BenThereDunThat Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 I realize, if you're in the hurting stage, it will be difficult to think anything negative, but there's gotta be some things! What were the annoying little things he did, or said, that you ignored because you thought you were in love with him? Or not even just annoying, things you thought, ew, I don't know if I could put up with that if he were mine. I realize part of the draw to the MM is the fact we never got to see them at their most annoying, i.e., REAL. But come on, there's gotta be SOME things! Just off the top of my head (I'm sure I'll think of more later): He once told me a story about when he worked at McDonald's, had worked there throughout HS, and when he quit to start college he was upset that no one said anything to him on his last day. Just as he was leaving, his friend looked at him, and without saying a word, freaking SALUTED him. And it almost made him cry. I remember thinking, I can't believe you just told me that. Another time, when he was traveling, he told me he picked up some sheet music for the piano. Oh, I said, I didn't know you had a piano. Well, no, it's a little keyboard that can sit on your lap. Not that there's anything wrong with owning a little keyboard-thingy (to me, he might as well have said it was an organ), but he was trying to be all Mr. Serious Piano Player. Lastly, he likes MUSICAL THEATER. I like all kinds of music but the one kind of music I can't stomach is musical theater songs. He would even sing some of these songs to me while standing in front of my desk! Oh yeah, and the song from Hee Haw, he used to walk around singing that too. "You met another and pblhh, you were gone." Oh yeah and another thing! lol Whenever we met out, the first thing he would say to me is "How's (insert my name)?" Um, how about saying How are YOU? OH YEAH (this gets easier and easier!), after our trysts, he would always say "Thank you." I nipped that one in the bud. OK, I feel better! And sorry if anyone likes any of the above, these are just my personal tastes. :bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
sarabobara Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 I didn't like the way after he was done taking a shower he would walk all over the bathroom to dry off, dripping water everywhere. Like, hello, that's what I have a BATHMAT for. I need to go in the bathroom after you and I would appreciate it if my socks didn't get soaked through. I'm sure I will think of more later. Link to post Share on other sites
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 hahaha... I like this thread. My MM would also say thank you after our time together. I've always felt a little insulted and confused by this. I'd always smile weakly, like I'm too tired to argue about this, but inside my head, I'd be going "WTF!!%#@" My MM is also the type who can't make a decision and will always pass any choices to me! He's always late. He's a problem/conflict avoider. The way that he "solves" a problem is by ignoring it, or pretend that it's not a problem. He can go from hot to cold in a nanosecond! He can be cold, callous, and uncaring. He likes expensive 'toys'. (He drives a Porche). *** These 'bad' qualities almost make my H seem the better man! Yikes! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted August 22, 2006 Share Posted August 22, 2006 One day my MM and I were in the heat of the moment, as he is about to climax he begins to moan out his wifes's name, I looked at him with such horror. He realized what he was about to say and quickly changes it to my name. You would think I would of left his sorry azz by then...but NO, I still continued to see him, because only he at the time would make me feel special and he always knew what to say to me to keep me coming back for more. Another thing is he stopped caring about his appearance. He would not shave as often, nor groom his fingernails and toenails as he used to at the beginning of our affair. Now that I think back to my life back then I don't really know what attracted to me to this guy. He was a real creep! Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 Why doesn't one of you post: *he's a liar *he's a cheat *he has no integrity *he has no spine *he is selfish and cruel 2 his loved ones. ...I know why, though. Because SO ARE YOU by having an affair with such a person. -ol' 2long Why is it that an OW is expected to just be miserable and sorrowful and pitiful that they can't even joke about something silly without people like you who have nothing better to do with their time than be critical? You're probably happy seeing them wallow rather than have a little comic relief! Go pound sand! Link to post Share on other sites
consternation Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 *rolls eyes at 2Long* Haha re thankyou.... mine used to say that at first kinda "thank you for seeing me'' ... one time i texted ''thanks for the sex'' and then he complained - said he thought ''it was a bit strange you said thank you'' (in uptight voice). He used to be in the army & is extremely anal re tidiness... one thing that majorly p*sses me off is when he would look at the expiry date on the milk before making a cup of tea. Helloooo, I'm hardly going to have off milk in the fridge when I have a child. He also has wanky motivational slogans on his phone - like ''prepare and you will win''. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 There are a few but with My mind, off the top of my head. Regardless of intent, ALWAYS VERY attentive with those so called Girlfriends of Mine I am [f}, ok courteous is one thing but downright, "YOu stay here, she will take me to my House. [oh to buy an itme for extra cash] nothing wrong w/that but to insist on it. I barely knew her myself! Ahem!!! Whether I buy, or I buy as soon as the goods are barely shared, insists on going home immediately. Does it for the past 2 months. Hmm, using me? Yeah. If I am sick, gets me up and adam. Take me home. Insists on having the real deal convo. Ahem. WTF? Makes a point to totally ignore me isf females are around, whether I know them or not, ....anywhere, anytime, nite or day. Only nice if and when they want something. After that, forget it. Goes out, to the other room. Never really asks to do anything, Money is tight but when we did suggest, or make a plan, he grabs the money comes back too later to do the event. Money is gone... Takes whatever he feels HE needs, likes. Gone. Truely if he asked, I would gladly give it, just because...But he never will, and not a day goes by that something is missing. Regardless of monetary value or lack. This is one of the Main reasons I broke up with him. From feeling vehicular madness to jeweled shoes! Besides the 'help yourself' he would literally be the perfect boyfriend to me. He's verrrrrrryyyyy loving,YES! He loves to make me laugh, we have the same sense of humor, well he trys to do the funny at me. He is handsome and direct, intelligent, kooky, and has the brightest and sweetest demeaner that match his eyes and lips! Yet he can be firm in his value but flexible. I love his love, really. I feel so bad that I have hurt him...I cried all day... Why can't he just be the non picketer? Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 I would do them a gross disservice if I said anything that would encourage them 2 continue leading a double life, or encourage their MM 2 continue 2 do so Cute. But s2pid. -ol' 2long What's s2pid is your 2s. And to make remarks like you did is not encouraging them to lead a double life or encouraging their MMs to do so as well. Its just nasty when they are trying to have a light moment. Link to post Share on other sites
consternation Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 LMAO movinon. The 2's are kind of weird. There's probably someone posting somewhere else in the world right now.... what do you dislike about your husband? ... ' "well, he does these stupid 2's... sorry s2upid..." Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 LMAO movinon. The 2's are kind of weird. There's probably someone posting somewhere else in the world right now.... what do you dislike about your husband? ... ' "well, he does these stupid 2's... sorry s2upid..." Now THAT'S funny! lol! And right on target with the thread! Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 Huh?? Of course I'm not encouraging them 2 do those things. That's what I said. Allright, I realize I should have said discouraging them. whatever. You know what I meant. Your remarks would not discourage them in this particular thread! Harsh, yes. Nasty? Affairs are nasty. Lying is nasty. But we're not talking about that! Has nothing to do with the post, so why bother? Light moment? After d-day and a little over 4 years ago, my W found out that the FOM's W discovered emails between her H and my W on his computer when he was out of town. He ac2ally had 2 call her 2 have something forwarded from his computer so that he could give it 2 my W (work-related document, he was a consultant for my W), and she found the sexually-explicit emails in the process. She reformatted his hard drives, so that he lost over a year's worth of work he'd done for my W's company. My W heard about this at work, and told a female friend there about it. The friend laughed at the whole thing. And though it was pretty tempting, I did not laugh at the story. I held and consoled my W when she realized what damage she'd done 2 his and our family by getting involved with him at an inappropriate level. Sometimes, after that incident and when I've felt vindictive, I've thought that was funny in some ways, but even in his case I don't wish that kind of pain on anyone. But it was the si2ation, and his willing participation in it, that brought that on him. I'm sorry if I can't seem 2 find humor in the destruction of families that affairs cause. I went back and read some of your posts so I saw where you are coming from and I completely understand. Again, has nothing to do with this thread. You had a terrible experience. I empathize! But everything is not cut and dry/black and white. And again, I don't think thread is directed towards you and your situation. But: "Love is really deep, whereas sex is just a matter of inches." -Woody Allen. Now, THAT's funny. -ol' 2long I couldn't agree more! Link to post Share on other sites
saf Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 I don't like him to go to wifey period I don't want him around more than he is but don't want him with her either. Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 Peace, then. -ol' 2long Peace 2 you 2! Link to post Share on other sites
BUTAFLY Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 The first thing I didn't like was that he didn't open the car door for me. (I know its small but speaks volumes to me) The second thing that weirded me out was he pee'd with the door open. I'm sure theres more but thats what comes to mind Link to post Share on other sites
consternation Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 Saf, are you a real person? If so, how old are you? Link to post Share on other sites
Marielle Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 THIS IS A THREAD!!! I ts not only about us complaining and wining (I do that all the time, even in my head) but these kind of subjects are specific and funny at the same time...it release the tension (sorry my english is not my first language) Mine has too many little annoying things: 1-like Butafly's he wont open the car door for me (at the beggining I was shocked, now got used to it. 2- When dropping me home he wouldn t wait until I get in, he would leave right away!!!!!! (rushed????) Even a taxi would wait for me to get in!!!! 3-Sometimes instead of saying I love you he would do this stupid movie quote (I think from Dumb and dumber- Jim Carey) I luv u luv u luv u, rolling his tongue in a very goofy way, gross, not funny. 4-when he drinks tea, he makes this noise (shlurrrrp) my mother noticed, I m sooo blind in love that I wouldn t see it, lol 5-He doesn t talk about his past, speacially girlfriends, which is fine, but then he likes to tell me all these stories about how he was a trouble maker, bad boy, kinda gansta (wich is very exagerated cause Iknow he s a coward momma's boy) 6- He's a mommas boy: nobody is perfect like his mom, nobody cooks like her, etc...(those are the only moments I feel blessed not to be the wife, poor her) 7- He s extremely jealous about my past!!!!!!!!! HELLO, you have a PRESENT. 8- WHen we are having sex (which I mostly like, I mean I m crazy about it) I hate when he's about to come he s like : come , baby, come!!!(like if it was that easy, lollllll more will come, babey Link to post Share on other sites
Author BenThereDunThat Posted August 23, 2006 Author Share Posted August 23, 2006 LMAO movinon. The 2's are kind of weird. There's probably someone posting somewhere else in the world right now.... what do you dislike about your husband? ... ' "well, he does these stupid 2's... sorry s2upid..." OK, this, along with WA's comments literally made me laugh out loud! Link to post Share on other sites
Author BenThereDunThat Posted August 23, 2006 Author Share Posted August 23, 2006 hahaha... I like this thread. My MM would also say thank you after our time together. I've always felt a little insulted and confused by this. I'd always smile weakly, like I'm too tired to argue about this, but inside my head, I'd be going "WTF!!%#@" LMAO, YES! I'd be like, thank you? WTF are you thanking me for??? And he would be all sincere and quiet-like when he said it. Like that was supposed to 'melt' me. I finally said, look, this is a mutual thing, don't say 'thank you' again. He sent me one of those 'embarrassed' smiley face things when I told him that. Sorry. Um, yeah, just knock it off. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BenThereDunThat Posted August 23, 2006 Author Share Posted August 23, 2006 The first thing I didn't like was that he didn't open the car door for me. (I know its small but speaks volumes to me) The second thing that weirded me out was he pee'd with the door open. I'm sure theres more but thats what comes to mind That reminded me of another thing. I was always raised that a man walked on the traffic side of the sidewalk. MM never did that. I always kept that in the back of my mind. Chauvinistic (sp?), maybe. But still, it bothered me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BenThereDunThat Posted August 23, 2006 Author Share Posted August 23, 2006 OK, this, along with WA's comments literally made me laugh out loud! Meant to say MO's comments....wouldn't let me edit.... Link to post Share on other sites
movinon05 Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 Without getting into all the traits he had which are indicative of a MM in an affair that bugged the shyt out of me (including the "thank you" crap) - which could be a thread all its own as to why they do that - I'll just say I couldn't stand when he wore a t-shirt and old plaid shorts (a throwback to the 50s or 60s I think) and with his work boots and long socks usually at work or at the ball fields after work! He looked like such a nerd. Weird because he always dressed well otherwise! Go figure! Link to post Share on other sites
Author BenThereDunThat Posted August 23, 2006 Author Share Posted August 23, 2006 Without getting into all the traits he had which are indicative of a MM in an affair that bugged the shyt out of me (including the "thank you" crap) - which could be a thread all its own as to why they do that - I'll just say I couldn't stand when he wore a t-shirt and old plaid shorts (a throwback to the 50s or 60s I think) and with his work boots and long socks usually at work or at the ball fields after work! He looked like such a nerd. Weird because he always dressed well otherwise! Go figure! LMFAO!! Someone said that to help you get over him, you need to picture him at his worst moments, picture him as tiny and grey, etc. So, sorry if this is gross, I started thinking what it would be like if I had to do his laundry. You know, skid marks in the underwear and everything. That really helped me knock him off the pedestal I had foolishly put him on. Link to post Share on other sites
stillhere Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 Oh MO, too funny. My only problem was how he dressed sometimes. I had to put a stop to that. Including the long socks up to his knees (although under his pants, couldn't handle that)! I told him "oh honey, you gotta scrunch them things down, you just look silly!" He smiled and did as he was told. Oh, and one time he wanted me to wear a specific type of jeans. Said he would pay for them of course, so to appease him, i went searching. After finding this specific style, i called him up and told him "WTF is wrong with you, i wouldn't be caught dead in those things. I'd look like an old lady. I don't care how much i love you, never will i own a pair of those hideous grandma jeans!" Still not sure why he requested those, maybe so i wouldn't look as hot?! Otherwise, i think pretty much everything he does is adorable! Link to post Share on other sites
Author BenThereDunThat Posted August 23, 2006 Author Share Posted August 23, 2006 That cracked me up!!! Link to post Share on other sites
stillhere Posted August 23, 2006 Share Posted August 23, 2006 Thought of another. He is not touchy feely. That i can deal with to an extent, but we were together for about 10 months before i even got a hug! I know it's not me, he's been like this his whole life. I wouldn't mind some after sex cuddling though. He will give me a back rub after sex, but it's just not the same. Happy medium would be nice. Although i must say, he has never thanked me for a romp in the hay! I think that would iritate me. Link to post Share on other sites
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