How do I get him back?

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My ex and I met while working at the same company abroad. He adored me from the first and always treated me with respect. In short, he was a perfect boyfriend. I, on the other hand, was hesitant b/c of a recent break-up that had been less than amicable. I was also unsure of the future of our relationship because 1) he had recently got divorced after a one-year marriage and b) he had said he never wanted kids.

 

We dated for eight months before we had to make a hard decision: I had been accepted to graduate school in the States. When I was first accepted, he wanted to come with me - but I said I wanted to go alone because it was "my thing" and that we would break up. But as the day of departure came closer, I realized how much I loved him and how I wanted to have a life with him. He, however, had made another decision during that time and accepted another job elsewhere. I was very upset and mentioned a couple of times how I wanted him to come with me (which I know is selfish on my part), or at the very least try and stay together for the two years of my program. He said no.

 

It's been three months and I've received only four e-mails from him. I can't help but feel I messed up my chances with him by selfishly saying I wanted to be independant and meet new people. Is it too late to salvage a relationship with him? Help.