Oh My God

[JohnX]

I am 19, never had a real GF, and have never been on a real date. Actually, I had 3 GF's back in the 5th grade, but those sucked. (What can I say, I'm a loser). My expectations for girls has always been high. I only look at *Hot* girls (which is probably why I don't have any dates). I know it's picky, but that's just me. I think I could have gotten plenty of GF's in the past if it were not for my pickiness. Anyhow, I'm in college now, and up until the end of last semester, I start noticing this girl that waits outside her next class that I walk by to go to my next class. The first time I look at her, I think *Wow!*... we make about 1/2 sec of straight eye contact. This same eye contact continues for about 2 week every other day(I go Monday, Wednesday, and Friday) until the end of the semester. This new semester I was hoping to God or some other divine force that we would have at least 1 class together, but yesterday to my surprise... Gah!!! To no avail. Oh well. Anyways, as I'm standing outside the hall with the others waiting for the classroom to open(as there are lots of students walking through the hall too), I see her down the hallway. I'm like, Oh My God! This girl is sooo cute! She meets my expectations 900%! she is *HOT*

 

...totally the girl of my dreams! Now, I'm not talking about Hot like slutty hot...but this one is cute too! I

 

can't explain it. My words cannot convey my emotions.

 

Whenever I see her, or think about her, my chest gets tense. And she makes quality eye contact with me again as she spots one of her friends and starts talking! Maybe she's looking at me like "Ah, there's the guy I saw last semester".. or maybe she looks at me like she likes me! I don't know. She also appears as the conservative type that doesn't date too much, she looks quiet. I may be wrong. But God..her looks would classify her as above Angelic.

 

She looks like a very kind person. I've never felt this way, about anyone, or anything... This may be because I've never had a real date, our eye contact could be a

 

coincidence, and she could have a BF. Guh... I'm stuck in Limbo. What do I have to do?

[Tony T]

FIRST YOU WRITE: " "Ah, there's the guy I saw last semester".. or maybe she looks at me like she likes me! I don't know. She also appears as the conservative type that doesn't date too much, she looks quiet. I may be wrong. But God..her looks would classify her as above Angelic.

 

She looks like a very kind person. I've never felt this way, about anyone, or anything...

 

THEN YOU ASK: "What do I have to do?"

 

What do you do??? You write a book. If you can tell millions of guys around the world how you do this, you will make BILLIONS of dollars for yourself and all survivors right down through the ages.

 

In your post, you purport to know:

 

1. How a girl appears to be the "conservative type that doesn't date too much."

 

2. What a girl looks like when she likes you.

 

3. What a girl looks like who is "above Angelic."

 

4. What a girl looks like who is very kind.

 

If you will just let me know how you are able to figure those things out by looking at a gal, I will pay you for the information. Email me at <e-mail address removed> Let me know where to send you the check.

 

Now, you've never felt this way about anyone because you're very attracted to her physically (infatuation) and you've cooked up a lot of crap in your mind about the way she is...supposedly based on your astute and rather genius observations. Well, let me tell you, I've seen some luscious looking ladies who were the biggest bxtches in town...and they looked kind, conservative, loving, gentle, sweet, and all those things (all that stuff I cooked up in my own mind).

 

Anyway, stop putting things off and walk up to her, introduce yourself, and ask her if she can meet you for a snack at the student center when both of you are out of class. If you like her after spending a little time with her, then ask her to a lecture, play, etc. on campus, or to dinner and to a movie off campus.

 

If you still like her after that and go out with her a few more times, post back and let us know if you're observations proved correct.

 

I wish you luck. There is nothing in the world that would make me happier than for this lady to be the angel of your life!!!

 

Invite us to the wedding...if you are right.

[Laurynn]

I shouldn't be tough on ya, I know, I was 19 once too and I'd be lying if I said that a guy's looks didn't play an important part in whether I was attracted to him........but you've clearly admitted that you only look at "hot" girls, and that you've never had a girlfriend. Are you a "hot" guy?

 

As you grow up, you'll find that a person's looks don't have the least bit of bearing on the *important* qualities:

 

-are they a good honest person?

 

-will they treat you well? respect you?

 

-will they be faithful?

 

-do they treat others with respect?

 

-do they have a brain in their head or is it just looks and "fluff"?

 

-can you actually carry on an even semi-intelligent conversation with them?

 

Some of the hottest people in the world are the biggest dunces...and the ones with the biggest attitudes.

 

You make it sound like you're falling in love with this chick, based solely on the fact that she's hot/cute. Do you even have any idea what kind of a person she is on the outside?

 

Not everyone is blessed with supermodel looks....most aren't. But there are millions of average looking people out there who are worth their weight in gold. It's no wonder that so many young girls today end up with eating disorders and the self esteem of a mud flap......because they quickly learn that if they're not Jennifer Love Hewitt or whoever, guys aren't interested in them. It's really very sad.

 

As for what you can do about this hottie....muster up the courage and go up to her and talk to her...find a way to bump into her...forget to wear your watch that day then go up to her and ask if she knows what time it is, i dunno.

 

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[Laurynn]

I shouldn't be tough on ya, I know, I was 19 once too and I'd be lying if I said that a guy's looks didn't play an important part in whether I was attracted to him........but you've clearly admitted that you only look at "hot" girls, and that you've never had a girlfriend. Are you a "hot" guy? As you grow up, you'll find that a person's looks don't have the least bit of bearing on the *important* qualities: -are they a good honest person? -will they treat you well? respect you? -will they be faithful? -do they treat others with respect? -do they have a brain in their head or is it just looks and "fluff"? -can you actually carry on an even semi-intelligent conversation with them? Some of the hottest people in the world are the biggest dunces...and the ones with the biggest attitudes. You make it sound like you're falling in love with this chick, based solely on the fact that she's hot/cute. Do you even have any idea what kind of a person she is on the outside? Not everyone is blessed with supermodel looks....most aren't. But there are millions of average looking people out there who are worth their weight in gold. It's no wonder that so many young girls today end up with eating disorders and the self esteem of a mud flap......because they quickly learn that if they're not Jennifer Love Hewitt or whoever, guys aren't interested in them. It's really very sad. As for what you can do about this hottie....muster up the courage and go up to her and talk to her...find a way to bump into her...forget to wear your watch that day then go up to her and ask if she knows what time it is, i dunno. L

[Lola]

Tony's message was not only hilarious (I couldn't stop laughing), but very true. Talk to the girl, maybe she likes you, maybe she doesn't. But, at least you will know.