Guest Posted August 17, 2006 Share Posted August 17, 2006 Hey All, I have a little bit of a problem, and I am not quite sure as to how to handle it. While visiting my boyfriend for a weekend, I noticed that he has been going on webcam websites to look at other girls strip for him. I checked out the website, and it looks like they cannot see him and that he can only see them. He can type in what he wants them to do for him, and then..yeah. So I am bothered by this. I feel like I am somehow cheated on... I know I have been really busy, and we are in a long distance relationship...but is this normal. Should I think that this is alarming or consider it just another way of porn... I know dudes look at porn, and I am ok with that...but somehow...asking other girls to do things for you while you watch them rubs me the wrong way. Our relationship is otherwise amazing...we are thinking about eventually moving in together...starting a family...etc. He is otherwise a wonderful person...but this was just a surprise...!! I am not sure as to what to do... Any help/advice is appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted August 17, 2006 Share Posted August 17, 2006 Ladies don't just do that stuff for free...he's paying VERY GOOD money to have them pose for them on webcams. You need to talk to him, very kindly and discretely, and find out what he gets from that. Don't think that after you start living with a guy things change. They usually don't. Get into his head and find out his motivation. As you realize, some men just enjoy this type of thing as recreation. I do think a man who is in a committed relationship should not make it a normal practice of paying to have strange women strip for him on the Internet. Link to post Share on other sites
Poboy Posted August 17, 2006 Share Posted August 17, 2006 Tony , there are ways to acces these sites & view the webcams for free too. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted August 17, 2006 Share Posted August 17, 2006 Tony , there are ways to acces these sites & view the webcams for free too. So does this make my case better or worse?? Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted August 17, 2006 Share Posted August 17, 2006 Most likely just because you move in or start a family does not mean he will stop viewing porn or live web action. If it does not sit well with you I suggest you discuss it with him before moving the R up a notch. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 Most likely just because you move in or start a family does not mean he will stop viewing porn or live web action. If it does not sit well with you I suggest you discuss it with him before moving the R up a notch. Thanks for all your input. I talked to him about it, indirectly. I made it seem like one of my friends caught her boyfriend doing what he is doing, and my boyfriend said that "she has every right to be upset with him." So if he knows that what he doing is wrong...then what kind of a person does that make him?!? Or did he just say it to make himself look better?? Link to post Share on other sites
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