Shy

[ForeignGuest]

Hi, i need serious help. I am 19 and i'm very shy. It is very hard for me to talk to girls. I get nervous quickly and start blushing. Its almost impossible for me to go talk to a girl that i really like because as soon as i look at her i lose my confidence and all my words and just walk passed her. I moved to US couple years ago from europe. I have an accent and i always think when i talk i sound funny, which makes it even harder for me to gain confidence to go talk to a girl. Now once again i moved to different state and left all my friends.

 

Noone knows me here and i want to start making new friends, but i dont want anyone to see my shy side. I want to beat my shyness and gain confidence, but i dont know how to do that. If anyone could give me any advice i would be very thankful. Thank you for your time

[tearful_soul22]

To overcome your shyness you have to go out and be with people in "social situations" in order for you to adapt or make adjustments according to your needs. Everyone is shy at first..i know i was, but with time and a lot of courage, i am sure you will be able to overcome this side of your personality. Social introversion doesn't have to happen to you. Goodluck and my best to you always!

[dgiirl]

A lot of my friends suffer from shyness. I do too, but it doesnt bother me. It did them, so they went to Toastmasters. It helped them get over their fear of public speaking, which just naturally helped them get over their shyness. You can also sign up and take salsa classes. Read up on anxiety too, because people who tend to be shy, are usually shy because they're worried about too many things. And once you can spot yourself obsessively thinking, you can learn methods to stop it while it's happening.

[Poboy]

practise speaking in front of the mirror as to things you would say when you meet girls ( try to be calm , deep breadths , relax etc ) , keep doing that and over time , you should gain confindence in public speaking & talking to girls

[ZICKAR]

When you are shy the best way to make freinds is too get involved in a group activity or a course of some sort where you will be put with the same people day after day after day;) ....soon enough these people will see the real you and then you will be more comfortable and less shy aound them...possibly come up with a few freinds ... involve in several simmilar activities and widen you range of freinds or just people you can hang with:D ...soon enough you will meet new people who will introduce you to more new people and so on:rolleyes: ....this covers the freinds area but with Women or love matters it narrows your options and often you will find yourself in the freind zone when you want more. ...and because you are too afraid to be freindless again you don't confront them because you are too afraid to loose them. ..Its complicated but hopefully you can overcome your shyness with our help

[Yamaha]

You need to set goals to overcome shyness. Tell yourself you will speak to 2 people that you don't know today. Keep doing this and increase the number of people you speak to. It will get easier to talk and you will have more things to say as you gain more social skills. It is a mind over matter thing so you must make yourself do this to overcome your introvert nature.

[real_freakin_skater]

it's all good man cause i kinda have the same problem cause i only get shy around girls, everything else is easy. all you have to do is let go, stop putting all your thought on you being shy and look at everything else. i have an australian acsent but i learned to just let go.don't worry what other people think, if they like you it because they like the way you are, they like who you are, not who you try to be. i've met a girl who likes me for who i am but i can' asked out cause im scared of what she'll say (i know it sounds hipacritical) but just let go of what people ant you to be and be your self.