soberminded Posted August 24, 2006 Share Posted August 24, 2006 Is there a such thing as co-dependent commitmentphobia? I think I'm one of them. Link to post Share on other sites
DeeBrod83 Posted August 24, 2006 Share Posted August 24, 2006 Um... further explaination needed.....! What exactly do you mean? Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted August 24, 2006 Share Posted August 24, 2006 And how can you think you're one of them if you're not even sure what it is? Link to post Share on other sites
HeartSprinkles Posted August 25, 2006 Share Posted August 25, 2006 Is there a such thing as co-dependent commitmentphobia? I think I'm one of them. Do you mean two people in a "relationship" (of sorts) who are both terrified of higher commitment? If this is what you mean then, yes it exists. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted August 25, 2006 Share Posted August 25, 2006 Is there a such thing as co-dependent commitmentphobia? I think I'm one of them. I'm pretty sure that you don't exist. Do you really need a label? And you realise that you can't have a label without a dependency, right? Actually, is it too late to change my mind? It's so crazy that it just might be true. Link to post Share on other sites
Author soberminded Posted August 26, 2006 Author Share Posted August 26, 2006 What I mean by co-dependent commitmentphobia is I'm scared of commitment but at the same time I'm scared of the idea of breaking up. It's like the thought of spending the rest of my life with my significant other is scary while at the same time the thought of living without her is scary. Link to post Share on other sites
Walk Posted August 26, 2006 Share Posted August 26, 2006 narcissist? j/k. Link to post Share on other sites
MissSenorita Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 Maybe instead of thinking in terms of "the rest of my life" which is really scary, try to break it up and see if you can picture her and you in major situations. Like, can you see yourself having children? Would you be terrified and elated to start a family, and if you can imagine a nurse holding out a little baby in a blanket to you, would you feel relieved that this woman is the mom and there to help you with the family? Or do you see someone else, and not her, as the mom. If your parents died in a car crash tomorrow, would you be able to depend on her to help you through it? Or is she undependable and uncaring? If you went flat broke into bankruptcy would she stay with you or bail for a wealthier guy? If she won the lottery would she dump you for "someone better" or is she content and in love with the man she has? I don't know if you are afraid of committment because you are afraid of being trapped and unable to escape years of abuse at a woman's hands. There are some women like that but most aren't. Hope that helps. Link to post Share on other sites
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