Will she give me a 2nd chance?

[kryptoknight]

Me and my gf have been going out for 2 months. Everything seems to be fine during the first 3 weeks of dating and seems like we are heading into the right direction. There was a time that we talked about our future plans and kids. I would say that we moved too fast from the beginning. After a few weeks of dating, we had more than fair share of bitter arguements over stupid little things like, jealousy, insecurity, stupid questions that leads to mind games, flirting issues, etc.

 

Wh3enever we fight i often surrenders my pride and say sorry and make her feel better, but there are a few times that I just can't take it anymore and I just turn my back on her and left her mad at me. I often calls her back next day and ask her to go out and tried to make everything back to normal again. This happens like almost every other day like a roller coaster ride.

 

Lately she seems more stressed out and confused about us. She seems a little cold now and thats when I started to feel that theres sumtin is wrong and Im suspecting her feelings are fading away.

 

One day we had an arguement about why shes acting so cold to me on her sisters wedding day. I asked her why she acted like that to me and she told me that shes stressed out about school and the wedding. I asked her if theres more to that, and I mentioned that maybe she doesn't feel the same way like before and I also asked her if Im giving her so much stress. She said that shes confused right now. I asked her if she wants us to stay friends for now just to ease the stress and I asked her if thats what she realy wants. She nodded her head and said yes...Then I told her , its fine I respect ur decision even tho its hard for me to accept it. Now I don't know if Its wrong to give her that choice. I want to stay with her and work things out.

 

I didn't call her for 2 days after that, untill the 3rd day I missed her so bad and called her up. Her sister tal;ked to me and telling me that she realy likes me and right now shes confused and doesn't want to hold me down because of her studies. Shes not even starting the University yet, but just planning to start next month.

 

Now Im confused whether she still have feelings left for me and will give me a 2nd chance if I tried to start slowly again from the beginning. After not seeing her for 3 days, I asked her out on the 4rth day to go out and have a drink or dinner. She was at her friends house and she told me that she doesn't have much time to go out with me that night. I tried to convince her by asking her to go out with me for a few minutes and just talk. She then decided to go out with me for an hour. I just picked her up and I started the conversation like Im just an old friend that cares about her. I didn't talked about 2nd chances that I wanted, I just pretend that everything seems to be fine even tho I missed her soo bad. She didn't say much to me and th conversations doesn't seem to have the spark like before. Im the one who often ask questions, but there a few time she asked me what I've been doing in the last few days.

 

Now Im not sure if she will accept the 2nd chance with me if I start slowly again from the beginning ...Im also not sure how long do I have to wait before I ask her about giving me a 2nd chance to start a new? Should I wait for the signs before deciding if I should ask her for the 2nd chance?

 

I dont want to keep my hopes up even if her sister is tellin me to start slowly and give it another chance. I know that its her decision and if she made up her mind theres nuttin that I can do. I really liked her and our relationship moved too fast from the beginning up to the point that we are both worried if shes pregnant sometimes.

 

Should I ask her straight If she will give me a 2nd chance or should I just wait untill her feelings starts comming back from the beginning?

 

Thanks.

 

Darwin

[Ukwizard]

Hi Kryptoknight.

 

I ll be honest here. You`ve got two chances here for a second chance.

 

Slim, and none.

 

I think if you were given a second chance, then you would definitely need better communication between the both of you. Normally new couples don`t argue so early. They are in the `loved up` stage.

 

Your ex saying she`s confused, and stressed, are the same excuses I ve heard before with my ex, and my friends ex`s.

 

You need to really think if this is the girl you want, after all its only 2 months since you`ve been going out.

 

Normally the `honeymoon`, period for couples is usually 3 to 6 months before they get comfortable with each other, and the love dies down. This is the period when its make or break. Youve barely lasted 3 months.

 

Think again. Do you really want a second chance!?

[kryptoknight]

I really want to give it a 2nd try because I still trust her and the main reasons why our relationship turn like a roller coaster ride is because both of us seems to be a little insecure and the stupid little things that we often argue about just adds up. Also her older sister is a good friend of mine and she told me that she really liked me from the beginning and suggesting me to give her some space, think possitive, and don't give up my hopes yet.

 

Now Im not sure if her older sister, which is my good friend, is telling me the truth, just to try to make things work for both of us. I really value our friendship thats why Im willing to give my 100% in this relationship.

 

All I want to know if she wants to give me another chance and start slowly again....How can I tell if she's playing hard to get and making me wait?...Also, how can I tell if she still have feelings for me?

 

Thanks.

[BatteredByLove]

Think again. Do you rally want a second chance?

 

Yep, I so totally agree with Ukwizard, roller coaster ride up and down, every single day? You guys definitely need some time apart and take a step back and look at the relationship. My ex and I was sorta like this, we'd always fight, insecurites, flirting issues, etc. I do admit I love her like hell, but i KNEW that the relationship was going nowhere, and it was unhealthy, and that in order for us to grow up,*we were both very immature*, we needed some time apart. I myself evne told her I wanted her to date other people... well now she's with someone else now, and I guess I was hoping that she'd realized how good I treated her and all, because I really did. With her... I didnt even know the definition of pride and dignity... I did everything for her, but I guess it's just me dreaming.

 

I guess what I'm really trying to say is kryptoknight, take a step back and look at the relationship, think about it, maybe you knew that you btoh needed to kind of "grow up", be a little bit mature, before you go into the relationship, then again, that's what I think about of my relationship.

 

-BBL

[kryptoknight]

Thanks, I think both of us are being immature most of the times, specially her. I'll give it a little bit more time to stay friends with her. Its just hard being around her if I can't touch her or hug her like before,,, specially if im hanging out with her older sister which is my good friend.