Guest Posted October 28, 2006 Share Posted October 28, 2006 One can only receive constructive criticism if one is willing to face unpleasant truths about one's self. And yesterday is past... but the past is the key that unlocks our future. Everything we have done (and not done), affects what we do and will do. OK, these are my opinions of the "truths".. truths. 2)you are very selfish 3)you have low self-esteem 6)you do not love your husband 8)you do not deserve your husband 9)you have destroyed your marriage 10)you have destroyed the self-esteem of your children for years to come 11)you have destroyed the lives of everyone around you 13)you do not understand the great value of real love 14)YOU and you alone are responsible for your current reality maybe truths... 1)you want to be single 7)you are not sexually attracted to your husband 12)if you had lost the weight years ago you would have been cheating because your nature is promiscuous The only correct point you make FIC is that they are your opinions. Someone as totally perfect as you couldn't imagine how we sinners could possibly live up to your ideals. You spend a lot of time on these message boards telling us why we are not so perfect as you and telling us why we are wrong- be careful you don't neglect any partner who is so lucky to have you in his/her life. Link to post Share on other sites
greeneyes78 Posted October 28, 2006 Share Posted October 28, 2006 Shouldn't that be his decision to make, not the cheating wife or neutral observer? After all, it's him who has been tricked and lied to. Now, there are some people who will say to you, if my spouse is cheating then I would rather not know, especially if it's in the past. In that case then clearly it's better not to tell. But if they have said that they demand honesty and faithfulness, then you have a moral obligation to tell them. They have told you they want the truth, and by marrying them you've consented to give it to them. So, stick to your bargain, do the honourable thing and confess, as they would wish. You owe it to them to tell them the truth, so they don't have to spend any more time than necessary in a big lie of a relationship. I just don't know that giving him the power of making such decision is beneficial at this point. Also, something that I just thought about... who really knows what happened between these two? Maybe the premise of the marriage was some kind of financial and/or family arrangement... and while they might have been perfectly compatible on that side of things, maybe their life was missing excitement... maybe the sex wasn't that great... maybe this, maybe that. Have you ever watched "Sex and the City"? Remember when the brunette (sorry, I forgot her name... I'm not a big TV fan) got married and had all kinds of sex problems with her husband? He'd be perfectly okay continuing on with sexless marriage and I bet you that if she'd cheat and he didn't know, they'd continue on living their posh lives in Manhattan looking like a perfect couple from a journal. Now, I realize I'm bringing up a silly TV sitcom example, but these things truly happen in real life. And really... one has to wonder why this guy didn't notice that something was up for 20 years... could it be because he was too busy working, too busy entertaining others? If that's the case, I kind of understand why she found herself in the arms of another. At the end, he doesn't know that she cheated... she doesn't know that he might have done the same... they continue on with their lives, joint finances, joint whatever... and all is well. So, again, I ask you what would be the benefit of telling him at this point? Link to post Share on other sites
LadyGuest Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 So, again, I ask you what would be the benefit of telling him at this point? Simple- it would satisfy FIC's retributional stance. Eye for an eye and all that. The fact it could ruin the partner's life/self esteem is a mere irrelevance to him. I have no intention of again going down the same path of a secret life I had for so many years. It was initially a chance rather than planned affair albeit it lasted half a lifetime. It happened, it's over- he died last year. Only I know. For FIC to suggest that I should blow my cover, so to speak, suggests he is hopelessly lacking common sense. The only consequences are for me as it stands and that is how it should be. Link to post Share on other sites
Flyin in Clouds Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 The point of telling is to be honest, but since cheaters aren't honest to begin with expecting honesty from them would be pointless. And if a wife is cheating and not telling, it is certainly reasonable for her husband to do the same, isn't it? After all he'd be protecting her from the pain caused by his affair just as she was protecting him from her affair. Right? If you women cheaters believe that would the way it should work then I would be semi-OK with it. But if you can have your affair, not tell, but your husband would be a total bum for doing the same thing... well, that says a lot doesn't it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NorCalRedhead Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 Do NOT NOT NOT tell your husband. I did. He became angry, was going to find the OM, and HIS wife, 'take him out," made my life awful, went to my work, told my boss I was having a affair, showed at at work, stalked me, watched me! Now--two years later...AND--I just served him divorce papers --and he threatened to do the same thing again! Men do bad things when they know they have been cheated on. Do not put yourself in harm's way. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
greeneyes78 Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 The point of telling is to be honest, but since cheaters aren't honest to begin with expecting honesty from them would be pointless. I still don't understand what is the point of being honest at this point? Pointless point. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
aprilrain Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 [COLOR=black]go ahead and tell your boss ...tell all your friends.........then you do not have to leave in fear for the rest of your life..........first of all........ everyone has their own stories covered deep in some closet out there.....so they won't really get upset at you ....second of all it is not even their business to get upset ......and they have no right to do anything against you at work...................I guess they even will admire your courage and the fact that you are honest ..after all what is there to hide?[/COLOR] [COLOR=black]you have fallen in love with someone else while you were married .......is it something new? especially when your marriage was not working and you were separated for quite long time............[/COLOR] [COLOR=black]that happens every where on earth......it is innocence ..........it is different than lust and pleasure.....and other discussing things people do and say and write to each other on the internet nowadays..........I still go with divorce first and then tell everyone the reason behind it....... .....I am sure many of your coworkers and even your boss will be interested to know the reason.........they will keep asking anyway................[/COLOR] [COLOR=black] [/COLOR] [COLOR=black]no one will stone you to death in this country ..........by not being honest ...you are basically stoning yourself to death almost every day ..........[/COLOR] [COLOR=black] [/COLOR] [COLOR=black]forget about the past and move on...[/COLOR] [COLOR=black]I know it is hard ...it is so hard ......but what else one can do ?[/COLOR] [COLOR=black] [/COLOR] [COLOR=black]…………………………………………….[/COLOR] [COLOR=black] [/COLOR] [COLOR=black]a heart that should have had never fallen in love has nothing to offer but pain[/COLOR] [COLOR=black]a mind that had always been in chain has no way to escape[/COLOR] [COLOR=black]I can not say goodbye[/COLOR] [COLOR=black]I do not want it to end [/COLOR] [COLOR=black]but the end is near …[/COLOR] [COLOR=black]it is so near[/COLOR] [COLOR=black] [/COLOR] [COLOR=black]kill me………[/COLOR] [COLOR=black]I swear……… I won't complain[/COLOR] [COLOR=black] [/COLOR] [COLOR=black]Do not forgive me ...[/COLOR] [COLOR=black]Oh….. NO …NEVER........[/COLOR] [COLOR=black] [/COLOR] [COLOR=black]just forget me [/COLOR] [COLOR=black]burn me to ashes [/COLOR] [COLOR=black]put me into the hands of wind[/COLOR] [COLOR=black]walk away[/COLOR] [COLOR=black]and never look back[/COLOR] [COLOR=black]I am not there [/COLOR] [COLOR=black]can't U see ?[/COLOR] [COLOR=black]I am dead...[/COLOR] [COLOR=black]so dead....[/COLOR] [COLOR=black] [/COLOR] [COLOR=black]aka april rain[/COLOR] Link to post Share on other sites
LadyGuest Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 I still don't understand what is the point of being honest at this point? Pointless point. There is none, absolutely none. FIC is in another world- thinking about it from the standpoint of someone who has not ( it would appear) have been in the situation. Easy for him to pontificate and get all holier than thou. I would hope that this message board could give some comfort to people in these dilemmas- except that there are some people who try to impose their own critical eye on proceedings. My own extramarital relationship finished a year ago. There is no logic in bringing it to the attention of my husband now. Can you just imagine sitting down with husband and blurting it out? I am amazed, looking back, how I managed to avoid the situation becoming known for the length of the I did. Now it is no longer an issue, my OM having passed away, that is the end of it. I am not sure such an open board is the right place to discuss such difficult and personal issues, but I know no others. The one other comment I will make is that you cannot unsay something. "I wish I hadn't" is not an option. Link to post Share on other sites
Sup Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 Do NOT NOT NOT tell your husband. I did. He became angry, was going to find the OM, and HIS wife, 'take him out," made my life awful, went to my work, told my boss I was having a affair, showed at at work, stalked me, watched me! Now--two years later...AND--I just served him divorce papers --and he threatened to do the same thing again! Men do bad things when they know they have been cheated on. Do not put yourself in harm's way. You caused what your husband did, in part, by having your affair. You need to take responsibility for YOUR actions. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Sup Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 I still don't understand what is the point of being honest at this point? Pointless point. So.... the betrayed should be forced to live a lie? Is that what you are saying? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
aprilrain Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 [COLOR=black]I should admit that cheating is a horrible thing to do. It burns everyone that is involved. It turns Love to Hate. People who have been cheated on are capable of doing many things including suicide. I pray that God helps us to make best choices in our lives, helps us to learn from our mistakes and finally gives us an inner peace.[/COLOR] [COLOR=black]These short lives of ours are not worth to put anyone through such a hell.[/COLOR] The feelings are even worse than hell for the one who cheats on her/his spouse. Only and only God knows the depth of this pain. You have to break your own heart and stop this because it is wrong. No matter how much you truly and honestly love the other person. OR you just have to leave and say goodbye to your marriage and choose to be with the one that you want. Making no decision and going on is crazy. It is sick and it is so wrong. More than anything it destroys no one as much as it destroys you. I thought to share my feelings. I know these comments of mine may not apply to you as your situation is different. So sorry if I wrote too much Thank you for listening. Ok reading Link to post Share on other sites
some_guy Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 Hi people, I would really like to hear some advice on my situation because I just don't know what to do. I've been married for 5 years, but unfortunately have been cheating on her with a work colleague on and off for more than 2 years. In particular now we are very close (my colleague), and I feel that I would be ready to leave my wife for her but ironically she doesn't seem willing to break her family for me (she has a 10 year old daughter), although if I was single I think she would. She knows my wife, who hates her because we pretty much got caught once but my wife didn't know exactly what was going on (at least I don't think so, maybe I am wrong about that), and my wife works at the same company as we do. At the moment I feel that because of what I've done, my wife doesn't deserve to be with me anyway and deserves a lot better, I feel like crap because I know it is the worst thing to do to your wife, but on the other hand I am just so happy when I am with my colleague. My wife is a fabulous person and I love her a lot, so I don't want to hurt her in any way. In fact I'm sure that if we separated from her then I would realise I made a huge mistake. I want to tell her, but how? I want her to see the positive side of leaving me, but not for her to hate me. I want her to leave me, not the other way around, but I want to stay friends with her because she is the best friend I ever had, even if our marriage is not perfect. I wish I could describe things better, but it would take way too much space. This situation is so stressful and I can't see a way out. I'm too selfish or too much in love with my colleague to stop seeing her, but don't have the courage to tell my wife. In addition I feel guilty because my wife is now 35 and is kind of interested in kids, so I feel that I am her last chance because she will be too old by the time she finds another guy, and I don't want to have wasted her opportunity. Also we are in another country, so she may have to leave the country even if we were to separate. If I knew she would be happy if we were to separate, then I think I would do it. I know I have to make a choice and stick with it, but don't know how.. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 Some guy, you might want to start your own thread - This way you'll be getting replies directly to you. I'll answer more once you start your own thread, but in the meantime, I will say this : You owe it to your wife, to your marriage to try to work it out. You DO love your wife, but for some reason you've allowed yourself to fall deep for the OW, and now you're very messed up...Which now you think you love the OW more. Your wife IS your bestfriend so you so...But, the way you're acting is not how a bestfriend, let alone a husband, treats his wife....... All I can tell you is, there is NO way you and your wife will have any sort of friendship if you end the marriage to be with the OW. Go to marriage counselling, fix things. Life wasn't awful before you met the OW, was it? Could you imagine your life just with the OW and NOT ever seeing your wife again? You may need some one on one counselling to help you through this - Because if you do decide to divorce your wife and then be with the OW, you cannot, I repeat, CANNOT go back to be with your wife if things don't workout with you and the OW. Link to post Share on other sites
Flyin in Clouds Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 ... Men do bad things when they know they have been cheated on. Do not put yourself in harm's way. Men do bad things? Lady you cheated. that was the bad thing... And as usual the cheater is all about themselves. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Flyin in Clouds Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 ... Easy for him to pontificate and get all holier than thou. Yeah it is easy, particularly when I am holier than thou. I would hope that this message board could give some comfort to people in these dilemmas- except that there are some people who try to impose their own critical eye on proceedings.What dilemma? You aren't going to tell your husband's about your cheating so why are you here? Looking for absolution? Looking for someone to tell you how righteous you are and so considerate that you don't want to hurt the fool you are living with? How can you stand being with that thing you'd laughly call a man behind his back? Yeah, honey I love you, my love... snicker, snicker. Sure honey you're the only one for me... My own extramarital relationship finished a year ago. There is no logic in bringing it to the attention of my husband now.If the situation were reversed is that how you'd want to be treated? Kept in the dark? What if you talk in your sleep? Ever thought of that? So why did you have the affair to begin with? Your H just wasn't man enough? Need a bigger shalong? What? What was so deficent in your husband? What a trusting foolish sap he is. To think he'd trust a creature like you. Wow... Of course your H may already know. As you say you didn't know how you could keep it secret for so long. Perhaps it's not the secret you think it is. Now it is no longer an issue, my OM having passed away, that is the end of it. Got any old love letters? Old pictures? I am not sure such an open board is the right place to discuss such difficult and personal issues, but I know no others.What's difficult about it. You had a selfish affair, your relationship is about you first and foremost and what's good for you. Oh sure you're being noble protecting the old fool from your foolishness. The one other comment I will make is that you cannot unsay something. "I wish I hadn't" is not an option.So why wouldn't you be fair and give your husband a chance to have another woman if he wanted one? Why not leave so he has that opportunity? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Flyin in Clouds Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 ... The feelings are even worse than hell for the one who cheats on her/his spouse. Really? Then why do people cheat? They cheat because it feels good not bad. Until the affair blows up in their face. People don't do things that hurt. They don't hit their thumbs with a hammer deliberately. Only and only God knows the depth of this pain. Oh, yeah, a cheater is in so much pain compared to the person they cheat on. Of course that's true if the betrayed spouse never finds out. Ignorance is such bliss.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 Yeah it is easy, particularly when I am holier than thou. What dilemma? You aren't going to tell your husband's about your cheating so why are you here? Looking for absolution? Looking for someone to tell you how righteous you are and so considerate that you don't want to hurt the fool you are living with? How can you stand being with that thing you'd laughly call a man behind his back? Yeah, honey I love you, my love... snicker, snicker. Sure honey you're the only one for me... So why did you have the affair to begin with? Your H just wasn't man enough? Need a bigger shalong? What? What was so deficent in your husband? What a trusting foolish sap he is. The relationship is about you first and foremost and what's good for you. Many thanks for your helpful if acerbic remarks. I see you spend time crisitcising my husband. That explains quite a bit- you do want to hurt him. Well that's something where you won't succeed. In case you hadn't noticed I didn't post this thread about any dilemma I have had, merely sharing my experience with people who were raising the matter and seeking comments. I gave mine. Why is it you keep asking why I started my affair? If I may say so that is none of your business. Just being ultra nosey I guess. Wondering how to go about it yourself maybe. I can't really recall the details, so long ago and all that. You are quite right on one point, that the relationship was (not is) about me. Guilty as charged your honour. Have a good day. Link to post Share on other sites
aprilrain Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 I think the best way is to tell the spouse and get over with it. If he or she loves you as much as they say they do they will stand by you. Being lied to is much more hurtful than hearing the truth. May be you are right..... people who cheat are selfish and they are having fun. I can not really stand them having so much fun...haha Why not go ahead and stone all the cheaters to death? ..they all are bunch of craps anyway...and do not deserve to be treated better . I am going to collect the stones. just one problem...we have to find someone with no sin to throw the stones. now if you excuse me.... I have to go and find that person. Link to post Share on other sites
Flyin in Clouds Posted November 2, 2006 Share Posted November 2, 2006 Many thanks for your helpful if acerbic remarks. I see you spend time crisitcising my husband. That explains quite a bit- you do want to hurt him. Well that's something where you won't succeed. ? It would not be anything I do or did that hurt your husband. Stop blaming others for what you have done. What I am saying is that I hope your husband had is little flings, as you have had, and he doesn't let you know about them. That would be equal and just. Then both of you can go to your graves thinking the other is a saint. Why is it you keep asking why I started my affair? Because I'm interested in the excuses cheaters give for why they did what they did. If I may say so that is none of your business. Just being ultra nosey I guess.Everone on here is totally anonymous, so you needn't fear that your husband might find out. And if you H did have an affair would you want to know? Or would you be OK with him keeping it secret from you? I hope you'd at least be consistent and want him to protect your feelings as you say you are his. And apparently you are perfectly fine with living a marriage based on a lie, on deceit. It doesn't bother you that your H will go to his grave never knowing he is a cuckold. To think such dishonest people exist in the world. I can't really recall the details, so long ago and all that.Wow... You are quite right on one point, that the relationship was (not is) about me. Guilty as charged your honour. What about your husband. Why was he so bad? Why not leave him for the other man? Did you deserve two men? You that special? And doesn't your husband deserve two women? Or him having a little extra is something you wouldn't like? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 ? Then both of you can go to your graves thinking the other is a saint. Because I'm interested in the excuses cheaters give for why they did what they did. Everyone on here is totally anonymous, so you needn't fear that your husband might find out. And if you H did have an affair would you want to know? Or would you be OK with him keeping it secret from you? I hope you'd at least be consistent and want him to protect your feelings as you say you are his. And apparently you are perfectly fine with living a marriage based on a lie, on deceit. It doesn't bother you that your H will go to his grave never knowing he is a cuckold. What about your husband. Why was he so bad? Why not leave him for the other man? Did you deserve two men? You that special? And doesn't your husband deserve two women? Or him having a little extra is something you wouldn't like? Is someone god-like paying you to spend all your time berating all and sundry? Don't you have gainful employment or is this it? I don't fear my husband finding out by my comments here, but I see no value in giving a blow by blow of what, why and where to the likes of you FIC, much as I appreciate your great interest in this sort of excitement. The thread is about those of us who haven't told our spouses, not about how we got into the situation. No it doesn't bother me that he will go to his grave not knowing. Quite the reverse- what you don't know you can't grieve over and that applies to everyone in every situation I would have thought. The only person giving my husband a bad time is you- and that's only in here! Whether or not I deserved or didn't anything is neither here nor there. The simple fact is that it happened, whether you like it or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Sup Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 Your husband won't know, at least until Judgement Day! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Flyin in Clouds Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 ... but I see no value in giving a blow by blow of what, why and where to the likes of you FIC, much as I appreciate your great interest in this sort of excitement. The thread is about those of us who haven't told our spouses, not about how we got into the situation. many on here to share their "stories" because many on here have been cheated on and would like to understand the mind of those that cheat. I do think the circumstances of why you never told are related to why you started in the first place. The only person giving my husband a bad time is you- ha ha that's a laugh. Not only isn't your husband aware of your affair, he isn't aware of anything I've written ... I understand your POV and not wanting to hurt him etc. But what I don't understand is why you stayed with your husband, cheated on him over the years, etc. I mean the other guy was obviously doing something for you your husband wasn't. I guess the only safe thing for guys is to cheat, that way they can be sure that they won't be had by women like you guest. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted November 4, 2006 Share Posted November 4, 2006 I had to go back almost fifty posts and two weeks to find a post here by InaPanic. Kind of off topic, here. We actually did go to a counselor a couple weeks ago. Both of us together. I go Monday for another visit by myself this time. I go for 2 or 3 times alone & then we come in together again. I agree that I am not too sure of what i want right now either whichway. I'm not proud to admit that but i'm trying to be honest. Maybe thru therapy I'll be able to figure out why I did this & then be able to see a little straighter. I think it is as important to me as it is for him to know why i did this. InaPanic, how is everything? Are you still with us? Link to post Share on other sites
LadyGuest Posted November 4, 2006 Share Posted November 4, 2006 many on here to share their "stories" because many on here have been cheated on and would like to understand the mind of those that cheat. I do think the circumstances of why you never told are related to why you started in the first place. ha ha that's a laugh. Not only isn't your husband aware of your affair, he isn't aware of anything I've written ... I understand your POV and not wanting to hurt him etc. But what I don't understand is why you stayed with your husband, cheated on him over the years, etc. I mean the other guy was obviously doing something for you your husband wasn't. I guess the only safe thing for guys is to cheat, that way they can be sure that they won't be had by women like you guest. As you appear to have no experience of the situation I fail to see how you can have any input which is of value. You merely pontificate and slag off those who do not share your personal idealism- I think your religious zealotry has taken over and you have nothing better to do with your life than seek out these websites and criticize those of us who have different experiences. We are where we are. For someone so disgusted on one hand about cheating it is strange in the extreme that you should on the other hand then promote it as you do in your final comment. You are a confused person FIC and suggest you get out more. Link to post Share on other sites
Author InaPanic Posted November 4, 2006 Author Share Posted November 4, 2006 I had to go back almost fifty posts and two weeks to find a post here by InaPanic. Kind of off topic, here. InaPanic, how is everything? Are you still with us? Thanks for asking JamesM, and you too Sup. I have been a little MIA lately. Things seem to be going pretty good i suppose. Probably better than most could expect but i give credit of that to my husband and his willingness to work things out & try. There are days i can still see how hurt he is & those days i just want to shrivel up & die. but i know what he wants is me & for us to continue to be a family. that is what i want too. so running away isn't going to help. i'm still trying to forgive myself which is a daily battle that i dont' know if i can ever win. but i have to try. my kids are still clueless to this & they are happy children who love us both very much. they get lots of attention & love as they always did. we have not become bad parents because of this. i still have guilt for what i did that could have had a profound affect on their lives but thank god it has not (yet) & i hope it doesn't. I went for my individual therapy & I think it may help. She wants me to write a 'good-bye' letter to the OM. I'm not sure why except for the fact i still have some anger towards him & maybe she thinks this will help get it out. idk. i go again on monday but haven't done the letter yet. it just seems a little embarresing to put it in words & then have to read it out loud to her. but i am trying to trust her & do what she asks of me. she has not been hateful or judgemental of me at all & that is what i feared the most. she seemed to think our marriage stands a great chance of making it thru this. she said there is no going back & that i don't need to go back because there was something missing in my life. she has not (& neither have i) tried to lay blame on my husband. she said it is ME not him. that perhaps i put too much of my life into my children & my husband. she pointed out something i hadn't thought of...when we first got together & for the first many, many years of our marriage we saw each other a lot. I mean a whole lot by traditional terms. Not until the last couple years have we spent quite a lot of time seperate due to work & stuff. when this OM came into my life it quickly became an all-consuming thing where he was a huge part of my life as much as someone in a long distance affair can be. so she pointed out that maybe i have some issue with needing a man to be a huge part of my life. i need to figure out how to fill that void. i'm not sure if that's the reason or even a partial reason but i found it interesting. the post about me & the #'d truths really hurt. i'm sure that's what the original poster wanted to do was to hurt me. Job well done, you accomplished it. i'm not even going to waste my time taking each # & defending myself. all i can say is you don't know me, you don't know me at all. you don't know what kind of a person i have been or that i am now. i did something horribly wrong but i am trying hard to not let it make me become a horrible person. so i have decided that from here on out i will not read Flying In Clouds posts or that other persons. they are of absolutely 0 help on any level at all. Constructive criticism is one thing...but just trying to agitate, pick on & make yourself seem superior is something else. I will not subject myself to it anymore & FiC may post to his little hearts content but i will not be reading them anymore (is there a way to block them from showing up all together for me??). He has a right to say whatever he wants to say but i do not have to read it. some of you here have been extremely supportive & helpful & yes, honest about your feelings that i have done wrong. thank you. those people have been wonderful to have post & honestly have been such a strong support system for me in the beginning. thanks for still being concerned. i am just now getting to a point where i can see a light in the horizon. where i can feel a little bit of normal in my life. i am now weening myself off of the anti-depressents. i hope that goes ok because my husband really wants me to go off of them. i will post an update soon. again, thanks for your concern Link to post Share on other sites
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