MissSenorita Posted August 27, 2006 Share Posted August 27, 2006 More of my scary family saga. Just hoping for some opinions on what other people would do in this situation. My dad left when I was very young, and as I've grown older my mom has taken it upon herself to interfere in my relationships, like telling guys I was seeing that I was too young and to stay away and date someone their own age, or try to turn me against them by saying that "he's gay" or he's a jerk who only wanted to take advantage and betray me and I need to focus on school. I just dropped out of school, and now for the last few months she has been telling me nonstop about the guys she has met on the internet and how they are a bunch of creeps, and even asked if I would look over her internet dating profile and make changes to it. Also making jokes about how a cat's penis has barbs and that is why the female cats scream so much, and telling me about this porno that she found on her computer and that she wants to date an 18 year old guy and would I be jealous, and sending me stupid emails about an older woman who is sitting in the car and can't stop staring at the muscles on the gas station clerk cleaning the car windows, and I'm like BARF!!!!! Holy jeez its its totally disgusting. I DON'T want to hear about it. But she keeps bringing it up like I'm her closest confidant and she's like 60. And my MOM. I don't know what to say. Its disgusting! Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 tell her, "Mom, you're being pendeja. I expect much better of you than this." seriously, though, it sounds like you've switched roles with her for some peculiar reason (and not by choice). Putting your foot down and telling her what's allowed and what's not might make an impression on her odd behavior, even if you feel you might be being disrespectful. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 Just because she's 60 doesn't mean she can't have a sex life. Maybe some input from you on how today's society views sex and talking about STDs with her so she's careful might help her see that its not a game or a joke all the time. She also needs to be careful of someone taking advantage of her financially. It can happen to anyone. And be honest - tell her that you are very uncomfortable talking with her like she's a friend and not a mom. You might even help find her some dating sites and/or websites like this one where she can communicate with others near her own age about this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MissSenorita Posted August 28, 2006 Author Share Posted August 28, 2006 The financial part is what I'm worried about because I know (as a gen Xer) that guys in high school aren't going to entertain a 60 yr old lady unless there is something in it for them financially... I think my dropping out of school caused something like an identity crisis for my mom because she told everyone about her two kids who were going to start a law practice together and sort of built her identity on that and now I've ruined it. But all I want is a DECENT, LOVING, TRADITIONAL family. Maybe she is trying to be a hippie free-lovin senior. That's great but I don't want to hear about it. She sounds like a lecherous old woman and its sickening. Is it too much to ask for a NORMAL family? She would never tolerate my grandpa starting a conversation about his testicles or impotence, so why am I expected to be the super-liberal daughter cheering mom on with her crappy relationship issues? Of all people, I don't want to hear about it. She can have whatever weird flings she wants, I just don't want to know. And I didn't even write about the worst of the stuff she's told me, its just too gross. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 But all I want is a DECENT, LOVING, TRADITIONAL family. Yeah, well I think the TV-perfect family you long for is the exception rather than the rule. We all would have liked one. I know nobody that had one. So you're not alone. That's great but I don't want to hear about it. So tell her. Is it too much to ask for a NORMAL family? Unfortunately, probably. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MissSenorita Posted August 28, 2006 Author Share Posted August 28, 2006 Ah your right. I'll have to keep watching The Jeffersons for some imaginary family entertainment. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 :D maybe you should tell her to ask Grandpa for advice, since he's open to discussing his privates in public. At least that'd keep her from revealing these things to you when it makes you uncomfortable ... as for the perfect family, it don't exist, simply because personalities are involved. I've pretty much surrounded myself with good friends, who have become my chosen family, and keep contact with blood relatives limited. Saves a lot of headache, IMHO Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 I just dropped out of school, and now for the last few months she has been telling me nonstop about the guys she has met on the internet and how they are a bunch of creeps... Maybe you should re-enroll, that way you won't have to hear about mom's sex life. Link to post Share on other sites
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