How can I see him again...

[Guest]

Hi, ok met someone who worked at a restaurant, he was our waiter (for me and my family). Anyway this area is a part of town where I go to quite often as the concentration of people who live there are the same ethnicity as me. Anyway, I am interested in this waiter, and I don't know how to see him again, meaning should I go back to the same restaurant? How would you let someone know you were interested without it being awkward in a restaurant atmosphere?

 

I mean you can't just say, "yeah i'll have the roasted chicken, with rice oh and by the way I find you attractive", how would that work? What would you do? Anyhow, I sensed a slight interest on his part, however i'm not sure. He could've just been acting friendly. I am terrible at reading signs. Anyway, any suggestions on how I can see him again, and if I do what do I say? I'm so shy...dunno if I should just drop it and forget about him or if I should try something. It's just for some reason I can't shake him off my mind. Thanks so much for any help :0)

[Nezero]

I'm no expert but you could say something like 'What time are you finishing?'

[FooD2000]

Go in when it's not busy, that way hes a little less tense and has time to possibly mingle. Go to the restaurant with a girlfriend (Girls are always more attractive when their in a group). Make eye contact, throw him a smile then watch him make the move on you. He'll come up, do the usual chit-chat that waiters are accustomed to, Don't be afraid to ask him questions, find common ground and go from there (smile your ass off).

 

If it's not busy, and you've thrown him a smile, making sure he saw it. After all that and he still doesn't bite, then hes not interested.

 

I used to be a waiter, making convo with strangers is something you do day in day out. When it's not busy, I would go talk to girls or any group that can make my day go by.

 

Oh, How have the conversations gone with this guy? does he know you exsist?

[Guest]

Thank you for your suggestions! Good ideas :0) When I was at the restaurant I was with my family, so even if he was interested I don't think he would've shown it (with family around and all). I couldn't tell if he was or not, he seemed to be staring at me often and would smile a lot, but that's nothing special I guess. I didn't have a conversation with him that didn't have to do ordering food (when I ordered he said, are you sure I can bring you dinner) but my brother joked with him a little, which made him laugh. At the end of the night when we were leaving he was standing around and he said thank you to my family, I was lagging behind and he turns to me and says goodnight. That's all. Basically I was debating whether or not I should go back. I dunno if a waiter was interested in a customer would he ask them out? Sounds like an odd question, but I mean would he be afraid if interest was not reciprocated that a customer would complain or something.

[Guest]

Ok I told a friend about this guy and she said she'd go with me to the restaurant, maybe next week. I think i'm crazy to agree. I mean, what are the chances he'd remember me, plus he might not even be working when we go there. And if he is what am I supposed to say? I don't understand why this is making me nervous, I don't even know him. In my work i'm used to talking to strangers all the time why can't I talk to this one...

[magda]

If you are shy, he will think it's cute. Go ahead and be nervous - that can work in your favor- but make it obvious that you are nervous because he is so attractive. Make lots of eye contact and smiles and then look away like you are so coy. Then he will know you are shy and interested and if he is interested he can take charge and ask for your number. Some guys love that ****. He will feel like a big man.

 

It's not like you have to see him everyday. If all else fails, leave your number on a napkin. Make sure you say "I never ever do this I don't know what it is about you!"