BS - What do you LOVE about your WS (hopefully former WS)

[silktricks]

So I got this idea from the OW forum, and the "What do you HATE about your MM". I thought it might be a good idea for us to think (and chat) about all of the things we really love about our spouses. It's so easy to get caught up in the pain of the bad stuff that happened, that maybe it's important to talk about all of the good things, too.

 

I personally love:

 

The way he looks when he's asleep, so totally peaceful and at ease with the world.

 

Theway he smiles at me, and the way he holds me in the middle of the night.

 

His body. It's not the same twenty-something body I he had when I fell in love with him, but it's aged well, like fine wine or good cheese.

 

The hair that covers him (he's a very hairy man)

 

His eyes and the way they crinkle when he smiles or squints into the sunlight.

 

His mind, the way it works, and the thought provoking discussions we have.

 

Looking at him and wondering at what is going on in his head.

 

The way he makes me feel when he strokes me in the night.

 

The fact that he regrets his past mistakes and has forgiven me for mine.

 

The way he holds our grandchildren, discusses weighty issues with our children, and talks to me with respect and love

 

I love him and everything he is. The things he has done that has hurt me has not diminished that love, but tempered it. Hopefully, the same is true for the things I have done that have hurt him.

[pinklace]

Mine was a WS, whom I threw out for cheating on me. Do I count?

 

What do I love about my wayward ex spouse?

 

He opened my eyes to what a cheating rat he was.

[Guest]

I love the way he looks, smells and feels. I love him but I cant forgive him, and some other woman (her?) will have all those things I loved. I will never forget him and will think of our time together with fondness.

[lover's rock]

Isn't this supposed to be a positive thread? Okay well here it goes:

 

I love:

 

...the way he looks in my eyes like he's seeing me for the first time again.

...how he takes the time to edge his hair every day.

...how much pride he takes in his appearance, from the soap he washes with to the cream he uses to get rid of the dark circles around his eyes.

 

...when he asks me to make him something special, or even something ordinary like peanut butter and jelly that he could do himself, but he wants me to make it because food tastes better when I make it for him.

 

...lotioning his back when he get out of the shower.

...when he raises my face to his for a kiss.

...how intuitive he is.

...how he constantly checks in on me.

...to watch him play with our children.

...when he picks up our smallest one in the middle of the night to lay her on his chest because he misses her.

...to watch him cut our son's hair.

...when he steps in when our kids get out of hand.

...when he wakes up like a sleepy bear and lays his head on my shoulder or my lap.

...when he reaches for my hand and plays with my fingertips.

...when he puts his arms around me and holds me until my fears subside.

...smoothing his mustache and his wayward eyebrow.

...how he defends me and stands guard for me against anyone and everyone.

...his determination to accomplish his dreams.

...his aspirations to be better for himself and his family.

 

I love him in everyway a woman can love a man...a wife can love a husband. Our love has deepened and grown with time. Our history is apart of us but does not define us because it and the people in it are the past. We are each other's present and future. We do everything together because we are best friends. Inspite of it all, we're not going anywhere. We are committed to each other.

[silktricks]

Yes, it was supposed to be a positive thread, but I didn't word the title very well. Thank-you.

[UnknowingOW]

Silk, the OW thread wasn't a negative one. It was basically stating what drives you nuts about your partner. Now, had they written what they loved about their MM would have brought on a lot of flaming from some posters.

 

As for what I loved about my WS...was the ability to open my eyes and not be afraid to take control of my life instead of living in the hell he placed me in.

 

I'm thankfully for every time he called me stupid because it made me push harder to become educated and make my own way in life.

[silktricks]

UKOW, I didn't think the OW thread was a negative one - I only referred to it because it inspired this one.

 

I'm sorry your ex was such a shyte.

[jonesgirly]

What I love about my WS?

 

ummm..........I'm trying to be positive here.

 

I guess I love that he represents the "physical being" of a person that I, for the first time in my life, truly loved without reservation.

 

That didn't really sound positive.

 

I guess having the experience of that feeling is comforting, and I feel that I could actually have it again (hopefully with a more open and honest person).