Anxiety ruining my relationship

[Nobel]

I have been engaged 7 months (no date set yet) and I have been fighting my anxiety, it is so aggrevaiting....

I mean for 3 weeks I am nervous wreck, I wake up sweating, not wanting to get out of bed, I have realized that wallowing just makes it worse and I am trying to push on with my life.

I love my fiance, but my anxiety is causing me so much trouble, I hate that it just springs up whenever, I am to blame...

There are times when I am having the time of my life with her, and I say to myself, I can't believe it was acting that before, I feel great, and wham the anxiety is back.

I know what most of you will say not to get married right now, and I agree, I told my fiance that if the wedding was tomorrow I would say yes and not have any reservations saying so.

I know deep down I can overcome this, but how long will it take, I don't want to lose her, I care about her deeply, but it isn't fair to her to have a whacked out husband.

My anxiety is almost non-existant when I am with my fiance, sometimes I get scared of being scared, but I want to erradicate it before we get married.

Does anyone have any advice for me, it would really be appreciated.

Thanks

[whichwayisup]

Please go talk to a therapist who specializes in dealing with people who suffer from anxiety and panic attacks. Cognitive Behaviour Therapy is what it's called.

 

You CAN overcome this, it's just you need that help so you can learn how to control the anxiety instead of it controlling and ruining you.

 

I see a therapist for my anxiety and I'm so much better now than I used to be. You may always have moments of anxiety, but you'll handle it better, not be freaked out by it. The attacks are scary, especially when you're alone and not feeling well.

 

Make sure the people in your life know about your anxiety! They can help you, even if it means someone coming with you to the grocery store or to the bank...It will help keep you calm.

 

Do yoga and deep breathing, keep a daily journal so you can get the anxious thoughts out of your head. Eat better, cut out sugar and caffiene, especially around PMS or when you're ovulating.

 

Hope this helps, keep posting.

[Nobel]

I really appreciate your response, I have been seeing an therapist, but I am the type that when the anxiety is gone, so is the therapist, when the anxiety comes back, so does the therapist.

I have told my parents, but sadly they don't really seem to understand what i am going through, they tell me to "be a man", "stop acting like that".

My fiance has been amazing throughout all of this, but I sense she is at the end of her rope, she wants me to be better and is frustrated that it doesn't seem to be coming to an end.

And that hurts me the most, I don't want this to end, we have so much more to do together.