clamchowderz Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 my ex of (3 years on and off) told me she wanted "space" two months ago. i gave her her space and went into NC for the full two months until two weeks before she is to leave for college sends me an email saying "i know you hate me, but im sorry". i called her that night when i read her email. we agreed to meet at my apartment the next night and we talked and cuddled and kissed until the wee hours of the morning. she said she feels like she wants to give it another shot. well me being the dumpee at this time, wants to take the shot with her. well the two weeks brings arguments, love, and chaos. i called her more then she called me and she would always find reasons as to why she couldnt see me. she finally told me that "i had come on to strong...blah blah blah" so i backed off. so as the time slowly comes to an end i invite her over to spend the night with me before she left for school. she had slept over 3 times already, one night with sex. she says she will call me. she doesnt. she sends me a text message saying shes sorry she cant come out tonight because her mom wont let her and she doesnt want to leave on bad terms, plus she was packing. thats understandable, she goes on to tell me shes going to bed so she can come see me early in the morning. well the next day rolls around and its past the time she said she would come over, im pretty annoyed but not surprised and turn my music on and my cell on vibrate. she calls as she is leaving to make the drive from norcal to az. she says " hey...i was hoping i could see you before i left but you proally hate me now since i didnt call you back like i said i was going to , and i didnt sleep over and i didnt see you yesterday, im really sorry...i really am. but this is hard for me too matthew, i overslept this morning and was packing and crying the whole time and now im on my way. i love you...i hope everything goes well for you...in life." help. Link to post Share on other sites
irisharmyracer Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 Sounds like all the feelings are still there, atleast there is minimal effort on her part. but this sounds more like closure. honestly i have done something similar and the reason was i thought seeing him one more time would be closure on a good note. in the end, driving away made it easier to not have to go through the good-byes or the 'where do we go from here' talk. and a text message instead of a phone call means your ex-girl is insecure about things. maybe this move is a geographical cure for her (not that it will work) but once you care about someone you never truly stop. dont hold your breath, but im sure she she will call you soon enough. you are whats familiar, so now its time to live for you. be there for her if you want your closure on a good note, never forgett the wonderful parts of your time togeather and start living your life!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Heavenseventeen Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 I think that she clearly has moved on. The two weeks in between was a chance for her to see whether she wanted you or not- I guess she didn't. Yes, she may have woken up late, but too late to make one phone call earlier? Nah... You should focus on moving on with your life from now on. Eventually you'll find someone else to be with. Link to post Share on other sites
Author clamchowderz Posted August 21, 2006 Author Share Posted August 21, 2006 let me explain the last two nights she was in town. she was to leave on friday. wed. she wanted to hang out and tried to contact me but i was at work until 10pm. i come home and talk to her online and ask her what shes doing tonight. she tells me its "project runway" night and shes going over to her friends house to hang out and watch the show. friends meaning 5 other girls. she said they would be drinking and that she would call me later that night. she didnt. and she apoligized for it the next day. i wasnt mad nor sad. i figured shes proally hanging out with her friends one last time, i wasnt going to ruin that for her. the next day of course the day before she is to leave to go back to school. she spends the day packing like crazy. i call her and she doesnt answer, twice. she had the option to sleep over but couldnt cause her mom. in other words i can understand why she didnt hang out, i can picture myself frantically trying to pack and get ready for a 14 hour drive. id be stressed like crazy. it was my fault for not hearing the phone, it was on vibrate. she called me as she was leaving. i love this girl and she loves me. i just cant handle the long distance. Link to post Share on other sites
Author clamchowderz Posted August 21, 2006 Author Share Posted August 21, 2006 this is the latest conversation we had on AIM tonight at 11:48pm me: ex: ex:(11:29:41 PM): you:-( me:): hey ex:(11:30:14 PM): you didnt answer:-( me: (11:30:21 PM): it was on vibrate ex: (11:30:26 PM): :-( me: (11:31:10 PM): yeah...:-( me: (11:31:21 PM): how was the drive? ex: (11:32:45 PM): bad me: (11:33:28 PM): why? what happend ex:(11:33:59 PM): my car died ex: (11:34:05 PM): 80 miles outside of phoenix ex: (11:34:12 PM): cost 335 to tow it there ex: (11:34:21 PM): couldnt get to tucson ex: (11:34:26 PM): until this afternoon ex: (11:34:32 PM): have no car, only a stupid uhaul ex:(11:34:52 PM): the car place called, my engine died it will cost about 800 to fix which isnt worth it so now i have no car ex: (11:34:58 PM): just ****ty me: (11:35:11 PM): omg me: (11:35:27 PM): wow me: (11:35:29 PM): are you ok? ex: (11:35:53 PM): yeah ex: (11:35:57 PM): it just sucked a lot ex: (11:36:05 PM): and i was like crying the whole time cause i didnt wanna leave home me: (11:36:33 PM): babe... me: (11:36:48 PM): can i do anything? ex:(11:37:34 PM): not really, no me: (11:38:19 PM): im sorry to hear that ex: (11:38:37 PM): yeah... me: (11:38:51 PM): so they towed your car to phoenix and you drove a uhaul down? me:(11:38:55 PM): wheres ur car now? ex: (11:38:56 PM): yup ex: (11:39:01 PM): my car is still in phoenix ex:(11:39:05 PM): at pepboys ex: (11:39:08 PM): or whatever me:(11:39:17 PM): liisamobile at pepboys in phoneix? ex:(11:39:21 PM): yeah i miss it ex:(11:39:25 PM): i want it here so bad ex: (11:39:28 PM): :-( me: (11:39:41 PM): how are you going to get to school? ex: (11:41:13 PM): ****ing shuttle me: (11:42:24 PM): hows the new apartment? ex:(11:42:30 PM): its pretty sweet ex:(11:42:36 PM): i got all my stuff set up and everything ex: (11:42:40 PM): i have a kitchen! ex: (11:42:43 PM): and my own bathroom! me: (11:43:27 PM): sweet ex: (11:43:32 PM): yeah ex: (11:44:13 PM): i g2g but i hope ill talk to you soon ex: (11:44:15 PM): i miss you me: (11:44:31 PM): miss u2 me: (11:44:32 PM): bye ex: (11:44:58 PM): byebye ex: signed off at 11:45:40 PM. Link to post Share on other sites
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