konfuzd Posted August 25, 2006 Share Posted August 25, 2006 Arghhhh... someone kick me, I feel like such a dummy right now!!! I went to see some live music at a local bar last night and ended up chatting with this incredibly attractive guy. He seriously had a smile that sent shivers down my spine. It was fantastic. He was there with his cousin and a friend of his. Before we met, I overheard his cousin urging him to "go talk to her, come on, I know you want to" and he said he was nervous and the whole bit, but at that point, I didn't know it was me they were talking about. Soon after, he got up the nerve to strike up a conversation. Since I knew he was a bit nervous, I made an extra effort to carry on the conversation, flirt a little, and try to make things more comfortable. At one point, the cousin made a point of letting me know that his cousin was single. I told him I thought he was really cool, and I was happy to know he was available. We had an absolutely awesome time, we were joking, laughing and it was completely comfortable. The night came to an end, and he shook my hand, said "I have to work early in the morning, so I'm taking off, it was really nice to meet you" With that, he turned and walked away... I sat there frozen, wanting to get a number or give him mine so we could meet up again, but I felt like I couldn't move. I just watched him walk away..... <sigh> Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted August 27, 2006 Share Posted August 27, 2006 Next time be brave and say :" Hey before you go lets exchange numbers " I do it all the time in cases where they are too shy or are not thinking that I would consider giving mine out... Now if they are not interested... your phone will remain silent. Lets hope we hear ring ring ! ( next time ) Also go back there some friday night and maybe you will spot him. Things come to those who go after what they want Link to post Share on other sites
TheSilentType Posted August 27, 2006 Share Posted August 27, 2006 I've had that happen too It's a horrible feeling because you will never see them again Link to post Share on other sites
Author konfuzd Posted August 27, 2006 Author Share Posted August 27, 2006 Thanks Mary3. I know there are a thousand things I could have and should have said. Trust me, I've ran them all through my head. That's the biggest reason I was so mad at myself. I guess at the time, I was kind of hoping for him to take the initiative and thought it might seem a bit desperate if I chased him down after he turned away, and I'm not sure if doing the business card thing in the bar is kind of tacky. In my experience, it's always been the guy who asks for the number or to se me again. The one saving grace here is that we are into the same music scene, and the venues around here are pretty small, so there is a good chance I will run into him again. Link to post Share on other sites
remedylane Posted September 1, 2006 Share Posted September 1, 2006 Thanks Mary3. I know there are a thousand things I could have and should have said. Trust me, I've ran them all through my head. That's the biggest reason I was so mad at myself. I guess at the time, I was kind of hoping for him to take the initiative and thought it might seem a bit desperate if I chased him down after he turned away, and I'm not sure if doing the business card thing in the bar is kind of tacky. In my experience, it's always been the guy who asks for the number or to se me again. The one saving grace here is that we are into the same music scene, and the venues around here are pretty small, so there is a good chance I will run into him again. I don't mean to sound rude or forceful, but I think you should take the initiative no matter what, even if the guy doesn't make the move. I as a guy, wish girls would make the move more often, rather than rely on the traditional guy makes the move approach. But hey it's up to you! Hope you find him again. Link to post Share on other sites
bella_girl Posted September 1, 2006 Share Posted September 1, 2006 dam sweetie - better luck next time eh! I've been in that situation... why didn't I give him my number... I don't know.. like you suddenly frozen. Hopefully you'll see him again. I've been thinking that I should be more forward about these things if I see a cute guy I should just dam well talk to them instead of getting all nervous and shy! It happens to all of us. Link to post Share on other sites
Author konfuzd Posted September 1, 2006 Author Share Posted September 1, 2006 I don't mean to sound rude or forceful, but I think you should take the initiative no matter what, even if the guy doesn't make the move. I as a guy, wish girls would make the move more often, rather than rely on the traditional guy makes the move approach. But hey it's up to you! Hope you find him again. Hey, thank you for the reply. It was not rude at all. I came on here ranting at myself, because I know I should have stepped up and made a move, I just buckled in the moment, and it was really dumb of me. We did talk about other bands that were playing over the next month or so, and there's one he said he was into, so I'm really hoping he will be there, and if I do see him, I will not let him get away again without asking for his number! Link to post Share on other sites
Lights Posted September 2, 2006 Share Posted September 2, 2006 We did talk about other bands that were playing over the next month or so, and there's one he said he was into, so I'm really hoping he will be there, and if I do see him, I will not let him get away again without asking for his number! Yeah, those kinds of things have happened to me in the past as well (not getting contact info in time). No need to beat yourself up over it though--anyone can make a mistake. Have fun! Link to post Share on other sites
Kittiecat Posted September 3, 2006 Share Posted September 3, 2006 I don't mean to sound rude or forceful, but I think you should take the initiative no matter what, even if the guy doesn't make the move. I as a guy, wish girls would make the move more often, rather than rely on the traditional guy makes the move approach. But hey it's up to you! Hope you find him again. If she was flirting with him and giving all the right signals, which is sounds like she was...why should she also have to come right out and make "the move?" Personally I like old school men who always make the first move. Link to post Share on other sites
Lights Posted September 3, 2006 Share Posted September 3, 2006 If she was flirting with him and giving all the right signals, which is sounds like she was...why should she also have to come right out and make "the move?" Personally I like old school men who always make the first move. Why might it have been in her interest to ask for his number? Because either one sees someone more than once or else one does not, barring a purely fortuitous future encounter. If he was flirting also and also gave all the right signals (which he may or may not have after things warmed up), someone using your logic could just as easily ask why he should have also had to have come out and made "the move". Either way, if no contact information is exchanged, people are either gone or are occasionally encountered by luck. However, your post and my response are hijacking this into into a tired old "gender roles" thread, so I will stop here. Let's just let Konfuzd enjoy some live music at bars. Link to post Share on other sites
superconductor Posted September 3, 2006 Share Posted September 3, 2006 If she was flirting with him and giving all the right signals, which is sounds like she was...why should she also have to come right out and make "the move?" Because life rewards action. Personally I like old school men who always make the first move. That's all very well and good, but, alas, we're now in the 21st century, and feminism has made it's mark. "Old school" men are the same ones "liberated" women complain about all the time... Link to post Share on other sites
Kittiecat Posted September 3, 2006 Share Posted September 3, 2006 Because life rewards action. Exactly. So the guy should have been a man and taken action! That's all very well and good, but, alas, we're now in the 21st century, and feminism has made it's mark. "Old school" men are the same ones "liberated" women complain about all the time... I agree. The blessing of making it in this world is also the curse of more responsibility. Link to post Share on other sites
Author konfuzd Posted September 3, 2006 Author Share Posted September 3, 2006 Until men have to suffer through bleeding out of their sexual organs for a week every month, just to prepare the body to endure the many joys of growing a human inside of their belly, and all the fun side effects of that, only to squeeze a watermelon sized object through a hole the size of a pea... they should really quit whining about how hard it is to make the first move. Maybe I don't want to pine after a guy who doesn't have the balls to ask for my number anyways!!! GRRRRR Sorry, just felt a need to get involved in the ultra-feministic twist this thread has taken! Link to post Share on other sites
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