ilmw Posted April 17, 2007 Share Posted April 17, 2007 hey all just a quick update, it has been two weeks since the Wife has decided to make it all up to me. Even though i was reluctant to give her the chance (I had some real nice options) I decided that if she could and would addmit her faults, work on them and agree to M.C. that I would be willing to work on it. (in reality don't tell her, but I would have anyway for my Son) She, so far has lived up to her end. She also just told me the other day that she now realizes I'm the best thing that has ever happened too her, and was happy that she figured it out before it was too late. (she had no idea how close it was, maybe she did!!) She is in the process of moving back in (I know kinda quick, but her lease is up soon) besides it wouldn't hurt as badly if she had to move out again!! We went and picked out New Rings for a new start. and get this I let her pick hers out and both our rings together came to just over 600$ not bad!! So far things are going well and we have both gotten alot of things out and I think we have a much better understanding of eachother...............Of course it will not be a cake walk by any meens, but I'm pretty sure it will all be okay............Of course there is some tension as far as the three of us under the same roof so much, it is gonna take some re-adjusting thats for sure.........I see a huge improvment in how much my son is acting he is very loving and turning into quite the the little comic...........LOL!! that alone will keep me on the right path as far as becoming a better husband and father...........Hope fully it will do the same for her!! Talk to yall later Chad Awesome news Chad... simply awesome...!! You too sound like you have your eyes open...and have (NOW) a clue how to maintain and build up your relationship with your DW:) I'd say more.. but all the others have pretty much covered it all... Congrats..my friend. Also... HAPPY BIRTHDAY... GUNNY!!! Link to post Share on other sites
sumdude Posted April 17, 2007 Share Posted April 17, 2007 Thanks Chad and LJ! I'm actually only 21 ~ I've just got 29 years worth of practice at being 21! Would love to chat but my 21 year old GF is taking my 50 year "gnarly billygoat old ass out to lunch!",~ :lmao: :lmao: SALUTE!!! Happy birthday Gunny, old dog learns new tricks every day! Show that young lady what a REAL MAN is made of! Link to post Share on other sites
Ladyjane14 Posted April 17, 2007 Share Posted April 17, 2007 Would love to chat but my 21 year old GF is taking my 50 year "gnarly billygoat old ass out to lunch!",~ :lmao: :lmao: Well... tell her to pet you nice on your... er... horns. And don't get caught in her Mama's kill zone. :p Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted April 18, 2007 Share Posted April 18, 2007 Well... tell her to pet you nice on your... er... horns. And don't get caught in her Mama's kill zone. :p Actually I drove fifty miles to go and see my 3 year old grandson! Now that's a PT (Physical Training) program! OoooohRahhhhh! Link to post Share on other sites
ilmw Posted April 18, 2007 Share Posted April 18, 2007 Actually I drove fifty miles to go and see my 3 year old grandson! Now that's a PT (Physical Training) program! OoooohRahhhhh! Sounds like a great day to me... Link to post Share on other sites
Author chadnickole Posted April 29, 2007 Author Share Posted April 29, 2007 One thing i failed to mention was that one of the MAJOR reasons my wife left me was because i was always on the computer "chit-chatting" with old girlfriends/flings. We used to always argue about it because she didn't understand WHY i needed to talk to them and i refused to NOT talk to them. she always told me it was disrespectful to her and our marriage; I thought it was her being controlling. We have had some really rough times since she moved back in due to these other women, but things are going pretty smoothly now. She found out some pretty crazy stuff that had happened while she was gone about me and a "friend" from way back when. (emailing pics and such with this women) I know that she is very hurt by it but i just wish she could get over it. She thinks i have a internet fetish although i reassure her time and time again i don't. I was lonely and this women was more than willing to "share" herself via email with me. I know i shouldn't have done it and i deeply regret it. Well, thanks for all your support. Chad Link to post Share on other sites
PWSX3 Posted April 29, 2007 Share Posted April 29, 2007 Chad I don't want to preach to you, but I would like to share something with you that has helped me. One day I was driving in my car & I was listening to a Christian station. The person was talking about how men should treat there wives so of course I was interested. He said us as men need to make our wives #1 in our lives, that we need to respect there feelings, there thoughts, & there opinions. Then he said something that really made since to me, (I know most people already know but I didn't think of it this way) when two people get married they become one so if you become one with your wife if you are hurting your wife you are hurting yourself. So his question was; do you like hurting youself??? He also talked about doing things when your wife is not around, that us as men should respect our wives even when they are not there. If you aren't a Christian or any of that, that is your choice, but I do believe we need to respect our spouse and there feelings. I'm not saying what you did/do is right or wrong, I'm just sharing something that has helped me understand that I want to treat my W as a equal. I want to hear her ideas, listen to what she has to say. I also feel that when we say bad things about our wives to other people, we aren't showing them respect but that's just me. Trust me I've had those wife bashing conversations, but I'm trying to better myself, & I feel that is part of it, in order to respect myself I need to respect my spouse and her feelings. Keep being positive & I hope the best for you & your W, and hopefully things will get easier. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony Posted April 29, 2007 Senior Moderators Share Posted April 29, 2007 Eight months for a thread to continue is plenty long enough. If you feel you have more to add to the subject, start a new thread. Many thanks. Thread CLOSED! Link to post Share on other sites
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