Coastal Gator Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 Hey guys...I used this site to get me through my breakup but never posted. Now I have a good reason to post....I dated this girl for 3.5 years. She broke up with me about 1.5 years ago. I went through hell b/c I loved her so much. I dated another girl for over a year but broke up last month. After a night of drinking, I sent a text message to the ex of old and she called that night. We spoke for a few hours and that was it (she was unhappily in a LDR). Anyway, I seemed to have gained great strength after that phone call. I seemed to be moving on from her. Well...now she emailed me. She broke up with her ex and would like to meet and "catch up". I hve NO idea what to do. I am single, but I know I have the strength to move on happily. I just turned 27, and have everything in the world going for me except someone to love and I know in time that I will eventually find the right girl. But...now that my ex has contacted me...i have to ask. Do 2nd chances even work? Seems like most stories on here end the same way the first go-round ended. I'll admit I still love my ex, but there is a lot of crap that I went through when she was out finding someone else. I know I can forgive, but doubt I can ever forget what I went through. Is this the hurddle too high to jump? Also...what if I am just in love with her memory and not who she is now. Is the only way to find out is to meet up with her for a dinner and see how things go? Its easy to say move on and let her go...but I'm just afraid if I blow her off that I'll always have that regret somewhere in my head...the ol 'what ifs'. Anyways....TIA for any advice..... Link to post Share on other sites
bunny25k Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 i dont know if this will help at all, but...i just went to my grandma's funeral today. my grandma and my mom have had a very super long quarrel that neither of them ever gave in and really told each other how they feel. so much anger involved. anyhow, i told my mom today to just forget about the past anger and forgive her already. she told me she did. my point is i think that the ONLY way second chances will work if you can start fresh. Link to post Share on other sites
Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted August 26, 2006 Share Posted August 26, 2006 i have had a very complicated relationship with ma ex and because of that relationship i have always been scared to find another guy but i know i want something serious now not just to play around for a few months and then break up and find another one..no i want something good something REAL you know wut i mean? well i hope this helps.... well i have found this one guy that has made forget about my ex he has helped me to not think of him anymore like i used to....but i have gotten scared and i have realised that to move on and be happy i need to forget about tha past because i get scared that the same thing is going to happen again...but not all guys are the same lol so i have to stop living in the past and start from zero and see it as a new relationship and learn from the past and avoid the bad things in the future....well ill im saying with all this is that you should see her and dont let the past ruin it if you guys have a second chance start from zero if youre going to try it.....good luck Link to post Share on other sites
KittenMoon Posted August 26, 2006 Share Posted August 26, 2006 Is the only way to find out is to meet up with her for a dinner and see how things go? Well you could also just move on. Second chances work... on occassion. If you can deal with losing again, then take a gamble. If not.... there's that move on thing. Link to post Share on other sites
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