Darla Posted January 20, 2002 Share Posted January 20, 2002 I'm very new at using Internet Personals as a way to meet someone. I have an ad posted and while I have had a couple of men I was interested in respond to my ad (unfortunately they never went further than an exchange of a couple of emails), I have had several that have responded of which I'm just not attracted to their pictures. I have made attempts at dating men I haven't been physically attracted to and know that it just doesn't work for me. So my question is this: What is a nice way to tell someone that you are just not interested in/attracted to them? I feel that even if I don't want to have further exchanges with someone that has responded to my ad, that I want to reply back and acknowledge their email and then let them know it's not going to go any further. All suggestions are appreciated! Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted January 20, 2002 Share Posted January 20, 2002 Just say u already met someone, thanks for your email, sorry, etc... One thing though - pictures are nice, but until u see and talk to the person, u have no way in hell of knowing if u'r attracted. That's my opinion, b/c after getting to know someone, my attraction level to them changes, most of the time. Maybe yours doesn't... Good luck! I'm very new at using Internet Personals as a way to meet someone. I have an ad posted and while I have had a couple of men I was interested in respond to my ad (unfortunately they never went further than an exchange of a couple of emails), I have had several that have responded of which I'm just not attracted to their pictures. I have made attempts at dating men I haven't been physically attracted to and know that it just doesn't work for me. So my question is this: What is a nice way to tell someone that you are just not interested in/attracted to them? I feel that even if I don't want to have further exchanges with someone that has responded to my ad, that I want to reply back and acknowledge their email and then let them know it's not going to go any further. All suggestions are appreciated! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted January 20, 2002 Share Posted January 20, 2002 I think it's best to tell them you just aren't interested. Instead of coming right out and telling them you aren't attracted to them physically, tell them you just aren't interested in pursuing the potential match any further and thank them for their time. That's all you need to say. Then you are free to ignore any of their future mails. I agree with yes that it is very difficult to know just how the in person chemistry might work out, since a picture is very one-dimensional whereas when you meet in person you have a much better idea of how they look, you experience some of their personality and you go on from their to see if they're honest, sincere, etc. I personally feel it's best to stay away from Internet dating and romance. It's important to do all that in person because the mind tends to accept or reject things based on extremely insufficient data. Furthermore, there are tons of problems that can arise from online romance that I won't even get into here. If you use Internet dating, be sure to only consider those in your geographic area and meet the ones you're interested in within 30 days or don't pursue it any longer. It's a waste of time after that if they aren't willing to meet you in a public place. Link to post Share on other sites
Anthony Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 Well i have tried the personals thing quite afew times all i can say is that it doesnt work... My experience about 85% of the time women never respond back the rest 14% of the time the responce is from a porn site and 0.99999... % are psychos, people on the rebound or just get plain creepy after chatting with them for a while and the 0.0000...1% of "combatible" people on those things are by far too hard to find. Just to throw in a curve ball... you cant really tell by a photograph if you are atracted to someone or not. There are quite a few "atractive" individuals whom just dont photograph very well... and vise versa on ugly people... Besides i think you should grow a bit and try to go for the person beneath the exterior shell... it makes any relationship all that much more interesting and enjoyable. Besides the factor of you not being atracted to someone on the basis of their picture.. well all i can say is that maybe the "cute guys" are not attracted to you because of the "image" they get of your personality from your mails or then again they might just be so "good looking" that they have a million other women to deal with. I'm very new at using Internet Personals as a way to meet someone. I have an ad posted and while I have had a couple of men I was interested in respond to my ad (unfortunately they never went further than an exchange of a couple of emails), I have had several that have responded of which I'm just not attracted to their pictures. I have made attempts at dating men I haven't been physically attracted to and know that it just doesn't work for me. So my question is this: What is a nice way to tell someone that you are just not interested in/attracted to them? I feel that even if I don't want to have further exchanges with someone that has responded to my ad, that I want to reply back and acknowledge their email and then let them know it's not going to go any further. All suggestions are appreciated! Link to post Share on other sites
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