Moses Posted August 28, 2006 Share Posted August 28, 2006 I met my ex during a summer vacation in Russia, the romance was definetly there on her side, not so much on mine. I eventually returned to the UK and we continued communicating almost on a daily basis (e-mail, telephone, SMS). She seemed head over heels in love, and always stated it, I never admitted it because basically I think I wasn't that much in love. We met up again six months after our last encounter, I had decided to let my emotions of the moment decide. When we met I did not feel at all attracted to her and was very cold and not receptive, she of course noticed. I evented any excuse and parted ASAP to her shock. I later called and tried to explain that I had felt her distant and could not not relate to her in the way that she expected. She seemed to take it well and only apologised for the fact of not being able to provide me with what I wanted in a woman. In spite of this we continued to communicate (e-mails, telephone calls) for 1.5 years more. I eventually admitted to myself that I had fallen for this girl and she was the one (are all guys as stupid as I am?). Well I contacted her and said that I was travelling back Russia to meet her and of course betrayed my romantic intentions. She said that she would be more than glad to meet me but that we were only friends. I felt of course depressed so I called and asked if she was completley sure that that she only wanted to be friends? I explained that if she was sure, we would meet but I would not pressure her with admissions of my love, her reply was that she was open to hear everything, but that she was not sure exactly of what she wanted. My question are: -Should I go ahead with my romantic approach, saying that I am sorry and explaining how I have changed hoping that she will fall again for me. - or do I play it cool and be her friend first, give her time, and then bid my time before going for it. Though both might not work at the end, which approach would you put your chips on???????? Please give your two cents worth, they would be much appreciated!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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