tinktronik Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 My whole life the emphasis has been on "how pretty" I was. Even from a very young age I remember most of the attention I recieved was based purely on being a pretty little blonde Swedish girl. Modelling seemed the obvious step for me... . You forget to mention PA , that the emphasis on the "pretty " is usually put their by people that are NOT as pretty , like you've been gifted or in some way made more special than others and often it is just assumed that you are lacking in the brains department or some other department upstairs or in your heart. Other pretty people tend to ignore your looks. I know for years i've gotten the catty "nose in the air" "stuck up" "thinks she's better" responces from other women , untill they get to know me and then some other pretty girl comes along and I get to hear first hand what they said about me they now say about her . I've begun to think that women biologically can not help from doing this , its competative and catty . Its almost a unburdening to have a woman prettier than me come around because the focus is no longer on me . And ofcourse the first responce isn't "he's cheated with Her' its always going to be "ouch , he cheated at all". Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 I'm not an object, and I don't feel an object so please don't refer to matters of which you have no idea. I wasn't trying to attack you. When I was referring to shallow, I was just going by what you had previously posted, "why men cheat down". I think it's great that you are pursuing avenues that require education and dedication. But it really doesn't matter what I or anyone else think, only you, which was my point. But if you read your reply again, you may find that it sounded familiarly like a salespitch. I was just trying to point it out in the event that you had overlooked it, because it does seem to be a struggle for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Walking away Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 As raised in another thread... and I seem to hear it often. I know I can identify. Why do men cheat with less attractive women than their partners? What is the psychology here men? My theory: Is it because it is about the new and exciting attention you recieve irrelevant of who it's from? Chances are they would recieve more positive attention from a less attractive female than themselves (and partner)? Ladies, has this happened to you? What were your thoughts at the time? I know mine were something like this... "WHAT THE F*CK????!!!" Sweeping overgeneralization, I think. But..... carry on.... Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 Sweeping overgeneralization, I think. But..... carry on.... The question was not why do all men cheat down . It was why do men cheat down. Not an overgeneralization at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Walking away Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 Sorry. I was insulted by the connotations. I would never consider myself a step down by any stretch of the imagination. Carry on.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pink Amulet Posted August 20, 2006 Author Share Posted August 20, 2006 Major Edit Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 Sorry. I was insulted by the connotations. I would never consider myself a step down by any stretch of the imagination. Carry on.... Well that would be honesty .Thanks Walk. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 I think it's great that you are pursuing avenues that require education and dedication. But it really doesn't matter what I or anyone else think, only you, which was my point. But if you read your reply again, you may find that it sounded familiarly like a salespitch. Getting inside the head of a cheater - it's a good job I haven't just eaten. Anyway, it is true that this whole "beauty is on the inside" thing is a rumour - spread by ugly people. Just KIDDING!!!! The potential for a deep connection to be made with someone has to come from somewhere. And sometimes it comes from the spark of a primarily physical attraction - that is, you fancy someone. But I'm more than the sum of my biological urges. I have a brain (no jokes please), and it will never get switched off, or get told what to do by other parts of my anatomy. Because love is a decision. Making a deep connection with someone is a connection in so many dimensions. Do you get the feeling that you can trust someone with all your heart? I'll bet that didn't come just from the look of them. Hmmm... cheating down. Well, they are obviously at their wits' end insofar as saving the relationship is concerned. What to do?? Hey - if I cheat with someone not-as-good-looking as the one I really want to be "feeling the love" for, then surely the contrast will sort my feelings out once and for all. Yeah, that's it. I hope you don't really believe that. Link to post Share on other sites
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 I find it very interesting that people who post their own photos and receive great praise then sometimes challenge other posters to post their own photos. I have observed this, too. While some women here are pretty, I wish that some of them did not post their pictures - albeit for only a few minutes. Pretty people will get more attention, whether it is in real life or in cyberspace. That's just how we are wired. Pink Amulet, I think that you posted a fascinating question and this led to a surge of speculative answers. If you are still wondering why "men would cheat down", here are my thoughts: 1. many beautiful women are not very good in bed. They don't do anal, or they do sloppy BJs. I admit to this. I am not into pleasing my man in that way. 2. obviously, men who cheat down are not very choosy - or smart - since they'd let their little head take the lead. For this reason, don't take it personally. Just leave the cheater. 3. believe it or not, LOVE is a powerful aphrodisiac. Perhaps he actually loves her and this has enabled him to look above and beyond her physical appearance? If my H were to cheat on me with a less attractive woman - which is very possible (since I don't think there are many women who are more attractive than me ) - I would have to believe that he loves the other woman (aka option #3). My husband would like someone who takes care of him like a son!! If he finds such a woman, I'd encourage him to go with her. Your BF cheating on you with an ugly skank - and you finding out about it - is a blessing in disguise. Now, if he'd cheating on you with a better looking woman, who is classier and smarter, you'd be beat for years. That's a tough blow... even for a pretty and smart woman, like yourself. Think about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pink Amulet Posted August 20, 2006 Author Share Posted August 20, 2006 Now, if he'd cheating on you with a better looking woman, who is classier and smarter, you'd be beat for years. That's a tough blow... even for a pretty and smart woman, like yourself. Think about it. No, because he did that too Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 magichands, if you do not mind me asking, are you a gal or a guy? This thread is becoming more and more interesting. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 I have a brain (no jokes please), and it will never get switched off, or get told what to do by other parts of my anatomy. Because love is a decision. believe it or not, LOVE is a powerful aphrodisiac Quoted for truth. Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 No, because he did that too HA , lucky you got rid of him . He sounds like an oppertunist. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pink Amulet Posted August 20, 2006 Author Share Posted August 20, 2006 So this thread Walk was definitely not "All men cheat down" it was "why do some men cheat down?"... In reference to physical ugliness I am sure you are not... Link to post Share on other sites
Walking away Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 And in reference to any type of ugliness....I am also not. Link to post Share on other sites
newbby Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 So this thread Walk was definitely not "All men cheat down" it was "why do some men cheat down?"... In reference to physical ugliness I am sure you are not... i think it is a little bit much to imply that walking away is ugly in personality since you do not actually know her. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 The potential for a deep connection to be made with someone has to come from somewhere. And sometimes it comes from the spark of a primarily physical attraction - that is, you fancy someone. But I'm more than the sum of my biological urges. I have a brain (no jokes please), and it will never get switched off, or get told what to do by other parts of my anatomy. Because love is a decision. I think everyone feels attraction to others while they are involved in a relationship, it's only human. But if you decide to go down the road of acting on it, is that really love for the one you're committed to? I would think that true love would be the respect to let the other person go, before pursuing another. So I think if someone cheats on another, it is nothing but a lack of love for that person. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pink Amulet Posted August 20, 2006 Author Share Posted August 20, 2006 1. many beautiful women are not very good in bed. They don't do anal, or they do sloppy BJs. I admit to this. I am not into pleasing my man in that way. I am glad you said most. I believe Ludacris said it... "I want a lady on the street but a freak in the bed" Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 i think it is a little bit much to imply that walking away is ugly in personality since you do not actually know her. Your kidding right newby? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pink Amulet Posted August 20, 2006 Author Share Posted August 20, 2006 i think it is a little bit much to imply that walking away is ugly in personality since you do not actually know her. No I don't. But, people don't know me either! Online, it seems, we only work with what we read... apparently I am a superficial and insecure object! I am frustrated and tired. Link to post Share on other sites
newbby Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 Your kidding right newby? erm no, why would i be? Link to post Share on other sites
Walking away Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 Your kidding right newby? Am I missing something here? Link to post Share on other sites
newbby Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 No I don't. But, people don't know me either! Online, it seems, we only work with what we read... apparently I am a superficial and insecure object! I am frustrated and tired. yes i know, it can be unpleasant when people misunderstand you cant it. Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 erm no, why would i be? I don't see an implication that by saying Walk is not physically ugly is implying that she is ugly in some other way .i don't see where you got that from. Link to post Share on other sites
newbby Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 I don't see an implication that by saying Walk is not physically ugly is implying that she is ugly in some other way .i don't see where you got that from. oh come now, PA underlined the physically, anyway she has apologised for it now so forget it. Link to post Share on other sites
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