A mans pov on booby staring?

[a4a]

That's a REAL toughie, A. I can't answer that as you guys are set up differently than we are. I mean in our case, if one of us didn't agree then it just wouldn't happen. But seeing as to how you guys have your own accounts and it was agreed on before marriage, I assume then you're free to invest that money as you wish. He would have no leg to stand on as I assume he can spend his money as he wishes whether you're in agreement or not.

 

There's no right or wrong way here. Whatever works for each couple is great by me.

 

well I bought that property before I knew of his existance for this reason.

I could just sell it but I certainly would not make as much if I did.

 

and hell no he cannot spend his money how he wants...... :lmao: :p

 

Neither of us do that. We do pool our money for bills and household expenses. But we also maintain our sep. money......just he doesn't have any sep money at this point.

 

He took $20 bucks of mine today..... said he took it as he needed gas and payday is on thurs for him.....I don't care if he took the whole lot of money on the counter. I do not expect him to pay me back. Generally he pays the mort on this house, I pay the utilities, and unknown expenses, groceries, insurance, my own mort. truck payment.. and he puts any extra towards his debt.....but he has not been able to pay his bills on time since the job fiasco. So I am stuck with the lump of all of them.

 

So our money is not sep. really. But I will not blow a good investment or opp. just because he does not have the business and planning ahead capabilities that I do.

[burning 4 revenge]

This thread reminds me of a bad experience I had.

 

It was Valentine's Day 2002 and I was dating a stripper at the time. That's one thing I'll never do again.

 

Anyway, we were walking downtown West Palm and this car pulled up next to us and this group of Puerto Rican guys started whistling at her and flirting. I was even holding her hand I believe. They were talking to her and telling her to get in the car and go for a ride etc.

 

I remember one of the guys looked at me and asked if I had a problem. I shrugged my shoulders and said no, it was up to her what she wanted to do. I wasn't going to challenge those goons. They looked buff. No way.

 

So long story short we turned a corner at a busy intersection and lost them, but then she demanded that I take her home ASAP. The whole ride to her house she was complaining about how I did nothing to defend her honor. I don't believe those were her exact words ,but that's what it amounted to. And this girl was dressed like a major slut. Well, when I parked in her apartment complex she sucker punched me with all of her fury. She completely broke my nose and I had to drive myself to the hospital. I told the guard on duty by the receptionist desk what happened and he just laughed at me. Sometimes you never can win.

[a4a]

B4R got beat up by a girl :lmao:

[a4a]

Well the H actually stood up for me without me having to say a word

 

The H actually is collecting back pay that the Kitchen Chicken screwed him out of for over 3 months

 

The H actually brought home movies for us to watch without me asking

 

 

This is great.

[Becoming]

Hats off to the Husband Master! I presume you rewarded him heartily.

[a4a]

well becoming I thanked him repeatedly for standing up for me. He stops an A-hole from coming over to our home. His best friend was going to come for a visit and drag the guy who hit on me at our reception to our home this weekend.

 

H said to his best friend: not unless you want him stabbed with a fork! :lmao: Told him he was never allowed in our home nor are we willing to be in his presence. He actually toyed with the idea of confronting him I told him not to bother as his wife (a-holes) does not need any more stress in her life that the a-hole is the source of. Nor do we need the drama..... H would not have done this as he is above it but did bang it around his head.

 

He done did good! Handled it on his own with no needed input from me

 

I think he is starting to demand some respect/fairness from others and not avoiding confrontation the way he has in the last year. He has also become more aggressive in dealing with problems. The old him is back in that regard.

 

He even came home from work early for me yesterday..... unfortunately I was not here.... I did not know he was coming home early ...... I was stuck in the tropical storm rains driving.

[Becoming]

Wow, this IS major progress. I'm glad to hear things are working out well. You've handled a major marital crisis with your usual aplomb.

 

I suspect you'll travel this road again, but you'll know how to traverse it next time, and it'll get easier--without all the drama.

[a4a]

Wow, this IS major progress. I'm glad to hear things are working out well. You've handled a major marital crisis with your usual aplomb.

 

I suspect you'll travel this road again, but you'll know how to traverse it next time, and it'll get easier--without all the drama.

 

yes things are still improving. He actually even helped out with the training of his horse yesterday and did very well with it.

 

Most of the drama involved in this was created right here on LS..... my R with the H is far less dramatic than the bickering on here. :lmao:

[Roo]

Hey sorry I've been mia, starting up a business takes a HEAP of time I'm sure you are well aware..

 

sounds like things are going well I'm so happy for you.

 

And btw that new avi is just STUNNING is that one of yours?

[JackJack]

I wonder how come since things are better, she stated she was screwing her H's best friend?? What a jokester.

[a4a]

Hey sorry I've been mia, starting up a business takes a HEAP of time I'm sure you are well aware..

 

sounds like things are going well I'm so happy for you.

 

And btw that new avi is just STUNNING is that one of yours?

 

Things are much better. Even plans on attending an equestrian event with me this weekend, planned a trip to a wine festival for us, bought a ton of things on amazon together. And I am screwing his best friend to boot. House is being remodeled and I am stressed building a new one. But yes I put my foot down and damn if it did not work.

 

That is a pic of my own personal horse, his baby pic. He now is 16.3+ and towers over me.... I have to sit on him to comb his mane. He is the most wonderful horse I have ever had in my life...... brilliant and a real joker.... He helped me clean the water tanks yesterday..... grabbed a 100 gal tank with his teeth and dragged it across the pasture with me chasing after him...... that big jerk! Then of course after it was all clean and half filled stuck his leg in it with the muddy hoof...... also grabs the hose and sprays people...... friggin jerk.....

 

I am shopping for new toys for him today.... keep him busy.

 

You know people like me are willing to pay a good amount of money for portraits with their horses and pets.........

[a4a]

And so what if I pork his best friend...... if it works for us ....... it works. His friend is kinda a dick tho...... but at least he doesn't pester me unless we are doing it.

[Roo]

someday when I get privelages I'll send you a link I volunteered for the HORSE rescue of CT for quite some time and I have some really beautiful pictures of some of the rescues we worked with. ohhh Don't you worry I lOOOOVE animal portraits and I surely love an animal with a nice tude lol My "boyfriend" at the rescue was named Reggie and he was full of piss and vinegar he would kick at the gate and snort and chuff if I groomed another horse before him when I came to visit, jealous boy lol!!

 

Really your boy is QUITE stunning wow 16.3+ hands is a BIG horse!!

[JackJack]

And so what if I pork his best friend...... if it works for us ....... it works. His friend is kinda a dick tho...... but at least he doesn't pester me unless we are doing it.

 

 

Yes good for you, carry on.

[2sunny]

 

You know people like me are willing to pay a good amount of money for portraits with their horses and pets.........

 

Maybe people use those pictures for a coffee table book... :lmao:

[a4a]

someday when I get privelages I'll send you a link I volunteered for the HORSE rescue of CT for quite some time and I have some really beautiful pictures of some of the rescues we worked with. ohhh Don't you worry I lOOOOVE animal portraits and I surely love an animal with a nice tude lol My "boyfriend" at the rescue was named Reggie and he was full of piss and vinegar he would kick at the gate and snort and chuff if I groomed another horse before him when I came to visit, jealous boy lol!!

 

Really your boy is QUITE stunning wow 16.3+ hands is a BIG horse!!

 

Oh TY...... he is a beauty. He was headed for slaughter. A PMU foal. Percheron x TB.... cannot wait to start him over fences...... 2 more years and we will start. I think I have 16 horses here now...... but he and only one other meant so much to me in my life. I waited for 12 years to get another horse of my own. Out of hundreds I have cared for not one suited me. So I named him Godot....

(google it if you think it says Go Dot )

 

And he was 16.3 a little over a year ago and is only 3 so guessing he may have grown..... his ass is way taller than me at 5' 5'ish......

 

I am sitting here waiting for a phone call and fax........then I am heading out to spend the day with him...... that is my favorite way to pass time. And of course shopping for new toys for him too. He already has outfits to wear.

[a4a]

Maybe people use those pictures for a coffee table book... :lmao:

 

 

No that would be the: Big Coffee Table Book of Taters and The Women who love them.

[a4a]

No that would be the: Big Coffee Table Book of Taters and The Women who love them.

 

or for WWIU could do a Big Coffe Table Book of Shower Massage Heads and the Women that Love them...... picturing the photos now..... candles, perhaps a women sweetly embraces a shower massager in a tango among other couples on the dance floor...... the massager and a woman on a picnic in a field of lavendar....... of course a wedding photo of the couple as well.. in sepia tones.....

 

*call already you bastard....... I wanna go outside and play!

[2sunny]

you could sell your lesbian made soaps as an added feature with the book...

[a4a]

you could sell your lesbian made soaps as an added feature with the book...

 

 

Or I could sell the lesbians? Or a Photo book of lesbians with soap on them?

[catgirl1927]

Or a Photo book of lesbians with soap on them?

 

I would so buy that

[sumdude]

WOW, 27 pages and still going strong!

 

a4a from your posts you remind some of my wife in personality. Bright, straightforward, likes to take the reigns (with horses and otherwise). She's not very social but somehow attracts a lot of attention. She's quite umm... verbose? in conversation, opinionated and not afraid to speak her mind (with the double edged sword that is). She's also quite impatient though she doesn't see it that way wheras I'm in many ways the opposite. Introspective (she sees as indecisive), somewhat introverted, slightly bashful and generally easygoing.

 

 

(disclaimer : the following is purely conjecture and the poster will not be held responsible for his own opinions)

 

So anyyywayy your hubby might be having trouble adjusting right now. 3 years ago he was master of his own life, made all his own decisions, likely felt confident, met you got married and WHAM now what? He could be kinda feeling like "what does she need me for?" and no matter what you say to him he still might feel like a loser next to you. You have a strong personality and he may feel overshadowed and a bit lost.

 

In general psychobabble - a crisis of confidence and/or an identity crisis. I think it's pretty common after marriage "I was this person for the last x years when single so who am I now?" Also seems to happen in the mid-late 30s. He sounds kinda fatalistic right now "I have these great ideas but I doubt they'll work out so why bother." apathy, depression whatever you want to call it. He has to work it out on his own though a couple kicks in the butt could be helpful. Oh yeah and constantly telling him how great he is when he doesn't feel that way can be counterintuitive. His brain might think "you're just saying that to make me feel better" the proverbial sunshine through the rear portal.

 

OKAY I admit it! I'm projecting here! So stick a fork in me I'm done!

[a4a]

I would so buy that

 

 

*A4A starts to hunt up soapy lesbians for profit. *

[LakeGirl]

So apprently it is fine for other men to ogle my body at any time.

 

My H does not seem to care. This weekend while working on a project a rather cute young man was giving me the stare down... making suggestive flirty comments right in front of my H to me. I thwarted the comments in a nice way but firm. Got in the car with the H and he stated he was indeed well aware of all of it.

 

Stated it could be taken as a compliment and he was not worried about the other man making such comments to me or staring.......

 

wtf is this?

 

Like he said it is kinda like a compliment because he feels like "yeah stare all you want buddy......she is mine"

 

Funny thinking back I should have just flashed the guy my boobs and offered him a bj right in front of the H.......

 

For some reason I am flaming pissed that my H has zero reaction to this.....or he just figures I would not act or react on this young mans obvious advances?

 

This is common behavior for the H....... maybe he needs a little lesson? I should let things take off with the staring and commenting? His friends even offer to have sex with me without my obvious approval of their comments......the H does not give a rip...... nice...... real sweet......

 

I am again livid at this moment with him..... so mad........

 

I have asked my husband point blank - "what is the attraction" he says "it is nice to see a perky rack on a woman especially not with a bra".

 

We recently were on a getaway and while in the car I had a nice little tank top on (no bra) he was lov'n life. After we checked into the hotel we decided to run across the street and get some drinks, but I was gonna change first - he said no I like the way you look go like that. I told him I did not feel comfortable and did not want every Tom/Dick & Harry staring at me. He said it will be fine and for every guy you see staring, point him out and I'll pay the price and drink a shot. Well needless to say he woke up with a hell of a hang over. We talked about it alot that night, he loved that fact that I could demand the attention of a strange man and have them be in awe and he gets to take me home. He said he was lov'n it.

[carmaenforcer]

a4a, sorry if I repeat something someone might have already brought up because I didn't have the time to read through the entire thread.

 

Ok, so how many guys out there would have gotten in trouble for expressing their disapproval at the advances of a guy. I can see my woman getting pissed a the same thing you wish your husband would have done.

I'm supposed to be cool and not trip when some guy disrespects me by hitting or overly oggling my Wife in my face. I am kind of hot tempered Puerto Rican and I will beat an ass, no problem.

 

Damned if you do damned if you don't. This is why men become indifferent and just don't give a isht anymore.

 

Your man is a whimp because he doesn't react negetively to other guys looking at your rack, and if he did then that would get on your nervs as well probably. Maybe he is just secure in the fact that you are not a slut and that he doesn't have to worry about you getting a rise out of some young guy or that he doesn't have to worry about you ufcking his friends. little do he know though right. Poor bastard.