soft heart Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 Hello, I have been with my boyfriend for more than 2 years. Our relationship is going through different stages and we have been taking things pretty slow. I mean we do not discuss marriage, kids or anything like that. Maybe because we both still need time before settling down. However, I know one thing and that is that I love my boyfriend very much and I would like to be with him and closer to him geographically to be able to experience our relationship fully. For the past year, we have been living in separate countries and we see each other about once a month. We are both from Europe. We have had some difficult times together due to the distance but I have learned to relax a little bit more and to be more easy-going about our relationship. He is 2 years younger than me, I am 28. I am aware that he is still very young and he is a very ambitious person and I have no intentions to stop him from building his career. However, I would like to at least live closer to him and he has been talking about working abroad. I didn't want to put pressure on him but I also wanted to know if he is planning to move somewhere else, what is going to happen with us? He works in his country now but as I said his dream is to work abroad. I am a pretty open-minded person as I have been living abroad for the past 9 years. I don't want to put any pressure on him, however, I don't want to loose him and our relationship. I sent him a message and I asked him if he decides to go somewhere else to work, maybe I could come with him? and I asked what he thought about it? I know that it is a very hard question and I do not expect him to give me some great answers but I worry now if I made a mistake by asking as he is no replying to me? It's been an hour and I have not heard anything. Do you think it was wrong to ask that question? I worry if he got maybe upset or scared or I don't know.What do you think? Link to post Share on other sites
Poboy Posted August 18, 2006 Share Posted August 18, 2006 its been only an hour so relax , give him time & space to answer the question. this question can be deemed a tough one for many people to be asked... it depends on your bf's personality how he deals with such stuff... now that you have asked it , wait for his reply ... if he sounds confused or shock or awkward with it , explain it to him in what context were you trying to ask it to make him comfortable. dont pressurise him cause when it comes to career & the future ... he might not have clear answers so he might not give a good response... Link to post Share on other sites
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