I see a guy at work all the time, how do I get his #?

[Guest]

I am doing a contract job for a company and I keep seeing this guy in the lunch area every day since I started here. We seem to take the same lunches (timewise) I don't know where he works or what he does but we always check each other out. Since the first day I started here I noticed he made eye contact with me and we catch each other look every time. We have smiled at each other on occasion too. Here are the facts:

 

- we don't work in the same office, I only see him at lunch and don't know anyone in the company who knows him

-he majorly checks me out I do the same, we play eye contact all the time he seems shy, but then again so am I sort of...

-I never approach guys first they always hit on me but I really want this guy and I know it's work so it's not like I can go up to him and talk to him at his table (YIKES!)

 

HERE'S THE HARD PART

 

-he NEVER eats alone and always sits at a table of 4 - 6 co-workers so there is no chance of talking to him or making small talk.

 

WHAT can I do????? I am only here for another month and a half and don't know what I will do if I leave without talking to him. Any suggestions? This one is tough!

 

Linda

[Green]

You could just give him your number on a piece of paper and then wait and see if he calls and asks you out.

[tanbark813]

"If we're gonna bone down, I'm gonna need a way to contact you."

[Guest]

Hey guys though I appreciate your humour, I don't think those are options I can consider...I mean did you read my post? He is always surrounded by his co-workers, there is NO WAY I am walking over to that table and slipping him my number infront of everyone, YIKES!!!!

 

C'mon I need some other options...please don't tell me that is my only option..

[Mary3]

You gotta get him alone ! Tell him you have a flat tire and when you walk to your car say : " Just kidding " and slip him the number.....

[Outcast]

1. email

2. telephone

 

you don't need creativity - just use available technology

[Guest]

OUTCAST:

 

yeah thanks I would not have thought of using a phone or emial how did you come up with that?!! available technology is great if you have contact info. YOU TOTALLY MISSED THE POINT, but thanks for commming out!

[DeeBrod83]

I know this is going to sound dumb, but it seems like you're short on ideas. Next time your eyes meet, signal for him to come over. (You can work on your sexy 'come hither' look! j/k, a simple finger curl should do the trick). Have something ready to say or, if you're anything like me you'll freeze. Have your number on a piece of paper and give it to him then. That way you're not scrambling for your phone or a pencil. It's going to take a little bit of balls, but if the risk is worth the reward, go for it!

BTW, if you find out his name you'd probably be able to look him up in the work directory or something.... but I'm assuming you don't know his name, so that's a stretch.

GOOD LUCK TO YOU!!

[Guest]

Thanks Deebrod, loved your answer!!! :-D that's not a bad idea...something along those lines could work! It is TOTALLY going to take balls though I dunnow I'm going to have to really build up the nerve... but i think it's the only way...

 

Obviously I don't know his name or even what part of the company he works for as we are not even in the same buliding, our company has two buildings that connect via a sky bridge and the lunch area is the connecting place for all employees so I don't even run into him in the halls or have people in common I can locate him by...of course if I had his name I would not even post here, the possibilites are endless!

 

Leave it up to the ladies to come up with the good suggestions...gees you'd think the guys would have better tactics considering they are the ones that do all the "picking up" but so far not much for creativity as far as the guys go.

[tanbark813]

Leave it up to the ladies to come up with the good suggestions...gees you'd think the guys would have better tactics considering they are the ones that do all the "picking up" but so far not much for creativity as far as the guys go.

 

That's because guy tactics take balls which you said you didn't have. You're kind of limiting your options if you're not willing to go up to the guy and talk to him.

[DeeBrod83]

Tan, not everyone is totally confident just walking right up to someone they've never talked to before. Especially in a work environment. If it was a bar, it'd be totally different! But remember, this guy is checking her out too, and he hasn't done anything yet!! Give her a break! Besides, having some creativity in a plan makes things more interesting and memorable!

[tanbark813]

Tan, not everyone is totally confident just walking right up to someone they've never talked to before. Especially in a work environment. If it was a bar, it'd be totally different! But remember, this guy is checking her out too, and he hasn't done anything yet!! Give her a break! Besides, having some creativity in a plan makes things more interesting and memorable!

 

I'm just saying that she can't really give guys a hard time for not giving her ideas when she starts the thread off by refusing to do many of them.

[Guest]

It would ne nice if you guys actually READ what I wrote, seems only the women read the thread in detail.

 

What I said was that I have no problem going up to him, if he is ALONE. I know that is my only option, and though it takes guts and I never do that I am willing to take the risk this one time. BUT he is never ALONE, so I was wondering what other options there were to get his attention (within reason) to pry him away from the table of 7 he usually eats at. That's where creativity comes in...and why I chose to post this question. But the men are telling me "use emial, and phone"

 

DUHHHH if I chad his contact info I would no be on here asking the obvious!

 

I repeat, for the slow guys out there: "he is never alone and I refuse to go up to his table with all his coworkers sitting next to him." Do you have any other suggestions?

 

To be honest I don't know too many guys that would do that at work, ballsy and all.... (I mean a bar sure why not) that is, to go up to a table full of people to get a person's number.

[tanbark813]

But the men are telling me "use emial, and phone"

 

Actually, a woman told you that.

 

 

And insulting people isn't a good way to get them to help you.

[DeeBrod83]

Tan, are you just a ballbuster by nature?? I said that if you have his name, you can do that, but it was also suggested by a guy. Not that there's any point in arguing details. Why not try and use a little imagination to help the poor girl out!?! You know we'd be doing it for you had you asked!

BTW, you're growing on me... I tend to like people I can argue with!

[tanbark813]

Tan, are you just a ballbuster by nature?? I said that if you have his name, you can do that, but it was also suggested by a guy. Not that there's any point in arguing details. Why not try and use a little imagination to help the poor girl out!?! You know we'd be doing it for you had you asked!

BTW, you're growing on me... I tend to like people I can argue with!

 

Aww, I like you too. And yes I am.

 

My last post was actually intended to be pointing out that Outcast is a woman.

 

Alright, ideas off the top of my dome:

 

* If you know when the guy goes to lunch, then get there a little bit before him or linger around longer than usual to see if he comes or goes alone.

 

* If the above doesn't work because he walks to and from lunch with coworkers, then you could try following him to his desk, or at least the general vicinity, so you could go back later.

 

* If you know when he leaves work, follow him to his car. Or meet him at it once you know what he drives. Or leave a note on the car. That might seem creepy to women, but guys love it.

 

* The waving-him-over idea that someone else suggested is a good one.

 

* This one is more of a long shot: Since you're a contractor, go up to the group and ask them as a whole if they know where something on the company campus is. Like some building or room or whatever. You'll still have to go up to the group, but the guy might be smart enough to take the hint and offer to walk you there.

 

* If you guys give each other looks at work all the time, just sit at a table near him and get yourself invited into the conversation.

[DeeBrod83]

Didn't realize outcast was a chick.

Anyway, in most of these you're basically telling her to stalk him.... if she's good and he doesn't realize it, it's cool. But he may be kind of weirded out if he sees her hiding behind the office plant by his desk....

(oh BTW, I suggested the waving him over, THANK YOU!) But you're trying and that's good. I do like the innocent, "I'm lost, can you help me" idea though!

[tanbark813]

Anyway, in most of these you're basically telling her to stalk him....

 

Yes. Given the situation she pretty much has to. But men don't get weirded out by that stuff as easily as women do. As a female friend of mine once put it: Women's defense mechanisms are instinctually preventative whereas men's are instinctually reactive.

[DeeBrod83]

That's an interesting way to put it.... I guess I'm just not typically that aggressive; I tend to be seductive and MAKE him come talk to me.... but stalking could work. I guess you'd know better how men think....

[laliquel]

hey all it's linda the original poster, might as well register and get my posts up right away....

 

Ok Mr Tanbark, (he's growing on me too Deebrod lol ;-) the bugger) good call on the Outcast person being a chick, that's funny. I believe I owe the guys and apology so: "sorry guys" What I should have said was stupid answers really have no gender, and THAT I already knew.

 

Deebrod thanks for sticking up, this is a struggle. At a bar I might have more guts, and I always talk to guys at bars no problem but work is different.

 

Tanbark: now you're using your noodle!!!! those are some good ideas you suggested, I agree with Dee that some of those are borderline "fatal attraction" but all in all they are quite good. What I am afraid of (more than rejection) is that he will think I do this all the time and that I am psycho...way to blow your chances with a guy having him think THAT! lol

And this IS work I am trying to land a perm position here so I would not want to blow my chances on that front.

 

The other thing is that I work in a place with like 8thousand employees it is a huge Communications company and there are so many businesses under the umbrella it is virtually impossible to know who's who in the other buildings. We work in opposite builidngs so for me to follow him to his area is sort of weird.

 

Dee: I laughed out loud at the "hiding behind plants" bit. LOL

and yeah I agree I am more the seducer type myself too I know how to flirt NO PROB but making the moves....that is usually his department! which is why this is so hard.

 

I have NEVER seen him leave the building and I have even gone out from his building at home time to see if I can catch him leaving, but nothing. Also I have no clue what times he works here. the worst is that I have thought of going behind him when he gets up from lunch but he is NEVER alone, he leaves with another girl or two all the time ARGGGGH! maybe he's gay!!! LOL no, no no, he's not gay.. the best part is that since I started getting feedback on here I have not even seen him in the lunch room either, what if now HE was a contract worker too?

 

My best bet is to just get up and follow behind when I see him leaving just to see what general direction he goes. I am just really shy to let him see that I am following him. What if he has a girfriend, what a burn would that be!?!? but then again why would he be so obviously checking me out if does. No guy would do that infront of his co-workers like that if he did have a girlfriend, would he? (well some guys would) :-P

 

Lali

[blue16]

I just LOVE unresolved stories with no ending...

[directx]

Do what they do in the movies. Walk by with your lunch and spill it on him. That ALWAYS works.

 

Do people buy lunch at the lunch area? If you both buy, you can meet in line.

 

Can you get to work early and wait for him to see where he parks? You can time it to arrive at the same time or enter the building the same time he does.

 

Just wave to him the next time you both catch each others eyes. Whats going to happen? A gang fight?