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The shadow of past betrayal


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2 months ago I was introduced to a man by a friend. I have to admit that I feel warm when he is around, and it seems that he is also attracted to me.

 

One night we were having dinner. A girl called and seemed to ask him what he was doing and with whom. He answered in a playful way and later told me it was his friend (a woman). He said this friend was making a joke, and said she was always like that. He said this friend even called him "Hubby" when seeing him walking with a girl on the street.

 

I didn't ask more questions. I have good male friends, but I would never joke with them in that way. I just felt that this woman is certainly very close or even intimate to him. She is married, but often talks with him about unsatisfaction with her marriage and wanting a divorce.

 

Last year I broke up with my almost 4 years boyfriend (now ex bf) after discovering his affair. The whole thing was painful.

 

I've been reading (including many posts here) and thinking a lot during and after the breakup, and thought I have pretty much got over it by now. I don't want the unpleasant experience in the past taint my current judgment, but I do feel confused about things like his friendship with this woman and the way she jokes around.

 

Thanks for reading. Any advice from you would be very much appreciated.

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I'd be very unconfortable and wary too.

 

Ask your bf to meet this female friend of his.

If he does not agree, or if she would rather not to, you might have something to worry about.

I think that once you see her in person while your bf is present, you'll get some kind of gut feelings about her.

Sometimes you can really tell when someone is just an innocuous friend. I do hope it's your case.

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