SwayLady Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 if anything, to try and win back an ex? For me, it was recently moving back to the hometown I once lived and where my ex still lives. Crazy or what. I vowed I'd never return when I left few years ago, but here I am, now living around the corner from him and he doesn't even know...... YET! LMAO! I didn't plan on living so close to him. I had the opportunity of this home, accepted it and found out shortly afterwards that the ex was close by. I didn't move here to stalk him and I'm not planning on stalking. Last time we were in contact, was by email a few months ago. Everything was great between us. We mailed back and forth, arranged to meet, but I couldn't go because something cropped up I couldn't get out of and he never mailed back anymore, so I figured he took it as a sign of disinterest on my part. I was going to mail him back, but I didn't want to be seen as running after him and I also thought that if he was that interested, he would've kept on mailing me. Anyway and since then, I havn't been able to get him out of my head and I deeply regret not going to see him when I had the opportunity. This isn't an ex I was with a short time, that I find myself obsessing over, he was an ex I was involved with for a long time, he was the best thing that ever happened to me and I want so desperate, to see if there is another chance for us, which is why I took the leap to move back to my old hometown. There's a better chance of bumping into him here, than there is in the hometown I was living in. Pointless leaving it to fate, sometimes fate needs a helping hand. Anyone else as crazy as me:o Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 My boyfriend got cold feet and left. I told him I never wanted to see him or hear from him again. He called me on the phone all night and when I finally picked up the phone, he said: "Tell me that you really don't want to hear from me again and I promise I will NEVER EVER call you again." He always keeps his promises so I decided to do the craziest thing in the world. I said with a voice cold as ice: "I don't want you to call me ever again!" He said OK and we hung up. I knew that this would be the thing that would either make him marry me or leave me alone forever. It was the line I drew. But it was crazy nonetheless. The phone rang a minute later and a week later we were married. If this is not crazy and movie-like romantic, I don't know what is! Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 The craziest thing that I have done to win an ex back was to take her back. In my own experience, second chances have not worked, so that is why I think that its crazy to take an ex back. I would imagine that a majority of the time it does not work out. Link to post Share on other sites
Brittanyjean06 Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 Hmmm let me try to think, me and my ex broke up NUMEROUS TIMES. Walk over to his house and make a fool out of my self. Beg, plead and sladly threaten to commit suicide, though in the back of my head I new I would never do. I think I stepped on his bong a cuple of times, hahaha. I really really resent that relationship he put me through alot of pain and agony. God forbid I ever have a relationship like that again Link to post Share on other sites
leopardprint Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 Beg, plead and sladly threaten to commit suicide, though in the back of my head I new I would never do. Ugh, I do the same thing. At the time, it feels like, If they see I'm in so much pain that I might kill myself, maybe they'll realize they won't want to lose me, and come back!, but then you realize later they just get MORE scared of your psycho self and run in the other direction. I've also written, sappy, pathetic, "You meant the world to me..." 6 page letters, I've called over and over again, begging and crying; LOTS and LOTS of crying. It's a crazy thing; the mind of a love stricken dumpee. Link to post Share on other sites
Brittanyjean06 Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 haha omg you just reminded me of the letters I wrote after we broke up, oh gosh How pathetic! I guess you don't realize how stupid things are until later. haha I heard its normal for girls to go crazy in relationships...I really hope that side of me never comes out again. I did foolish crazy crazy things from being in love!! Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 Ugh, I do the same thing. At the time, it feels like, If they see I'm in so much pain that I might kill myself, maybe they'll realize they won't want to lose me, and come back!, but then you realize later they just get MORE scared of your psycho self and run in the other direction. Exactly! Been there, done that too. But I think we do that when we want to move on faster. We are idealizing the ex and want to stop idealizing him. So we set him in a game called: let's see how merciless and heartless you are. We know it would break our heart to see HIM humiliating himself like that. Then we see that he not only doesn't have any compassion for us, but even kicks us in the ribs while we're lying on the ground and bleeding. I think the final humiliation is a crucial part in getting over someone. We need to see him stabbing the knife deep in our hearts then walking away from us with disgust on his face. We need to see how badly he wants to get rid of us and what a pain in the ass he thinks we are. That very humiliation is doing us a big favor - it's making us move on. It's an instinctive way of cutting him off our life and having a closure. If you just act like a lady and cry silently and never call him or anything... you feel like you'll never know what if... you'll never know why.. you'll never know what kind of person he is really. In other words, you have to believe that he is the worst piece of sh*t so you can move on successfully and quickly. Link to post Share on other sites
leopardprint Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 I guess you don't realize how stupid things are until later. haha I heard its normal for girls to go crazy in relationships...I really hope that side of me never comes out again. Actually, someone once told me there was a study, that the same thing (chemicals and stuff in the body) that happens when we're in love, is the same thing that happens when someone goes clinically insane. I need to find this on the net and post it... And Britt... not to be a downer but, that side of me has come out now for theTHIRD time. Blah - Everytime I've moved on and found a better guy, had a longer relationship, had a more intimate and personal bond and love for, I became an even MORE crazy, emotional ex. I'd like to say, live and learn, but obviously, I haven't. If you just act like a lady and cry silently and never call him or anything... you feel like you'll never know what if... you'll never know why.. you'll never know what kind of person he is really. RP, I know EXACTLY what you mean. I'm always thinking, "He's COMPLETELY worth every shot!" I'm always trying everything in the book to get back at him, because I'm scared if I don't I'll never know if maybe there was a chance at us being together - getting over it - becoming stronger. I'm always believing "our" love is stronger and can make it work, and I do everything and anything to get him back, when in reality, it's just MY love that's stronger. In other words, you have to believe that he is the worst piece of sh*t so you can move on successfully and quickly. I JUST finished making a thread about that very idea (http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t96687/) while you were replying to this thread. If you don't mind looking it over, I would like to hear your oppinion, since you brought it up and obviously have some idea about it. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 I JUST finished making a thread about that very idea (http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t96687/) while you were replying to this thread. If you don't mind looking it over, I would like to hear your oppinion, since you brought it up and obviously have some idea about it. I just read the other thread and while I noticed the connection, in your other thread the case is reverse. You shouldn't plan to humiliate yourself just to move on. We usually do it once in a lifetime. I think we do it instinctively in the I gotta know I tried everything manner. But that's only worhtwhile when you want the guy back, but subconsciously know he is not the right one for you. So you try to make him push you away. I think you're trying to get over a normal guy who actually might show a lot of compassion and make the getting over even harder and longer for you. Just give it some time, occupy your mind, and keep NC (no contact). Break ups are progressive in their concept - they help us move to the next stage of our lives - just like in video games! Link to post Share on other sites
Author SwayLady Posted August 18, 2006 Author Share Posted August 18, 2006 Hmmm let me try to think, me and my ex broke up NUMEROUS TIMES. Walk over to his house and make a fool out of my self. Beg, plead and sladly threaten to commit suicide, though in the back of my head I new I would never do. I think I stepped on his bong a cuple of times, hahaha. I really really resent that relationship he put me through alot of pain and agony. God forbid I ever have a relationship like that again I've done all of that too, cried, begged, even gone around threatening his new girlfriends This was all over the same ex that I'm talking of in my original posting, but this was a few years ago, I've grown up a bit since then. Despite all the crazy things I've done, (there's more because I've also stooped to revenge), he'd always come back a few weeks after we'd split. Either he was a sucker for punishment, or he loved the drama of it all. He always said that no matter what I did, he couldn't find it in his heart to hate me. Recently though and because we were in touch, I got the chance to say 'sorry' for everything I'd done in the past and I meant it too. He said that I wasn't totally to blame for all the bad stuff that happened between us. RecordProducer, how romantic. Sometimes a tad craziness does pay off Link to post Share on other sites
Brittanyjean06 Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 I guess if your a crazy ex with your first love, than you'll be a crazy ex with your second love, hm funny How I said ex for the 2nd love haha. Well in the time of fighting with your boyfriend, ex whatever were not going to stop and think hmm" what did I learn in the previous relationship...before going crazy, " were gonna go with the flow of the heat. I just hope I take a minute to calm my self down and say okay britt you are going to regret this later...Well no one should feel ashamed for going crazy we all do it!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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