 

It boils down to him rejecting me and zero effort on his part = he does not give a crap.

 

What does he say when you explain it to him this way? Surely he doesn't want you to feel rejected and like he doesn't care...?

[a4a]

A4 , in all seriousness , is your H a cerebral person , not joking . Does he tend to spend a lot of time with things jingling around in there .I know that a big part of not initiating on my s/o's part is due to something else always being on his mind or rolling around in there , he is easily distracted . Sometimes men are just clueless.

 

ok trying to be serious even tho I am currently typing while shooting paper clips across the room with a rubber band at the H's picture..........

 

I have gone through great lengths to express the desire for my needs to be met in nice to the point manners, hostile manner, polite requests.

 

Even threats......... non verbal manners as well.

 

He is dense then........ no training method is getting through to him.

 

Euthanasia may be my only option at this point....

 

Maybe he feels like he is just being used for sex?

[a4a]

What does he say when you explain it to him this way? Surely he doesn't want you to feel rejected and like he doesn't care...?

 

 

he states of course he wants me...... he just has that respect issue with me.

 

I think it is a cop out on his part.

 

God forbid if he ever did anything romantic for me. I told him recently if he made me a macoroni pasta necklace I would be thrilled to pieces.

 

I think he is just dense and lost. I suggested he start asking his friends for advice about such matters or buy a book as I am weary of being his coach and he needs to get up to par ASAP.

 

I did actually make him choose a date to repair things by. I am serious. He chose Halloween as my final date to decide to end things or not with him.

 

He is also the kind of guy that would not buy me a pair of $60 earrings but would hold out to buy the $1,500 pair..(his own words).... same with anything....he only wants to give me the best or nothing..... wtf is that.....another cop out?