stoopid_guy Posted August 26, 2006 Share Posted August 26, 2006 Talking today about another couple, and she said the man was PW (Pu$$y-whipped.) I didn't say anything, so she asked me if I thought I was PW. I answered "No, PW guys get pu$$y some times." She not speaking to me now... >>Evil grin, but feeling a little guilty too.<< (Background; Our marriage is on the rocks. A big part of it is that we haven't been intimate in many years.) Link to post Share on other sites
BenThereDunThat Posted August 26, 2006 Share Posted August 26, 2006 ....hmmm, I don't think that should have pissed her off so badly. Do you think she's feeling guilty because you haven't been intimate? Link to post Share on other sites
melodymatters Posted August 26, 2006 Share Posted August 26, 2006 Not to get too personal, but WHAT ?!? You haven't been intimate in YEARS ? Have you talked about why ? I'm a chick, but my biggest prob as i get older and date men in my age range ( mid 30's-mid 40's) is the fact that THEY have passed their sexual peak and I'm just hitting MINE ! Everyones different, but No sex for me, is a DEAL BREAKER ! Link to post Share on other sites
mess4u Posted August 26, 2006 Share Posted August 26, 2006 What happened to the intamacy ? Who stopped being interested. Do you ever talk about that. Your comment was harsh yes but it sounds like you both know its the truth. Try to find the root of your real problem. Without killing eachother with harsh statements and insults. My husband and I have this problem we spend to much time yelling over eachother instead of listening to what is really bothering the other person. As soon as your ego has been crushed your not interestead in what makes them feel better at the time. I hate this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author stoopid_guy Posted August 26, 2006 Author Share Posted August 26, 2006 Well, she's talking again, called me ********* as she went out for "retail therapy." We quit being intimate about ten years ago. She quit wanting it after a miscarriage. (We were trying way too hard for a few years to have a second child.) I quit trying, or even bringing up the subject, about two years after. It was just too sensitive a subject. She'd feel guilty for not being a "good wife" and start crying, and I'd feel guilty for making her feel that way. The truth is that now I've lost interest in her. I crave intimacy, but not with her. Link to post Share on other sites
melodymatters Posted August 26, 2006 Share Posted August 26, 2006 Sorry about all that, it sounds really difficult for everyone involved. I guess giving strangers advice is the point of this whole thing though, so here I go : Tell her how you feel ( don't be pw, lol) but kindly, you must have loved her very much to marry her, and have, or plan to have a child with her, so maybe you just both lost you way ???? I would INSIST on some sort of counseling and maybe you can get back that ol' spark, but if she isn't willing to even TRY, then I think you need to move on. Sorry.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author stoopid_guy Posted August 27, 2006 Author Share Posted August 27, 2006 Everything back to "normal." She slept in the guest bedroom last night, but this morning everything was back to where it's always been... Our daughter spent yesterday and last night with a friend, or I suspect it would have been "normal" sooner. I would INSIST on some sort of counseling and maybe you can get back that ol' spark, but if she isn't willing to even TRY, then I think you need to move on. Sorry.... I'm not going to "insist" on anything any more. But it is time to move on... Link to post Share on other sites
ilmw Posted August 27, 2006 Share Posted August 27, 2006 Sorry about all that, it sounds really difficult for everyone involved. I guess giving strangers advice is the point of this whole thing though, so here I go : Tell her how you feel ( don't be pw, lol) but kindly, you must have loved her very much to marry her, and have, or plan to have a child with her, so maybe you just both lost you way ???? I would INSIST on some sort of counseling and maybe you can get back that ol' spark, but if she isn't willing to even TRY, then I think you need to move on. Sorry.... SG... you both don't have to go to counselling... I went on my own after my DW refused to go to a second session... I just to sessions, I learned that I did infact have my own issues... that I had never knew I had... It was an eye opener for me... and realy helped me understand where I was coming from..... You can't change your DW... only yourself... and that in itself could save your relationship..... Also... many books have been recommended to me by others on LS... Light her fire is one I intend to get myself... (just google the title for more info)... Also the marriage builders..page has lots of info that can help as well as Divorce Busting (google again)..... If there is even a small shred of desire from you to save your relationship... there might be... because you are here?? Do everything you can... then if it don't work... at least you will know you gave it a fighting try...IMHO... take it or leave it.... Its up to you...right. All the best ilmw Link to post Share on other sites
ddw5195 Posted August 27, 2006 Share Posted August 27, 2006 that is to funny...... I read it and laughed. what is true is true and it just pissed her off. here is a suggestion. go to your wife and play around with her and asked her if she could teach you to be PW. but while she is teaching you make sure she uses th P whith the W. hahahahaha:lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
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