killercards Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 Me And my girlfriend have just started getting more intimate in our relationship, I have done oral sex on her but she hasn't on me yet... She wants to.... and Now we are moving into the next steps, She wants me to penetrate her. The only problem is I'm insecure about my Penis... I brought condoms and I just can't whip it out. There's also my height factor I'm 6'6 and she is like 5'9.. It would have to be a good Sex Positions.. Do you know of any good ones that might help me out??? With the fingering and the Attention I give her with oral, She Loves it and she had multiple orgasms, More than she ever has had.. She gets so wet.. But she wants me inside her and I'm afraid... Help me please! Thanks... Link to post Share on other sites
Author killercards Posted August 18, 2006 Author Share Posted August 18, 2006 Oh and she Claims she is a virgin, How could I tell if she is??? Link to post Share on other sites
Pink Amulet Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 Wow- I'm going to raise my hand, and say I must admit I was slightly turned on by the raw sexual innocence of your post Your 'slight' height difference is not a problem in the slightest. Missionary is always a good place to start.... Don't be afraid. Watch porn for tips Link to post Share on other sites
Pink Amulet Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 Oh and she Claims she is a virgin, How could I tell if she is??? Unless her hymen has not been broken for some other reason (very common), she may bleed slighty. Other than that you can't. I don't see why you should have to clinical diagnose her virginity any how!? Don't you trust her? If you don't trust her don't have sex with her! Link to post Share on other sites
stoopid_guy Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 Do you know of any good ones that might help me out??? Half the fun is playing and experimenting. Yup, good old missionary for starters, but then just experiment. If there's a way to get it in and move it around (or her to move around it) it's worth trying. And have fun, if it breaks you both out in giggles, you're still having fun! Link to post Share on other sites
the_alchemyst Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 Don't be afraid. Watch porn for tips Have you ever had sex (with anyone)? If not, then I really suggest you don't turn to pornography for tips. If you already have, then I don't see why you should be so nervous. She will expand as much as necessary in order to be able to receive you, unless you are waaaaaaay huge, in which case she will surely notify you of discomfort. If she does, stop and try a position where you both feel comfortable. Stoopid is right in that experimentation is the key for fun. And not to mention that only by experimenting will you both know what you like and dislike. Don't worry. I'm sure she can take ya. Just be gentle. Link to post Share on other sites
Pink Amulet Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 Although pornography seems fairly unrealistic, fake, and at times degrading, most people I know say they learn alot of what they know from pornography. It is a little more comforting to see how relaxed, and comfortable (most of the time ) porn stars are while demonstrating different techniques, positions and styles. Most people have a general idea for what is involved with sexual intercourse, but for those who don't, watching it in any form can help get their head around it. Link to post Share on other sites
stoopid_guy Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 Although pornography seems fairly unrealistic, fake, and at times degrading, most people I know say they learn alot of what they know from pornography. Problems with using porn as a "learning tool;" 1) What looks good on camera isn't always what feels best in real life. Positions are done for camera angles, not for skin-to-skin contact and physical intimacy. 2) Scenes are generally about 15 minutes; that's foreplay, "action," and after-cuddle (if any.) In real life, that's seriously rushing things. 3) It sets assumptions. If someone watches porn, then assumes everyone is into anal (for example) they might be seriously dissapointed (or maybe relieved.) Link to post Share on other sites
the_alchemyst Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 Pornography, more often than not, is pure exaggeration. For someone whom has never been sexually involved with another, it can be a really bad reference point. Also, you are forgetting something: If the OP has genuine feelings for his SO, they will both use this situation as something that will allow them to experience both fun and their like/love for one another. Porn is nothing but feelings of over-abundant horniness, if that. Link to post Share on other sites
TheSilentType Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 Your garden-variety hardcore is o.k. if your girlfriend is kinky and likes "wham-bam-thank you ma'am....and i'm spent" sex You might try looking at more erotic, glamour porn if your interested in less carnal type of sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Pink Amulet Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 Listen- It worked for me. This isn't the place for lectures or the condemning of pornography on the impressionable male psyche (if anyone is passionate enough- start a thread, I will be happy to talk about it there). Link to post Share on other sites
Pink Amulet Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 Pornography, more often than not, is pure exaggeration. For someone whom has never been sexually involved with another, it can be a really bad reference point. Also, you are forgetting something: If the OP has genuine feelings for his SO, they will both use this situation as something that will allow them to experience both fun and their like/love for one another. Porn is nothing but feelings of over-abundant horniness, if that. You are all missing the point here... this guy is insecure about the sexual act itself. He isn't talking about the relationship.... For goodness sake he thinks their height difference will be a problem and needs a certain position. He obviously is completely clueless about the physical dimensions of sexual penetration. Pornography is an example of this. Either that or he can walk in on his parents or watch his neighbours with binoculars. Link to post Share on other sites
the_alchemyst Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 I don't see anyone lecturing; all I see are different points of view. And you're talking about the impressionable male psyche? Okay. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 Oh and she Claims she is a virgin, How could I tell if she is??? I have no idea why you would think it is important to be able to tell if she is still a virgin... Be gentle either way! (until she asks you not to be!) I would recommend missionary with a pillow under her bottom. This is very comfortable and worked for me my first time. You may need to kneel in front of her because of your height.. but the advantage of this is you get a good view of every thing that is going on! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 Well the day I had to go to work, I left her 2 condoms that I brought over... I told her she is going to get it next time.. And Yes when she was laying there ready to go I thought about putting a pillow under her butt and try it that way... Her vigina isn't too tight but that was just using my fingers. Next night she tells me to come over, I am going to penetrate her.. She also says she has be fantasizing about anal sex too but for that I would need some lube cuz she is very tight in the butt. But the missionary, I am going to try for the first time...Honsetly I'm an average size even though I'm 6'6... She still, with the fingering she wants me to be gentle and not to go too fast. She also gets swore.. This is all amazing with our relationship cuz She wanted no sex till marriage and She Said screw marriage! lol She did so is this now a serious relationship?? I was thinking of getting her in engaugement ring... what do you all think? Should I start looking for one or should I wait?? I don't know if she is ready but the her wanting to have sex with me is something dont you think? So I am not going to do it my self(jerking) And Wait until she says she wants me over, Wouldn't that be better? Thanks for all your replies!!! Link to post Share on other sites
britchick Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 So I am not going to do it my self(jerking) And Wait until she says she wants me over, Wouldn't that be better? You know, they do say, "Never go out with a loaded gun" You wouldn't want it to go off in your hand. Link to post Share on other sites
nicki Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 Just read this thread. I'm with you, Pink, the innocence and novelty of it all is kind of a turn-on. In case you want any more advice, here's mine. Go slow. Don't have any preconceived notions of when, where, and how it all should go. Just keep messing around with foreplay and let it continue naturally from there....You will know the right time to let it happen. It will "feel" right. And go slow with her. Watch her reactions, her responses. If she moans, etc, then that's a green light for more. Remember what she likes. It's about being close, sharing physical intimacy. Be gentle, loving...but passionate. Don't worry about performance. This is about what you BOTH create together. You don't have anything to prove. You are NOT a porn star. But, I know what Pink means. If you are going to watch porn, watch the ones directed by women or the ones on the playgirl channel. They show things from a woman's perspective. There's more cuddling, taking time, emotional connection. As well as technique. AND, don't even think about anal yet. Sheesh, that's advanced stuff. Save it for much later. You have a lot of "regular" things to enjoy! Link to post Share on other sites
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