Author hotgurl Posted August 22, 2006 Author Share Posted August 22, 2006 well my BF drives me crazy he takes an hour to pick out wine at the store. here is a typical conversation with us: Hon can you cut the trim for our bedroom. him: Sure I'll do it this weekend. a month later me: do you think you could cut the trim for our bedroom. him: Sure I'll do it this weekend, 2 months later me: I know your busy so do you think you could teach me how to use the saw so I could cut the trim? him: No I don't want you to use the saw. I do it this weekend. 2 months later no d@mn trim. grrr.... And don't get me started on daily chores. I doeverything except mow the lawn. He says he'll pitch in but never does. The problem is if a woman asks it's acutomatically nagging. But if one partner does everything resentments starts to build and then you start breaking out the taters a4a style. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 well my BF drives me crazy he takes an hour to pick out wine at the store. here is a typical conversation with us: Hon can you cut the trim for our bedroom. him: Sure I'll do it this weekend. a month later me: do you think you could cut the trim for our bedroom. him: Sure I'll do it this weekend, 2 months later me: I know your busy so do you think you could teach me how to use the saw so I could cut the trim? him: No I don't want you to use the saw. I do it this weekend. 2 months later no d@mn trim. grrr.... And don't get me started on daily chores. I doeverything except mow the lawn. He says he'll pitch in but never does. The problem is if a woman asks it's acutomatically nagging. But if one partner does everything resentments starts to build and then you start breaking out the taters a4a style. So live without the trim in your bedroom woman! Just deal with it. Shoe on the other foot example (won't work in my M but maybe in your R) Him: Honey I would love a blow job You: sure babe later tho..... following week Him: baby remember when you said you would blow me? You: sure babe, I meant to last week, but you know.... how bout this weekend? Him : (really looking forward to the bj) that would be great babe! 4 weeks later Him: you know it would be nice if you would blow me like you said you would..... over a month ago. You: well I have other things to do you know, and I just forgot about it. Him: why did you say you would and you didn't? I could just pay someone to do it but then you would get mad wouldn't you? :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 well my BF drives me crazy he takes an hour to pick out wine at the store. here is a typical conversation with us: Hon can you cut the trim for our bedroom. him: Sure I'll do it this weekend. a month later me: do you think you could cut the trim for our bedroom. him: Sure I'll do it this weekend, 2 months later me: I know your busy so do you think you could teach me how to use the saw so I could cut the trim? him: No I don't want you to use the saw. I do it this weekend. 2 months later no d@mn trim. grrr.... And don't get me started on daily chores. I doeverything except mow the lawn. He says he'll pitch in but never does. The problem is if a woman asks it's acutomatically nagging. But if one partner does everything resentments starts to build and then you start breaking out the taters a4a style. Sheesh this sounds like my hubby as well! Me: Hunny will you fix the towel rack in the kids bathroom? (said very nicely) Him: Sure 2 months later Me: Will you fix the towel rack in the kids bathroom (once again very nicely said) Him: Ok 8 months later Me: I thought you were gonna fix the towel rack in the kids bathroom? ( said nice but with a little aggrivation) Him: I'll get around to it. Just haven't had time. (right) 2 years later ( I kid you not) Me:Dammit fix the kids towel rack, its really simple!! (pissed off now) Him: Well if its so simple you fix it then!! Me:Gawd I asked you to do this 2 years ago now. whats the hold up? Him: Why you wanna nag me? I told you I would fix it. (What year?) Yeah it finally got fixed. 2 years later, after according to him, I nagged him. Yeah ok. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hotgurl Posted August 22, 2006 Author Share Posted August 22, 2006 So live without the trim in your bedroom woman! Just deal with it. Shoe on the other foot example (won't work in my M but maybe in your R) Him: Honey I would love a blow job You: sure babe later tho..... following week Him: baby remember when you said you would blow me? You: sure babe, I meant to last week, but you know.... how bout this weekend? Him : (really looking forward to the bj) that would be great babe! 4 weeks later Him: you know it would be nice if you would blow me like you said you would..... over a month ago. You: well I have other things to do you know, and I just forgot about it. Him: why did you say you would and you didn't? I could just pay someone to do it but then you would get mad wouldn't you? :lmao: LOL you mean I shouldn't blow him every time we have sex. That's what I'm doing wrong! That reminds me one time he was supposed to fix my car. (he was an auto mechanic) and never did so I took it to a mecahnic boy did he get pissed. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 LOL you mean I shouldn't blow him every time we have sex. That's what I'm doing wrong! That reminds me one time he was supposed to fix my car. (he was an auto mechanic) and never did so I took it to a mecahnic boy did he get pissed. that is how mine said he ran out of gas last night..... my dash bulb on my truck is out..... so you cannot see the gauges completely at night. I only drive it for farm errands so no huge ordeal during the day..... HA HA it happened to him.......he has been saying he will fix it for the last 6 months. but poo on my face he did buy me a new cd player for it.... I forgot about that..... after bitching and beating the old one with my fist for a year when it would regurgatate CDs he did do that.... shame on me....... of course I did jump for joy when he did it... I do not dare take a car to a mechanic without it being something that requires being up on a lift.....my truck tires on the beater look like bolgna... waiting for winter when I end up in a ditch with it...... Link to post Share on other sites
Asafan Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 All right, you guys are starting to make me feel guilty about not finshing the second bathroom. Still needs to be painted and the medicine cabinet put up. Maybe I'll do it this weekend..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author hotgurl Posted August 22, 2006 Author Share Posted August 22, 2006 All right, you guys are starting to make me feel guilty about not finshing the second bathroom. Still needs to be painted and the medicine cabinet put up. Maybe I'll do it this weekend..... HA HA . Do it or no blow jobs for you. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 All right, you guys are starting to make me feel guilty about not finshing the second bathroom. Still needs to be painted and the medicine cabinet put up. Maybe I'll do it this weekend..... do it! do it now!! why have you neglected this task? Link to post Share on other sites
Asafan Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 why have you neglected this task? On this one I have to plead laziness. And, I don't get blow jobs anyway Besides I'm too busy doing other important crap and my wife hates staying home on the weekends! Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 in regards to Hots mechanic post and my own. why do the menfolk get upset if we take the car to the mechanic to get fixed and not wait for them to do it for months? Bring in a maid or a gardner and I would be thrilled! pride, control, .........why........tell me why???!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author hotgurl Posted August 22, 2006 Author Share Posted August 22, 2006 in regards to Hots mechanic post and my own. why do the menfolk get upset if we take the car to the mechanic to get fixed and not wait for them to do it for months? Bring in a maid or a gardner and I would be thrilled! pride, control, .........why........tell me why???!!! ego pure ego. He was even more pissed off when I told him I took it because I was tired of waiting and getting lame a$$ excuses. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 ego pure ego. He was even more pissed off when I told him I took it because I was tired of waiting and getting lame a$$ excuses. Is this true men..... would any men here be pissed? why??? I wanna hear it from the horses mouth.... primal territorial thing? Link to post Share on other sites
superconductor Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 Naaahhh... wouldn't bother me in the least. Besides, fixing the car isn't like it used to be. There was a time when all you needed was a wrench, screwdriver and a few other odds & sods and a friend. Now you need a PhD in computer engineering... Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 ME: Where would you like to have lunch? HER: It doesn't matter, you decide. ME: How about ABC? HER: I'm not really in the mood for that. Well S_G, this is your fault. She gave you free reign to decide. You next response should be "Too bad, I'm in the mood for ABC and you wanted me to decide, so too bad" Link to post Share on other sites
stoopid_guy Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 Is this true men..... would any men here be pissed? why??? I wanna hear it from the horses mouth.... primal territorial thing? Not at all. I hate working on cars anyway. (Carpentry, I'd be pissed.) Wonder if she'd mind if I went to a pro to get my weenie serviced? Well S_G, this is your fault. She gave you free reign to decide. You next response should be "Too bad, I'm in the mood for ABC and you wanted me to decide, so too bad" Yup, I'm too "nice." Link to post Share on other sites
Asafan Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 Wonder if she'd mind if I went to a pro to get my weenie serviced? LMAO:lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
mental_traveller Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 Here is the perfect example of a man not listening to the "nagging" wife: 9:30 last night my H calls. "honey, I need you to do me a favor" (note he is in ass kissing mode) ME: Whats wrong? Him: I am over here on highway ___, can you bring the gas can here, its in the shop. ME: Yes..... give me a minute. I will be there shortly Ya see, the dumbass is driving my beater farm truck as his fuel pump died on his. So for the last 3 years I have told him that the gauge is either off or that is just the freaking way the truck is........you never ever let it go to the 1/8 of a tank line or you are dead ass outta gas. Now mind you we have driven in this truck together many times and I have "nagged": " we need gas because it is getting too low"....... him : there is a quarter tank Me: I don't care if you think it is enough I KNOW this truck. him: Why do you worry about stuff all the time? So for 3 years I have prevented us from running out of gas while driving this truck for errands and farm work......... for three years I have nagged to prevent me from having to walk to a gas station when we run out of gas in the middle of B.F. USA if in the truck together. This is why I am labeled a planner and a worrier? And a nag by most men? Because I am aware of things, know the outcome, and know the consquences of the action or non action and attempt to control them in a way that will serve both of us best? BTW I do not do it in a nasty screaming manner...... yet (many/some) men don't want to admit they are wrong even when the truck runs out of gas...... see told ya so nah nah nah nah nah...... The man would say: Well sure it ran out of gas because there are more hills on that road... and the tires need air..... if it was not for that I would have made it home I was going to punish my husband by pinning a note to him that he had to wear to work that said : MY NAME IS_______________ I ride bus #32 (the short one) And what may appear to be spontaneous is actually planned in many cases. So is it ego and pride that causes procrastination and the inability to make a decision/act in a timely manner? The problem here is that you've made it sound like a tedious and unpleasant chore. If he didn't listen the first time, chances are he will tune it out if you keep on asking. Instead, try being fun & encouraging, make a joke about it, offer to cook dinner or do xyz for him if he sorts it out, smile and tell him if he loves you he'll fill the tank etc. Nagging doesn't mean that what you are asking is wrong or stupid. It could make all the sense in the world. Nagging simply means that you have asked too many times. Believe me, once you have asked someone more than twice, they know full well that you want them to do it. Asking any more is completely counterproductive. Instead of asking for 3 years in a nagging way, you should have asked once in a positive & encouraging way. Ask in a way that will give him an incentive to act, not in a way that will make him want to turn a deaf ear or forget about it. Link to post Share on other sites
mental_traveller Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 well my BF drives me crazy he takes an hour to pick out wine at the store. here is a typical conversation with us: Hon can you cut the trim for our bedroom. him: Sure I'll do it this weekend. a month later me: do you think you could cut the trim for our bedroom. him: Sure I'll do it this weekend, 2 months later me: I know your busy so do you think you could teach me how to use the saw so I could cut the trim? him: No I don't want you to use the saw. I do it this weekend. 2 months later no d@mn trim. grrr.... And don't get me started on daily chores. I doeverything except mow the lawn. He says he'll pitch in but never does. The problem is if a woman asks it's acutomatically nagging. But if one partner does everything resentments starts to build and then you start breaking out the taters a4a style. Change your conversation to: You: Hon, how would you like me to run a bubble bath, give you a backrub, then slip out of this nightie and have my wicked way with you? Him: (goggle-eyed) yeah sure! You: ok - well as soon as you've done the trim in the bedroom, I'm all yours! (laugh & then leave) 20 minutes later You: hey, how did you finish so quick? Link to post Share on other sites
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